09/01/2020
“Grief can’t be fixed. It can be tended to and held, then eventually it becomes easier to breathe.” — Angela Morris.
You want us to be okay. We know this.
Believe me when I say, we want to be ok too, but pushing us to “feel better” isn’t how grief is tended to. That just signals us to burry our pain. You can’t fix grief, and you can’t silver-line your way around it; you have to breathe into every inch. We get to decide when and how much – not you. Even if it makes you uncomfortable. It’s a process. Our process.
So if you are grieving now dear one...when you have the capacity, take as deep a breath as you can. Whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, a job, an old way of life, or some other meaningful thing; know you are not alone. Even though grief feels like a lonely place at times. Some days are darker than other days. You don’t have to explain or compare. Keep tending to your heart, take breaks when you need to, find people that can be there to hold you as you fumble your way around. And for goodness sake quit letting society place unrealistic expectations on you to be ok. Sorry bright-siders but what works for you doesn’t always work for everyone.
So for those who desperately want to feel okay again... I hope you have support. I hope you can find your way out of the dark when you are ready. I hope the breaths become deeper. I hope this broken heart of yours will piece back together again. Because that’s how grief works. It’s a process.