23/01/2026
The Hardest People to Love Are Often the Ones Who Need It Most
Being triggered is a gift — even though it rarely feels like one in the moment.
When someone’s behaviour or presence activates you, the real question isn’t
“What’s wrong with them?”
but rather:
“What inside of me can’t tolerate this?”
What are they reflecting back to me that I haven’t yet seen, owned, or accepted in myself?
This is the first gift of shadow work:
Taking responsibility for your own internal state.
The second gift comes next — the space to choose how you respond, instead of reacting from old patterns, wounds, or defences.
This process isn’t easy.
It takes honesty.
It takes humility.
It takes the courage to look at the parts of yourself you’d rather avoid.
But when it lands — when you truly see the part of you that you’ve been rejecting and recognise it in the other — something shifts.
Boom.
Compassion replaces judgement.
Love replaces resistance.
Understanding replaces separation.
What once triggered you becomes a teacher.
And the place you were fighting becomes the place you soften.
This is the work.
Not becoming “better” — but becoming more whole.
