27/12/2025
Boundary chat but make it shame free (because honestly some of the boundary chat this time of year bores me to tears and misses the mark wildly).
That said some of you by now might be feeling the need to address those uncomfortable feelings of appeasing those around you or the uncomfortable feelings of challenging those old roles.
And the latter can come with some unease and guilt or shame.
This type of rewiring takes time but here’s my top boundary practice that I do daily myself for you to steal…
Stop if anything feels uncomfortable at times but here’s goes:
1) Take note of how you are before you start. What it’s like to be you, your mind quality, emotional land space and body sense.
2) Begin at the top of your head or wherever feels available and possible and place your hands on the boundary of your own body - your skin.
3) Slowly work your way down across all areas of your body - noticing what it’s like to be you as you go.
4) Add the words ‘this is me, I am here’ as you go.
5) Above in your native tongue if not English.
6) All the time gently noticing what it’s like to be you - your mind quality, emotional landscape and any senses.
When you stop notice what it was like to remind yourself of your own boundaries.
Boundary work has to start bottom up. It is where we first learn about boundaries, through our senses and own body and our own nervous system.
Take time with this and feel free to comment on how that was.
Big love
Jo
