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Wellness Coach, MT, CLT. I help people heal emotional wounds and solve family relationship problems. Who the heck am I?! Freedom and joy come from within.

I am a Certified Massage Therapist and wellness practitioner by trade. I have over come some hardcore life challenges- like family illness, deaths, unhealthy relationships, addiction and loss of my home in a wildfire. I want to help you transform your life challenges into assets. I want to share my experience and how I transformed with you! My goal is to show people that anything is possible for them. The secret that I have learned is that when we transform our thoughts and feelings, our external world follows. Join me on an internal journey of transformation!

24/02/2026

Food for thought…

Our perspective doesn’t change what’s happening.
But it does change everything about how we live
through it.

Take it from an alcoholic who got sober, a girl who's lost her mom to cancer, and a year later lost her house in a wildfire. I've been through some hard times.

Life's challenges can become:
→ a story of collapse (“Everything is falling apart… I’m not strong enough”)
→ or a story of awakening and hope (“Things aren’t falling apart… they’re falling into place”).

One version drains us, shrinks us, keeps us small.
The other lifts us, expands us, reminds us we’re still learning , growing, and writing the ending.

We don’t get to control the plot twists.🌪️
But we do get to decide how we will tell ourselves the story about what has happened.

We decide whether this chapter crushes our soul…
or becomes the ultimate cone back—where we remember how resilient, how tender, how capable we actually are. 💪

So when life feels like it’s crumbling, pause and ask:
What if this isn’t the end of my story?
What if it’s the part where everything starts making sense?

If this resonated and you’d like a gentle way to reframe the hard chapters…
my free Realign Workbook is here for you.

✌️ 2 Guided Stress Relief Meditation + Simple Journaling Prompts to help you release what isn’t yours, clear mental clutter, and come back home to your own peace. 🧘‍♀️

Grab it here: mrs-hard.com/realign
(link in bio too)

Save this for when you need the reminder 💛

20/02/2026

You’re the one who holds space for everyone else… but who is holding it for you? 🤍

If you are craving some much-needed R&R to refill your energetic cup, Yoga Instructor Jodi Shields and Wellness Coach, Allesanda Tolomei-Hard have created a special event just for YOU.

On Saturday, March 7th, at , we’re hosting a 3-hour workshop that combines restorative yoga (beginner yogis welcome), breathwork, guided meditation, and inner alignment practices to help you move from "fight-or-flight" to "peace-and-calm."

You'll experience...

✨ Jodi’s Gentle Flow: Restorative yoga + breathwork to melt that "earrings-level" shoulder tension. 🧘‍♀️

You'll leave the mat feeling spacious and regulated—replacing effort with peace and calm.

✨ Inner Alignment Workshop led by Allesanda:
Guided energy-clearing meditation and reflective prompts with mindset tools to discern what's truly yours to carry (and what you can release with love).💕

Together we'll quiet intrusive thoughts and soften perfectionism and guilt around boundaries, all while reconnecting with your inner wisdom to build trust with yourself from the inside out.

No fluff.
No pressure to be perfect.
Just 3 magical hours to come home to yourself.

🎟 EARLY BIRD: $67 (Price goes up after 2/28!)
🧘‍♂️ NHY Members: $60
📍 Napa Hot Yoga | March 7th | 2:00-5:00 PM

Spots are intentionally limited to keep things intimate.

Click the link in my bio to grab yours before the early bird flies away! 🕊️

07/02/2026

I created something special
just for YOU! 💕

If you've felt like you're carrying everyone else's weight—your clients, your family, the endless to-do list—I want you to know:

I see you.

Annndd I've been right there too, wearing my shoulders as earrings while waiting for the shoe to drop. 🫣

That's why I created…
✨The Realign Workbook✨

This is a FREE workbook + 2 quick guided meditations and a few burnout-cycle-breaking journaling prompts.

These are the same tools I use daily to release negative energy and stress so I can realign with my more peaceful inner self. 🧘‍♀️

Because life can pull you in a hundred directions—leaving you stressed, overextended, and running on empty.

The Realign Workbook gives you a simple way to let go of what’s weighing you down and come back to your center.

And these tools are yours forever so you can come back to them when you need them.

✨Link in my bio

05/02/2026

I know things feel really crazy in the world right now.
And whether we realize it or not, that stress is landing in our bodies and nervous systems.

So if you're feeling the pull to do more—to fix, to control, to make sure everything turns out okay—you aren't crazy. It makes complete sense.

Gentle reminder:
You don't have to carry the weight of the whole world on your shoulders.

It is more than enough to focus on your own health—mind, body, and soul. When you do, everyone around you benefits.

It's not selfish.
It's deeply self-less. 💖

In chaotic times, it's easy to slip into go-mode—driven by that quiet belief that maybe if I do more, things will get better.

When big changes feel scary, our doing-ness ramps up even more. It's often an attempt to find control in what is, ultimately, uncontrollable—and it's usually fueled by fear.

During times like this, I often return to the Serenity Prayer, even though I'm not religious:

God (or whatever name feels true for you—Higher Power, Source, the Divine, the Universe), grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

The Serenity Prayer invites neutrality and acceptance—which are surprisingly empowering because they protect your peace.

When we lose touch with peace, we lose clarity—in our bodies, our intuition, our faith. Without that inner grounding, it can feel like everything depends on us making things go “right.” That creates a constant hum of responsibility that quietly drains our energy.

Our energy gets scattered when we pour it outside ourselves.

So how do we change how we feel on the inside when things don't feel very good?

✨We gently shift our focus.
✨We notice what is going well.
✨We lean into what feels good.
✨We make space for what brings joy, ease, and connection.

This isn't putting your head in the sand.

It's protecting your peace, your power, and your serenity—so you can show up grounded, loving, and clear when the world needs it most. 💕

18/01/2026

Years ago, I couldn’t have accepted a calm life—even if you dropped me in a tropical paradise.

I’d find the chaos I knew:
Someone to “fix”
Someone to save.
Because facing my own hurt felt too scary.
I would have rather stayed distracted.

The truth?
Their reactions weren’t the problem.
Mine was and I was blocking my own serenity by staying busy managing everyone else.

If you find yourself trying to fix people, places, or things so you can finally feel okay… I see you.
And you don’t have to.

✌️Peace comes when we stop controlling the uncontrollable… and start tending the tender parts of ourselves that we've been avoiding with gentleness.

It doesn't have to be a big event.
It can be as simple as sitting in meditation for a few minutes, writing a letter to your younger self (the one who first felt the ache), or just placing a hand on your heart and whispering, “I'm here for you now.”

Save this if it hits home.

You’re allowed messy, imperfect peace—today. ❤️

09/01/2026

For a long time I felt like I was always scanning the room—trying to gauge how others were doing.

How they were doing defined how I was doing.
(I'm a recovering people-pleaser for sure.)

If my father was doing well, I was doing well.

If my partner was struggling, I was struggling.

I thought this was empathetic, and in some ways it was, but in other ways it was co-dependent.

I didn't know how to have my own space, my own needs, wants, desires, and joy apart from someone else

Secretly it was because I needed to be needed so badly that I thought if I had my own needs, apart from them, they would think I didn't care (I would be selfish) or worse they would leave.

The truth is...
That kind of connection with others is so draining. It keeps us on high alert, in fight or flight, and puts the power of validation outside of ourselves.

Then you find yourself making decisions that aren't in alignment with what you really want which leads to resentment and anxiety.

If this resonates, see if you can pause and take a moment to re-center your energy.

Finding your center is easier when you become aware of your body and your breath.

Then consider,
💕What do you want?
💕What would bring you joy, regardless of what others might think.

And see if there's a small or big action you can take to fill your cup and live in your joy.

13/09/2025

You are smart. Capable. A problem-solver (at work and at home).

But lately you've been feeling a little scattered and overwhelmed—stretched too thin and pulled in many different directions.

If this resonates and you want an energetic pick-me-up, this workshop is for you! 💕

At the Inner Spark Workshop, you'll connect with your spiritual support team— 🧘‍♀️the unseen allies who help you feel clear, calm, and energetically restored (even when life is full).

You'll leave feeling supported and recharged with new resources to draw on—after meeting one of your spirit guides so you can nurture your inner spark 🎇 and maintain sustainable
creative energy✨

▶️ Link to sign up in my bio.

This Workshop is in San Francisco at the Salesforce Park 🏞️

Thursday, September 18th, from 6:00 to 7:00 p.m.

You don't have to be in cleantech or sustainability to join.

Address

94558

Website

https://mrs-hard.com/realign, https://www.libravitae.com/services-4, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hard-times-no

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