Dakini Kali

Transformational Healing through Ta**ra

TA**RA: A PERSPECTIVE The first thing I would highlight, from where I’m coming from, is that Ta**ra is an irresistible calling to Truth, and is not, as many people imagine, a spiritual practice of s*xuality - it INCLUDES s*xuality - both the sacred & the profane (because Ta**ra leaves nothing out), & our s*xuality is a huge part of who we are; AND where we are most conditioned. Our s*xual energy is not merely confined to our genitalia. It encompasses so much more than penetrative s*x. The whole of existence is making love to itself, just so we can take the next breath. Because most of humanity has been deeply wounded / traumatised / re****ed in our s*xuality through religious dogma & social shaming, Ta***ic practices may initially focus on healing these wounds. So, the healing & maturing of our s*xuality/nervous systems is an important phase of self-discovery. Once more whole/free/responsible in our s*xuality, we can begin to explore advanced Ta**ra meditations & practices. An advanced lover of Truth begins to explore how our s*xuality is a GATEWAY to the sacred, the divine - to SOURCE, to Totality. As pure awareness embodied, humans are a mystical dualism of all that is - the manifest & the un-manifest, of form/matter & spirit. To experience this alchemical fusion consciously is to have a direct, embodied experience of our Truth. And direct experience is not a concept, it's not understood through mind. It is beyond mind, beyond words, beyond any limitation whatsoever. Only when we let go of mind control, of identification, & open to the unknown, can we experience infinite or**sm. Many never have an or**sm throughout their entire lives - particularly women - it’s simply not safe enough (or doesn’t feel safe enough) to really let go & surrender. Even men who ej*****te often don’t experience the heights & depths of or**sm - just an or**smic sneeze - a peak experience that lasts no more than a few seconds. Nonetheless, or**sm - no matter how quick - can be a brief experience of the divine - hence the ‘oh god’ expression when or**sming. The French call it ‘le petit mort’ or the little death - the death of the small self, dissolving into the greater self, into the cosmos, into totality. If that window of or**sm is extended, then the experience of merging with source can be prolonged. Hence the focus on s*x as meditation - & extending from peak/genital or**sm to full body or**sm, wave upon wave, into timelessness & infinite space. From some-body to no-body. From some-thing to no-thing. For me, a true calling to Ta**ra is a calling to Truth. For many today, it’s simply a way to becoming a better lover, or to experiencing more sensation, or to at least undoing some taboos around s*xuality - & there’s nothing wrong with that & it serves - but it is not deep Ta**ra. Ta**ra is Truth. Ta**ra includes everything: the dark, the light, the shadow. It’s not selective & it’s often a very challenging, difficult path as Tantrikas consciously embody everything - their deepest fears, their ugliest shadows, their erotica & s*xual fantasies (which are concepts of mind), their naked vulnerability, as well as their capacity for ecstasy (which many people can’t allow themselves to feel). In other words, you get it all - no spiritual bypassing, no sugar on s**t: as your capacity to feel deepens, you're able to be the space for the deepest despair & the most soaring bliss & everything in-between. It's the greatest show on earth 🙂 My question is, what’s your interest? If it’s Truth, it’s an endless calling, an infinite deepening into Truth that never ends. It isn’t a checklist or a reading list, or a certain number of retreats. And it cannot be understood - perhaps post rationalised in a limited way, but it is not It. If your calling is Truth, I recommend finding 1 or 2 invitations to Truth (teachers) & sticking with them for some time - through the liking & the not liking, through interest & boredom, through the pain & delight. So often we treat Truth like a smorgasbord of goodies to be tasted, while avoiding the depths. Only you can feel into who resonates with you & who doesn’t - beginning to trust your bodily inner compass is an important part of going inwards to find all the answers. You will never find Truth if you think somebody or something will give you The Answer. It's a process, organic, iterative, spinning in spirals, not linear, & it's all within you. Teachers & practices are resonant or discordant invitations to discovering your relative Truth & absolute Truth - only you can discover this within yourself. Some powerful teachers - living embodiments of Truth - can transmit this intelligence directly to your body if your body feels safe enough, & trusts enough, to receive it - again, follow your body (rather than the over protective ego mind). My gift is in supporting men & women who've been somewhat or severely traumatised - s*xually, emotionally, physically, mentally. I work particularly deeply with healing & maturing the nervous system (both within the person, but also within their entire ancestral lineage), in bringing wholeness to split duality, & to embodying the sacred union of masculine & feminine. I have worked through my own demons & angels, & discovered a clear channel within which to hold space for others. Ultimately, Ta**ra is the deepest dance of them all.