06/05/2026
Seeing these memory pictures from 5 years ago reminded me of how my elder son, Kanha, used to have demands almost every other day:
“Mumma, please make pizza exactly like a restaurant…”
“Mumma, please make pasta…”
I have loved cooking since childhood, and I have always loved children. So how could my own children ask me for something and I not try to fulfil it?
Whatever they requested, I would try my best to make it for them with love.
But that was also the time when I was working day and night to lay the foundation of my healing and spiritual academy, **Soul Surgery System**.
At that time, my partner was running the house by borrowing money from relatives and using credit cards. The bills were increasing, and we were going through a horrible financial crisis.
He was not giving me his salary to run the household. He was taking all the financial decisions by himself, in his own way.
Over the years, I understood that there are three important money skills that many people do not naturally have, but everyone can learn with time:
How to earn money according to your family’s needs and desired lifestyle.
How to spend money wisely.
How to save money for a secure future.
But I never saw him spending time or effort to learn these skills seriously.
For almost 10 years, I had supported him and waited, hoping that one day he would give me and my children a safe financial future. But Instead of learning, improving, or taking responsibility...slowly, I noticed that in every situation, he had a logical-sounding excuse ready. Sometimes he blamed a person, sometimes a situation, and sometimes circumstances — but every excuse justified his financial failure.
And I used to believe him.
I used to feel deeply sorry for his pain.
Then one day I thought, “It’s okay. If he is unable to do it, I will do it.”
And I prepared myself to work harder.
My first aim in life became very clear:
I had to bring my family out of this financial crisis and give everyone a safe, respectful future — so that no relative could come and make me feel burdened by their favours.
I removed my attention from everything else and put my full focus on my work.
Day by day, the workload, mental pressure, and emotional pressure kept increasing.
I could no longer spend as much time in the kitchen as before.
I could not fulfil every food demand of my children, so I hired a cook so that no one would face any problem with food. I was the one paying the cook’s monthly salary.
But during that time, some people, along with my partner, took advantage of this situation and brainwashed my Kanha.
They told him,
“See, your mother does not love you. She does not even cook food for you.”
That poor child used to say,
“Mumma is busy with work.”
And then the next strong and logical-looking answer would come:
“Other mothers also go to work and still cook food. So why can’t your mother do it?”
Kanha had no answer to this.
And honestly, even I did not have the answer at that time.
It took me years to understand that I was dealing with toxic and narcissistic relationships, where emotional, mental, and psychological abuse slowly breaks down your nervous system.
Because of that, I used to feel tired very quickly.
In my limited time and energy, I usually had only two options: either do this or do that. After doing one task, I would feel exhausted and feel like sleeping.
And when I slept, the same people would say,
“See, your mother is so lazy.”
This is called **child alienation** — when a child is manipulated in such a way that his emotional bond with his mother or healthy parent is slowly broken.
Well, today I am free from those narcissistic relationships. My nervous system is almost relaxed now, and my healing and spiritual academy is almost ready to fly.
Now again, I have time to do multiple things, just like I used to do in my childhood and college days.
In a narcissistic family, either the mother can help the children thrive in their careers, or she can thrive in her own career. Both often become very difficult together because the environment keeps emotionally draining and manipulating everyone.
For a mother and children to thrive in their careers and live a peaceful, happy life, either they need to live with healthy family members who do not emotionally manipulate children — or they need to live independently, where no one is constantly poisoning the child’s mind. But living alone requires deep spiritual strength, emotional healing, and inner power.
Only then can a mother focus on her own growth and her children’s growth.
I value growth deeply, because stagnant water eventually starts smelling.
Because of the inner work I have done, I am again getting free time to fulfil my son’s wishes along with my work.
Kanha does not live with me now.
After the brainwashing, those toxic people started using him like a puppet to disturb me and Parth. Finally, I had to send him away from me, because under their influence, he was not able to understand my love & care. He started disrespecting me (Because behind my back, they used to poison his mind against me by saying very abusive things about me) & was giving importance & respect to those who were emotionally manipulating him.
For the first few years, I carried heavy grief because one of my deepest desires was to see both my children become respectful & super successful in life.
But with time, I understood that Kanha has a strong karmic lesson to learn with these people — a lesson that my love and care could not teach him.
And I cannot interfere with the laws of the universe.
Every soul comes here for its own growth.
Sometimes we fail in life because that failure becomes one step toward our long-term success.
With this deep understanding, my grief healed, and inner happiness returned.
Whatever disrespectful behaviour he showed toward me under their influence, I have forgiven him, because I know my child very well. That is not his true nature.
Please Note - Those who are pure-hearted but temporarily misguided can be forgiven and accepted back with love. But those whose hearts are filled with manipulation, cruelty, and evil intentions should be forgiven only for your own mental peace — while keeping them away from your life and physical space.
Forgiveness does not always mean giving someone access to your life again.
I am simply waiting for the day when my son understands the importance of healthy relationships and comes back to me.
Until then, I am busy with my work and fulfilling every little demand of my younger son, Parth.
And trust me, you have no idea what all he makes me prepare! 😂
Kanha used to ask for restaurant-style food — pizza, pasta, and all those things. Honestly, that was still easy.
But Parth?
Parth asks me to make different types of toffees and candies! 🍬🍭
Restaurant-style pizza was one thing…
But now I feel like I have been promoted from “Mumma Chef” to “Mumma Candy Factory.” 😂🍕➡️🍬
And let me tell you, making candies is not easy at all. One small mistake and either it becomes syrup, stone, or some mysterious scientific experiment. 😄🧪
But I love these sweet little difficulties, because I love my kids.
Thanks for reading.
