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Oxford Neurodiversity Education I’m a late-identified Autistic/PDA/ADHD adult, parenting 2 PDA teens.

As a former secondary school teacher I have a strong interest in educating others about neurodiversity.

Andy Spectrum Gaming is an incredible human. Please support him and this venture by sharing and/or donating if you can 😊
09/09/2025

Andy Spectrum Gaming is an incredible human.

Please support him and this venture by sharing and/or donating if you can 😊

ANDY'S SPECTRUM GAMING FUNDRAISER - MAY 2026

In May 2026, I’ll be taking on the Jurassic Coast Ultra - 100km of tough, hilly coastline. I have just started training for it, and will be doing 6 days a week of tough training for the 8 month lead up to be able to complete it whilst also being Type 1 Diabetic, adding another layer of difficulty to the challenge. Despite never running more than a half marathon before (21km), I am determined to do it.

I’m raising money for Spectrum Gaming, the charity I started and now work at full-time. When it first began, I was working all day in my regular job, then running Spectrum Gaming throughout the night. Any money I had spare went straight into keeping it alive and it was a lot of hard work, but I kept going because I knew how much it mattered. Spectrum Gaming has now grown into an awesome community for autistic young people and I am proud to be part of such an incredible team. But fundraising is essential in order for us to keep going.

Part of why I care so deeply is because of my own story. Growing up was incredibly hard, and later I went through autistic burnout, which is something no one deserves to go through. I am determined to do as much as I can to make sure autistic young people avoid the struggles I experienced, plus bring some joy into their lives, and this is the reason Spectrum Gaming started.

This ultra marathon is special to me because it is not just about running, but about stretching what feels possible. It mirrors our ambition in Spectrum gaming to create a world where autistic young people can fulfil their true potential. Our work is tough, relentless at times, but is fuelled by belief in creating meaningful change.

If you would like to you can donate here: https://www.justgiving.com/page/andy-ultra

09/09/2025

Harris Foundation CEO Sir Dan Moynihan said calls for absence awareness courses to be introduced for parents to learn impacts on children had 'real merit'.

A different party in power, a few name changes necessary, but pretty much the same story sadly.
07/09/2025

A different party in power, a few name changes necessary, but pretty much the same story sadly.

Now that Michael Gove is looking to put his mark on school attendance in much the same way he did for the curriculum when education secretary, I’m driven to share my thoughts about the intersection between the school curriculum, attendance policies, and behaviour management systems.

It’s long been apparent to many that the school curriculum is not fit for purpose, at either primary or secondary level. Whilst parents form WhatsApp groups to support each other in their attempts to understand their Year 2 child’s homework on fronted adverbials, teachers and teenagers alike are failing to see the relevance of much of the content of GCSE courses in terms of the skills they are likely to need in their lives beyond school.

Gove’s impact on the curriculum removed flexibility and interest and replaced it with rigidity, repetition and irrelevance. When this happened, teachers, unsurprisingly, found it more difficult than ever to engage students, and yet were under pressure to “deliver” greater content in a shorter space of time. As a teacher I’ve seen many pupils lose any intrinsic motivation they may once have had and find themselves unable to learn the huge amount of content required for success in exams. How do you help students learn ever more, less relevant material with less time to do it in?

In my opinion, you can’t. But you can create the illusion of learning if students are sat quietly listening to the teacher; if students enter the room in silence, sit in rows in predetermined seating plans, track the teacher with their eyes, and are removed if they call out or deviate from expectations. Cue the arrival of “behaviour tzar” Tom Bennett and a stream of others like him. We see an increase in popularity of behaviour strategies such as ‘whole body listening’, and SLANT (Sit up, Listen, Answer & Ask questions, Nod your head, Track the speaker), as well as blanket behaviour management policies applied across schools which previously had their own unique approaches and cultures. These include systems of rigid rewards and consequences with little scope for flexibility which erode intrinsic motivation further. A “no excuses” culture has been cultivated in many schools with significant numbers of students permanently excluded or internally isolated. In this way teachers can “get through” reams of content, and many students do learn this way. Schools can obtain good exam results through adopting these behaviour policies and by focusing teaching on exam technique. Students are told exactly what they need to do, and how to do it to achieve great results. One thing is certain, students and teachers are working extremely hard.

So, what’s the problem? Well, for many teachers and students alike this is, of course, simultaneously exhausting and mind numbingly boring and uninspiring. So what? Suck it up! Life’s not all fun and games! But for some children, it is physically impossible to learn this way and they simply can’t comply with these demands. They can’t ignore sensory needs, overcome attention differences, or deny their greater need for autonomy (that intrinsic motivation I talked about). What happens to these young people? Well, I’m afraid these children are the canaries in the mine. They are those most sensitive to toxic environments, and they simply cannot survive in mainstream schools as they are described above. If they continue to be exposed to this environment, their mental health will suffer. And so many are either excluded through their inability to adhere to the behaviour management systems, or they can no longer attend through mental ill health or burnout.

The curriculum is flawed. Schools can’t get children to engage with it, so they have no choice but to use behaviour management to punish and reward instead (extrinsic versus intrinsic motivation). When that fails, and children are too ill to attend, authorities shirk their responsibility to support families. Instead they hide behind draconian attendance policies, fine parents or threaten them with prosecution. If Michael Gove has his way, authorities will soon remove benefits from these families.

To summarise, I’ve borrowed a flawed and outdated descriptor of Autistic experience (as many of those canaries in the mine are Autistic) – The “Triad of Impairment” – that supposedly describes all the things that are “wrong” with Autistic people, and I modified it to outline all that’s wrong with the education system instead. Here’s my version: this is the Education System’s Triad of Impairment: Curriculum, Behaviour Management, and Attendance Policies.

04/09/2025

Hormones influence every woman’s mood, energy, and wellbeing, but for neurodivergent women, the impact can be profound and life-altering.

- Puberty can magnify emotional dysregulation
- Menopause may unravel long-built coping strategies
- Conditions like PCOS are more common in autistic women, adding painful cycles, irregular hormones, and heightened mood symptoms

Despite this, the interaction between hormones and neurodivergence remains largely invisible in medical and psychological research. Too many women are left without the understanding, support, or treatment they need.

Recognising and addressing these blind spots is absolutely essential in having a healthcare system that finally takes women’s neurodivergent health seriously. Read more over on our blog - https://bit.ly/AGNhormones

31/08/2025

Dear Bridget Phillipson,

As a Clinical Psychologist and parent, I'm deeply concerned by your recent comments about school attendance. You've fallen into a classic correlation-versus-causation error.

Children who miss the first week aren't absent because they "started badly" - they're likely facing underlying challenges that make school psychologically unsafe. When 1.6 million pupils are persistently absent, that's not a compliance problem - it's a design failure.

The real question isn't "How do we get children into classrooms?" but "Why are so many children unable to attend school?"

In my clinical practice, I regularly see:
• Children with neurodivergent profiles struggling with the school environment
• Pupils experiencing school-based anxiety so severe it manifests as physical symptoms
• Families forced into "elective" home education because schools can't meet their child's needs
• Children whose attendance difficulties stem from trauma responses

Fining struggling families adds pressure without addressing root causes.

Instead of focusing on compliance, let's ask:
- What makes school feel unsafe for so many children?
- How can we adapt environments to meet diverse needs?
- What support do families actually need?

Every child deserves education that supports both learning AND wellbeing. That sounds really hard for our education system, but it's exactly what our children deserve.

Dr. Natasha Holden
Clinical Psychologist & PDA Mum

31/08/2025

As we move into September and a new academic year, I am celebrating 24 years since I first started working in Education.

During these years I have learned SO much about neurodiversity from the incredible young people I have had the pleasure of working with.

To celebrate this special milestone, I have written the most important things I have learned during my time in education.

1: CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE WANT TO DO WELL BUT ONLY DO WELL WHEN THEY CAN. When we work in education we must always start with this mindset. If a child or young person is not achieving or able to meet their potential then it is up to us, as the adults to find ways to support, remove barriers, adjust the environment and help them reach their goals.

2: ALWAYS CONSIDER THE ICEBERG THEORY. What you “see” is a result of what you can’t. There is no point trying to support behaviour if you don’t identify, address and support the underlying triggers.

3: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN OVERREACTION. The way that someone reacts to a situation will always reflect how THEY feel about it. If you consider their response to any trigger as an “overreaction” you invalidate them and risk further damage and trauma.

4: ANXIETY HAS MANY GUISES: Many children and young people will mask or disguise their anxiety, or it may present as “anger,” “frustration,” “silliness” or avoidance.

5: EVERY LEARNER IS UNIQUE. Just because two students share the same diagnosis, it does not mean that they need the same approach or support. We need to treat all our learners as individuals.

6: PARENTS ARE THE EXPERTS IN THEIR CHILDREN: We MUST listen to them, communicate with them, learn from them and include them in any discussions, meetings and decisions about their children.

7: WE CAN LEARN FROM OUR LEARNERS. They are often the best teachers and have incredible knowledge about incredible things.

8: WHOLE CLASS, PUBLIC REWARD AND SANCTION SYSTEMS ARE DAMAGING AND DEMOTIVATING. Please don’t use them.

9: PRAISE AND POSITIVITY IS ALWAYS MORE EFFECTIVE THAN NEGATIVITY.

10. “CATCH THEM BEING GOOD!” Don’t wait for it to go wrong. Thank your learners for doing the things you want them to do which help their learning, rather than waiting and comment on the things which prevent it.

11. MENTAL HEALTH IS ALWAYS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENT. You cannot have the latter without the former.

12. IT’S OK TO MAKE MISTAKE IF YOU LEARN FROM THEM. Take time to reflect on your actions, language and reaction when things don’t go as planned.

13. CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE DO NOT NEED TO BE SAT AT A DESK OR EVEN IN A CLASSROOM FOR LEARNING TO HAPPEN. Think outside the walls of the classroom, and the National Curriculum!

14. COMPROMISE IS ESSENTIAL IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. That does not always mean meeting in the middle. Sometimes you have to give more than you take and that is OK.

15. JUST BECAUSE A CHILD LOOKS “FINE” IN SCHOOL OR COLLEGE IT DOESN’T MEAN THAT THEY ARE. If a parent tells you that their child is struggling, please listen to them and believe them so you can provide the correct support.

16. A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR IS ESSENTIAL FOR ANYONE WHO WORKS IN EDUCATION. Without one you are doomed.

17. TRUST AND CONNECTION TAKES WEEKS OR MONTHS TO BUILD BUT JUST MOMENTS TO BREAK. But are also the most important part of your job.

18. YOU SHOULD THANK YOUR STUDENTS AT THE END OF EVERY LESSON OR SESSION. Saying “thank you - that was a great lesson I really enjoyed it!” or “thank you for listening to me today, I know that wasn’t the easiest subject” or similar shows that you appreciate them - you are paid to be in that classroom, and they are not!

19. A QUIET WORD IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN A PUBLIC ONE. No one likes being embarrassed in front of their friends and peers.

20. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE ISN’T LOOKING DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY AREN’T LISTENING AND LEARNING. Sometimes looking out the window, doodling or listening to music can help with focus and concentration.

21. AS A TEACHER, EDUCATOR, LSA OR TA YOU SHOULD NEVER STOP LEARNING. And your learners are often your best teachers.

22. MOVEMENT BREAKS SHOULD BE OFFERED WHEN THEY ARE NEEDED NOT JUST AT SET TIMES. Watch your learners for signs of sensory discomfort or dysregulation and offer breaks then.

23. ROLE MODEL YOUR EMOTIONS AND HOW YOU MANAGE THEM. This will help your learners understand that anxiety is not a BAD emotion and there are ways to manage it.

24. JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE OLDER AND TALLER IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE YOU ARE WORKING WITH. Equality and reciprocity are key to building relationships, trust and mutual respect, the most important things you should always be working on and protecting.

Thank you to all the amazing children and young people I have had the pleasure and privilege of working with over the last 24 years for teaching me so much. 💙

01/08/2025

Are you looking for a mentor to support your child / young person over the summer break (and possibly beyond!)

Please contact me on Laura.kerbey@p-ast.uk as we have availability for in person mentoring in Surrey or online (UK wide.)

Our mentors are young neurodivergent adults who have experience working with children and teens who are autistic with a PDA / DA profile, are fully insured and use a child lead approach to build relationships and trust.

All mentors have had mentoring training, safeguarding training, PDA training and are fully insured.

Please email me for more information.

Laura x

If, like me, you respect the work of Laura Kerbey PAST - Positive Assessments Support and Training, then you might be in...
16/07/2025

If, like me, you respect the work of Laura Kerbey PAST - Positive Assessments Support and Training, then you might be interested in her latest venture with her brother and cousin.

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/128iDz9CQi7/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I don’t think there is anything more terrifying than knowing that someone you love doesn’t want to be alive anymore.

Last summer, I received a call from my GP practice asking me to call them urgently. When I did so, I was put through to a doctor who asked me to come to the surgery as quickly as I could to take my brother Chris to hospital. Chris had disclosed to his doctor that he wanted to die, and that he had planned a way to do it.

I was completely shocked and utterly heartbroken that my brother felt this way. Just ten days earlier Chris had supported me at a book launch and many of my friends commented on how well he looked and what a lovely, friendly guy he was. It became apparent that years of masking, addiction and undiagnosed ADHD had finally caught up with Chris.

The following days were a blur. My parents were devastated and at a loss at what to do. Although The Community Mental Health Team stepped in, I knew that their support would not be long term and that my brother needed more than they could offer. Despite my endless searches, I simply could not find anything that I felt was right” or relatable for him.

We pulled together as a family to support Chris and surrounded him with love and care.

When Chris began to feel better, we talked about working together to create an accessible and safe space for neurodivergent adults. Chris has worked in the music industry for a long time and had his own radio show for a number of years, so we decided to start a new radio show together called “The After Party.”

“The After Party” will combine talk of important matters related to neurodiversity, particularly the topics that impact late diagnosed adults. We will be inviting guests to share their experiences and of course playing some brilliant music too.

Chris now has his formal ADHD diagnosis and is training to be a qualified ADHD Coach. I am so proud of him and how he is sharing his experiences to help others.

You can never be too late to join The After Party, and no matter when you arrive, you will always be made to feel welcome.

Big shout out to Chris who is celebrating his 6 years sober milestone today!! 🎉

Click on the link below to be kept informed about details of the launch:

https://www.the-afterparty.org

30/06/2025
20/06/2025

We are aware of the changes to adult autism assessments in Oxfordshire.

🟣 Key findings
- Oxfordshire’s Adult Autism Diagnostic and Support Service (OAADSS), delivered by Autism at Kingwood, has stopped accepting new referrals due to the scale of its backlog.

- Exceptionally high demand, alongside static funding, has resulted in a waiting list of over 2,000 adults. At current rates, it could take until 2043 to complete all assessments.

- Increased public awareness of autism has led to more referrals—but without matching investment, services are stretched to capacity.

- Adults already on the list will still be seen, but new referrals are being directed to pursue NHS-funded private assessments via the “Right to Choose” (RTC) option through their GP.

- RTC means you may be able to access an autism assessment funded by the NHS—but please be mindful there is often still a wait, as demand is high nationally.

- Buckinghamshire, Oxfordshire and Berkshire West Integrated Care Board is aware of the situation and working with providers, but no new funding or additional support has yet been announced.

🟠 Our reflections
- Feelings of frustration, distress, or helplessness are valid. Waiting years to access something as vital as a diagnostic assessment is mentally and emotionally exhausting.

- Seeking an autism diagnosis is a deeply personal and empowering step. It supports access to workplace accommodations, mental health care, and greater self-understanding.

- This is not a personal failing—it’s the result of a system that hasn’t kept pace with need. The backlog affects thousands of neurodivergent adults across the region.

- Exploring the Right to Choose route is a proactive step, even if the process isn’t perfect. It may involve navigating shared-care agreements or finding the right provider—but it is a pathway forward.

- Collective advocacy is key. Change happens when we raise our voices—through community groups, engagement with MPs, and public conversations about the urgent need for properly funded services.

What can you do now?
✅ Stay on the current NHS waiting list—your place is preserved, and you will be seen in time.
✅ Speak to your GP about a Right to Choose referral for an NHS-funded private assessment (just be aware there may still be a wait).
✅ If considering a privately funded assessment, do your research—check that providers follow NICE guidelines and are CQC registered.
✅ Connect with peer-led or neuroaffirming support networks, including local autism groups, post-diagnostic services, and communities that offer guidance while you wait.

This is not where my own children went to school; it’s the neighbouring school a stone’s throw away. I found myself wond...
20/06/2025

This is not where my own children went to school; it’s the neighbouring school a stone’s throw away.

I found myself wondering how things might be different had they had this experience at primary.

And then I remembered that primary school wasn’t really where my own children struggled, but the jolt transition to secondary. A jolt that would’ve been even more jarring had they attended Tina Farr’a primary.

I wonder if any secondary schools are brave enough to make some age-appropriate changes in this direction?

Tina Farr has put play-based learning at the heart of lessons at her Oxford primary – with ‘phenomenal’ results

08/06/2025

🎉 Welcome to The Haven - A New Online Learning Space for Neurodivergent Learners! 🎉

We are absolutely thrilled to announce the launch of The Haven, a brand new online learning centre created with neurodivergent girls and non-binary young people (aged 13-17) at its heart! Created by Autistic Girls Network, you can be sure of a neuro-affirming, nurturing environment where young people can learn in a way that works for them.

At The Haven, we believe in celebrating the unique strengths and brilliance of every learner. We're building a supportive and understanding online community where you can feel truly seen, heard, and empowered to thrive.

Think of The Haven as more than just an online school – it's a haven for learning, growth, and connection. We're passionate about providing a neuro-affirming environment where you can learn in ways that work best for you, connect with like-minded peers, and develop a strong sense of self-identity.

We're so excited to embark on this journey with you! Keep an eye on this page for updates, insights into our unique approach, and ways to get involved.

Ready to explore The Haven? Visit our website to learn more: https://thehavenacademy.school/

We can't wait to welcome you to The Haven community! 💖✨

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