09/02/2026
What is addiction /adiksen?
Why does it often cause more problems, sickness for someone already not living well?
Why can't they the addicted person stop being so selfish and" harming us all".
Some very good u tube sites explains why some people get addicted and then long term problems.
It is not a moral failing of the person yes it is destructive to the person and others for sure. It harms the brain people don't self care properly and use money maybe "borrow?" steal that should be for daily life family goals etc but the adiksen needs to get "fed" and the drive for dopamine to feel good is very powerful.the actual brain is possibly already vulnerable and then personality development and family patterns may affect its development. This is not to say a person with addiction is just a victim.
So to prevent less addiction please see below.
Adiksen: alcohol, kava, marijuana,smoking ci******es, methamphetamine, gambling, po*******hy, social media, working all the time anything that has this huge dopamine reward and nothing else can... In short the actual brain itself changes with adiksen. It is not easily changed back but can recover with lots of therapy, support, GP maybe other physical health food vitamins etc with medical care work family help. It msy be that the family has some unhealthy patterns that need to addressed. This can be helpful to take some responsibility to the family member with the addiction it may not help but criticizing pressuring feeling continually disappointed in them doesn't fix it either. In short adiksen craves the good feeling called dopamine.
We humans like feeling good but this disease it is not a personal weakness. Yes it is highly destructive makes the user ill and families are destroyed also and sometimes communities ie money gets stolen or used for gambling drugs etc.. The hardest part is often the lack of remorse from the damage hurt of the person with addictions.
The person is hooked and see below the life issues that set them up to then get addicted as they need dopamine to feel good and often keep needing more.. The brain is wired for a dopamine fix and it then becomes habitual..
Withdrawal is often like torture. Hence why so many relapse.. not an excuse but any really good support care may help but it can take several times if relapsing in worst cases...
So some good reading:
"How an addicted brain works". You
Tube Yale Med May 24 2022.
The Addicted Brain Addiction Policy Forum. June 4 2019.
How Addiction Hijacks The Brain's Survival Circuits. U tube Dec 22 2024.
Understanding what is going on then ways to prevent family and loved ones getting this physical and mental and daily living destructive condition.
My understanding is there is a strong family ie heritage previous generations with addiction so hereditary about 60%.
Not the whole story..
Childhood issues; family poverty, neglect not being really seen or heard or naybe parented but differently to match a child maybe with less confidence etc but abuse, harm, beatings,hitting being hit seeing family member hit or beaten parent or child or pets or breaking up the house yelling abuse creates fear terror helplessness no safety.
When children do not and are not safe do not have food shelter care being seen and heard, played with listened to more prone to addiction. Parents, family talk, share, get to tune i to each child's needs special qualities etc then child less likely to get addicted as they feel safe, calm, trust. They are seen heard and feel secure. Those not secure They use the item be it gambling kava alcohol p**n etc to calm themselves and feel good. It makes sense as a human that to survive we can't stand feeling all alone or we don't matter or we feel useless etc or other children are more important ir nobody really gets them... Family losses ie parent dies maybe goes to RSE or new baby maybe has special needs so less time for a child with maybe more of a less confident self.
How to prevent children teens developing addiction as above.
Some good u tube sites
Are adolescents more vulnerable to drug addiction than adults National Institutes of Health NL Schramm-Sapyta 2009.
The New York Times
The 4 Traits that put kids at risk for addiction Maia Szalavitz Sept 29 2016
PMC-NIH Sept 18 2023
Personality subtypes in adolescents and adult children of alcoholics
Very good specific description of their patterns ie risk taking comfort with lying secrets add or adhd learning issues..
Very good description showing the traits. How to understand manage these would be a key to prevention for addiction.
