Narcissist Quotes NZ

19/11/2025

19/11/2025

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19/11/2025

**a narcissist's mindset in a nutshell:
that didn't happen, and if it did, it wasn't that bad, and if it was, it's not a big deal, and if it is, it's not my fault, and if it is, i didn't mean to do it, and if I did, you made me do it.**

And once that cycle begins, it spirals into an entire worldview where accountability feels like an attack, and any request for empathy becomes proof that *you’re* the unreasonable one.

They rewrite events to protect their self-image, smooth out their mistakes in their own memory, and turn your reactions into the real problem.

Their focus shifts constantly toward maintaining control—over the story, over the emotions in the room, over your perception of them.

Even genuine hurt you express becomes another opportunity for them to deny, minimize, or redirect.

In this mindset, preserving their ego matters more than truth, resolution, or connection.

19/11/2025

One of the most painful truths about narcissistic relationships is this: the person causing the harm rarely seeks help. They don’t self-reflect, they don’t question their behavior, and they don’t take responsibility.

Instead, the emotional damage falls on the person who tried, cared, and held everything together. Victims end up sitting in therapy trying to understand wounds they didn’t create.

If this is you, please remember: needing help doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re finally choosing yourself. Healing is your way out of a cycle they were never going to fix.

18/11/2025

Narcissists never tell the full story, but only the version that keeps them looking innocent. They hide what they did, the lies, the manipulation, the harm. But the moment you react, set a boundary, or finally defend yourself, that becomes their favorite part to talk about.

And they talk loudly, because it distracts people from the truth: your reaction didn’t come out of nowhere. It came from pain they caused and refused to take responsibility for.

If this is happening to you, remember: your reaction isn’t the problem. Their behavior is. And deep down, they know it.

18/11/2025

**It's not just the narcissist who hurts you.
It's the people who take their side. It's the people who look the other way.
It's the people who tell you to move on or get over it.
It's therapists not trained in personality disorders. It's victim blaming.**

Surviving narcissistic abuse is not just about enduring the manipulator—it’s about navigating a world that often refuses to see the truth. The betrayal from others cuts deep because it reinforces the isolation the narcissist already created. Friends who minimize your pain, family who dismiss your experience, even professionals who lack understanding—they all send the same message: your pain is invalid, your reality is wrong, and your feelings are inconvenient.

When people take the narcissist’s side, it’s not just ignorance—it’s reinforcement. They unknowingly empower the abuser, leaving you to question your memory, your instincts, and your worth. When they tell you to “move on,” it ignores the layers of trauma, manipulation, and psychological abuse you endured. Healing cannot be rushed or trivialized; it must be acknowledged.

Therapists untrained in personality disorders can do more harm than good. They may mislabel the abuse, misguide you, or fail to challenge the distorted patterns, leaving you feeling misunderstood and alone. Victim-blaming culture adds salt to the wound, convincing survivors that they are somehow responsible for the abuse they endured.

Narcissistic abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum—it thrives in silence, ignorance, and complicity. And the pain you feel isn’t only from the manipulator; it’s from a world that failed to recognize, validate, and protect you. Understanding that is the first step in reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your power.

15/11/2025

Their need to feel “above” you was never about your worth.
It was about their survival.

You were never too much, too emotional, or too hard to love.
You were simply too real for someone hiding behind a mask. 🌿

Keep shining in your truth. They can’t breathe in that light,
But you finally can. 💛

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15/11/2025

Narc: "I made one mistake". One???? Mistake???? I call bu****it. Over, and over, and over. It's not a mistake. It's a pattern. A pattern of abuse. Intentional cruelty.

15/11/2025