15/12/2025
So much of the pain, drama, and disconnection we experience in our relationships doesn’t come from what actually happened…
It comes from the stories we tell ourselves about what it meant.
And the hardest part?
Those stories can feel so real.
So convincing.
So justified.
But the truth is — we can never fully know what another person is navigating, feeling, carrying, or surviving beneath the surface of their life.
Our feelings are valid.
Our triggers are real.
Our emotions deserve to be felt and honoured.
But it’s not okay to project our stories onto another and act as if we know what it’s like to walk in their shoes.
When we do this, we don’t create truth.
We create separation.
We turn people into villains.
We turn ourselves into victims.
And we let the mind run the show while the heart slowly closes.
We always have a choice.
We can feed the story — replay it, embellish it, gather evidence, make someone wrong.
Or we can choose our peace.
Our sovereignty.
Our integrity.
Our capacity to stay open.
Imagine if more humans were willing to pause…
To get curious instead of defensive.
To ask instead of assume.
To open their mind and heart instead of hardening them.
How many relationships would be saved?
How much love would remain intact?
How much unnecessary suffering would dissolve?
It’s deeply sad how often we let stories, assumptions, and unspoken fears get in the way of love, connection, unity, and friendship.
Instead of having the conversation,
we cling to the illusion.
This is an invitation —
to soften the grip on your story.
to remember that your perspective is one perspective.
to choose compassion over righteousness.
and love over being right.
Because peace isn’t found in proving a point.
It’s found in choosing connection where the ego wants separation.
