Spectrum Centre

04/12/2025

What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), what causes it and can Autistic Adults have it?

What Is Borderline Personality Disorder and What Causes It?

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition that affects how a person experiences and regulates their emotions, their sense of self, and their relationships. People with BPD may experience intense emotions, fear of abandonment, rapidly shifting moods, chronic feelings of emptiness, and difficulties understanding who they are.

Core features of BPD include:

- Intense, rapidly shifting emotions
- Fear of abandonment (real or perceived)
- Unstable or very intense relationships
- Chronic feelings of emptiness
- Impulsive behaviours (e.g., overspending, bingeing, risky choices)
- Self-harm or thoughts of ending life in some cases
- Frequent changes or uncertainty about identity
- Periods of anger that feel hard to control
- Feeling “unreal” or disconnected during stress

What causes BPD?

Research shows that BPD can often develop from a combination of:

-Growing up in environments where a person’s feelings were misunderstood, dismissed, or inconsistent
- Trauma, neglect, or unstable caregiving in childhood
- Biological and genetic factors, including inherited traits like emotional sensitivity or a naturally intense emotional response

These factors can interact over time, making it harder for someone to regulate emotions, cope with stress, or maintain stable relationships.

Can autistic adults have BPD?

Yes, autistic adults can also develop BPD. Research shows that autistic adults may be more vulnerable to BPD traits if they experience long-term misunderstanding, invalidation, or chronic stress related to sensory and social challenges. Some features of autism and BPD can overlap, which can make understanding and diagnosis more complex.

BPD is influenced by both genetics (biological vulnerability) and environment, with neither factor being sufficient by itself.

If you or someone you support is navigating intense emotions, relationship difficulties, or questions about diagnosis, professional support can help bring clarity.

Our clinicians specialise in neurodiversity-affirming assessments, therapy, and support. Reach out if you’d like guidance or a safe space to explore these experiences.

👉 Click here to book an appointment: clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/spectrumcentre

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We specialise in Adult Autism diagnosis and long term therapy. The Diagnosis is conducted over 2 sessions by one of our Autism (Neurodiversity) Specialist Psychologists. The diagnosis process consists of a Clinical Interview based on the diagnostic criteria of ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder as specifi...

04/12/2025

Client wins are our favorite reason to celebrate! 💙

We specialise in Adult Autism diagnosis and long term therapy. The Diagnosis is conducted over 2 sessions by one of our Autism (Neurodiversity) Specialist Psychologists. The diagnosis process consists of a Clinical Interview based on the diagnostic criteria of ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder as specifi...

03/12/2025

3 signs your nervous system is in overload (and what helps)

1. Increased Stress Response

When the sympathetic nervous system is activated for too long, people may experience:

* Rapid heartbeat
* Shallow breathing
* Muscle tension
* Feeling “on edge,” easily irritated or easily startled

Immediate coping strategies:
Slow deep breathing, grounding techniques, predictable routines, reducing sensory load.

2. Cognitive Overload or Executive Function Breakdown

When the nervous system is overwhelmed, prefrontal cortex functioning decreases. This can look like:

* Difficulty concentrating
* Struggling to plan or organise
* Forgetfulness
* Feeling mentally “foggy” or “frozen”

Immediate coping strategies:
Task simplification, step-by-step structuring, external supports (timers, lists), reducing demands temporarily, taking more breaks.

3. Shutdown or Emotional Dysregulation

Prolonged overload can trigger either:

* Shutdown (withdrawal, reduced speech, fatigue, disconnection)
* Emotional dysregulation (irritability, overwhelm, tears, frustration)

Immediate coping strategies:
Quiet environments, sensory regulation, limit-setting, rest, predictable transitions.

Short-term coping strategies help in the moment, but without sustainable tools, burnout and other challenges are inevitable. We help autistic adults manage overwhelm, sensory load, and build lasting self-regulation skills.

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02/12/2025

**Why Do Some Narcissists Claim to Be Autistic?
And What’s the Actual Difference? **

This question comes up often, especially from autistic adults who’ve had relationships with partners showing narcissistic traits. It’s important to understand the differences, both clinically and personally.

1. Autism and Narcissism Are Not the Same

These are two completely different conditions.

Autism (ASD)
• Neurodevelopmental, present from early childhood
• Honest, direct communication style
• Difficulty with deception (social or intentional)
• Often strong emotional empathy but challenges reading social cues

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
• Personality disorder that develops over time
• Focus on self-image, admiration, and control
• Lack of emotional empathy
• Use of manipulation or deception in relationships

While someone with autism may struggle socially, they do not intentionally manipulate or deceive others in the way a person with NPD can.

2. So Why Do Narcissistic People Sometimes Claim They’re Autistic?

Sometimes, people with narcissistic traits may claim an autism diagnosis. Clinical observations suggest this can happen for a few reasons:

* To explain or contextualize behaviours – Using the label can sometimes make others more understanding of behaviours that are actually related to personality or coping strategies.

* To gain sympathy or appear “different” – Some individuals may present themselves in ways that attract attention or leniency.

* To mirror a partner – People with narcissistic traits often adjust their identity to align with what their partner values or identifies with.

* To create confusion – Misrepresenting a diagnosis can make it harder for others to understand or question patterns of behaviour.

3. Empathy Differences Are Key

Autistic individuals:
💛 Often feel emotions deeply
💛 Struggle with reading social cues, not with caring
💛 Generally honest and straightforward

People with NPD:
💔 May understand how others feel but not respond empathetically
💔 Use insight into emotions strategically
💔 Rely on manipulation and control

4. Why Autistic People Can Be Vulnerable

Research shows autistic adults may be more likely to experience challenging relationships because:

• They tend to take others at face value
• They may have difficulty detecting deception
• They may have fewer boundaries or struggle to enforce them
• They often assume honesty from people they care about

This doesn’t mean autistic people are weak, just that certain social differences can make navigating relationships with manipulative individuals more complex.

5. Can an Autistic Person Be Narcissistic?

Clinically, it’s very rare. NPD relies on:
• Intentional manipulation
• Exploitation of others
• Grandiosity and self-centered strategies

Autistic people may have social or emotional challenges, but these do not equate to narcissism. Trauma or stress may create withdrawal or defensive behaviours, but these are not manipulative by nature.

⚠️ Important Note
It is irresponsible to label someone as autistic or narcissistic without a formal clinical assessment. Self-diagnosis via Google or online quizzes is not a diagnosis, only a qualified clinician can make this determination.

Need Support? We Can Help

Our team of specialist psychologists have expertise in neurodiversity assessments, therapy, and support. If you or a loved one want to understand yourself better or need help navigating relationships, click here to book an appointment today: https://clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/spectrumcentre

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📧 hello@spectrumcentre.co.za

We specialise in Adult Autism diagnosis and long term therapy. The Diagnosis is conducted over 2 sessions by one of our Autism (Neurodiversity) Specialist Psychologists. The diagnosis process consists of a Clinical Interview based on the diagnostic criteria of ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder as specifi...

20/11/2025

📢 IN PERSON SUPPORT GROUP FOR ADULTS WITH AUTISM

Topic: Autism & Self-Compassion

Next In-Person Group Date: Saturday, 29th November, 2025
Time: 12:00pm – 13:00pm (1 hour)
Cost: R320.00 per session
Booking Email: hello@spectrumcentre.co.za
More Info: https://spectrumcentre.co.za/in-person-support-group/

If you’ve ever felt like you’re harder on yourself than anyone else could be, you’re not alone.

Research shows that autistic adults often experience higher self-criticism and lower self-compassion. In this upcoming session, Clinical Psychologist Kevin Naidu will guide you through practical, affirming ways to build a kinder, more understanding relationship with yourself.

This group is thoughtfully designed by specialist autism clinicians at the highest professional level. Our sessions are built around researched themes and facilitated by trained psychologists who understand the unique needs of autistic adults.

Whether you want to ask questions, share experiences, or just be part of a supportive community; you’re welcome here.

🎥 Watch Kevin’s message above to learn more about this month's theme.

👉 To book your spot email: hello@spectrumcentre.co.za
See you soon!

20/11/2025

📢 ONLINE SUPPORT GROUP FOR ADULTS WITH AUTISM

Topic: Autism & Self-Compassion

Next Online Group Date: Wednesday, 26th November
Time: 6pm – 7pm (1 hour)
Cost: R320.00 per person
More Info: https://spectrumcentre.co.za/online-support-group/

If you’ve ever felt like you’re harder on yourself than anyone else could be, you’re not alone.

Research shows that autistic adults often experience higher self-criticism and lower self-compassion. In this upcoming session, Clinical Psychologist Kevin Naidu will guide you through practical, affirming ways to build a kinder, more understanding relationship with yourself.

This group is thoughtfully designed by specialist autism clinicians at the highest professional level. Our sessions are built around researched themes and facilitated by trained psychologists who understand the unique needs of autistic adults.

Whether you want to ask questions, share experiences, or just be part of a supportive community; you’re welcome here.

🎥 Watch Kevin’s message above to learn more about this month's theme.

👉 To book your spot email: hello@spectrumcentre.co.za

See you soon!

19/11/2025

A question many partners of autistic adults ask is this: “My husband has autism. If I fall pregnant, is it possible for my baby to have autism?”

From a clinical psychology and neuroscience perspective, here is what we know:

1. Autism has a strong genetic component
Research consistently shows that autism tends to run in families. Multiple genes, rather than one single gene, contribute to neurodevelopmental differences. This means that if one parent is autistic, the likelihood of having an autistic child is higher compared to the general population, although it is not guaranteed.

2. Autism is not caused by parenting
Autism is a neurodevelopmental difference that begins early in brain development. Environmental factors can play a small role, but the strongest contributor is inherited genetics.

3. Having an autistic parent does not mean something is “wrong”
Autistic adults bring strengths such as deep focus, creativity, honesty, loyalty, and unique problem solving. Whether neurotypical or neurodiverse, we should focus on the individuals strengths rather than weaknesses

4. Most importantly, genetics explain probability, not certainty
Many autistic adults have neurotypical children. Many non autistic parents have autistic children. Genetics increase likelihood, but they do not determine destiny.

At the Spectrum Centre, our psychologists specialize in adult neurodiversity. If you want clear guidance, assessment, or support for yourself or your family, reach out to us and take the next step toward understanding and thriving.

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13/11/2025

Can someone have autism without knowing it?

Absolutely. Many adults, especially from Generation X and older, are only now recognising that lifelong patterns in how they think, feel, and interact may be related to autism.

This is particularly common among women and people who learned to “mask” autistic traits by copying social behaviours or overcompensating in social settings. As a result, their challenges were often misunderstood or overlooked for decades.

Some indicators that may go unnoticed in adults include:

* Difficulty understanding social cues, tone, or unspoken rules
* Feeling drained by social interactions or avoiding them altogether
* Being perceived as “blunt” or “aloof” despite good intentions
* Intense focus on specific interests or hobbies
* A strong preference for routine and predictability, and high anxiety when that changes
* Difficulty regulating emotions (sometimes described as “meltdowns”)
* Sensitivity to noise, light, or certain textures
* Perfectionism or a strong need for control in specific areas

It’s important to remember that autism presents differently from person to person, and in women or people socialised to “fit in,” traits can be subtle and easily misinterpreted as anxiety, bipolar, ADHD, or perfectionism.

Discovering you might be autistic can bring both clarity and relief, it’s not about a label, but about understanding yourself better.

If this resonates, consider booking an assessment or consultation with one of our Specialist Neurodiversity Psychologists at The Spectrum Centre: https://clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/spectrumcentre

🌐 https://spectrumcentre.co.za/
📧 hello@spectrumcentre.co.za

We specialise in Adult Autism diagnosis and long term therapy. The Diagnosis is conducted over 2 sessions by one of our Autism (Neurodiversity) Specialist Psychologists. The diagnosis process consists of a Clinical Interview based on the diagnostic criteria of ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder as specifi...

12/11/2025

How can we tell autistic burnout from depression or chronic fatigue? Important conversations with Clinical Psychologist, Kevin Naidu

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11/11/2025

Online Support Group for Parents of Autistic Teens & Adults

Parenting an autistic teen or adult can be both beautiful and overwhelming. You don’t have to navigate it alone.

Join our next online parent support group, facilitated by Clinical Psychologist Kevin Naidu, where we’ll be talking about:

Autism & Executive Functioning: understanding challenges like motivation, procrastination, and follow-through, and learning strategies to support your child (and yourself).

This group is a safe, supportive space for parents to:
✨ Connect with others who “get it”
✨ Share experiences and ask questions
✨ Learn from professionals specialising in adult autism.

📅 Date: Wed, 19 November 2025
🕕 Time: 6:00pm – 7:00pm (CAT)
💻 Online (Zoom)
💰 Cost: R320.00 per person
📧 Book: hello@spectrumcentre.co.za
🌐 More Info: https://spectrumcentre.co.za/online-support-group-for.../

No prep needed, no pressure to speak; just come as you are. Cameras are optional, and all resources are shared afterwards.

💬 “You’ll find a community here where you can share your experiences, learn practical strategies, and connect with others who truly get you.” – Kevin Naidu

10/11/2025

When “fitting in” is the mask you wear. Autism and Masking...

Have you ever met someone, or felt like you might be that person, who appears socially fluent, warm, adaptable, yet carries an almost indescribable sense of experiencing the world in a slightly different way? Not unusual, not odd, simply uniquely wired in a way that is hard to put into words.

Sometimes that quiet uniqueness comes with an unseen weight, the years of high masking autism.

What is high-masking autism?

This is when an autistic adult uses conscious or unconscious strategies to hide or suppress their autistic traits, imitating social behaviours, mirroring others, forcing eye-contact, controlling stimming, and generally moulding themselves into what the neurotypical world expects.

Some striking stats:

* Studies show that people who mask more report higher levels of anxiety and depression, and feel more disconnected from their true self.

* Masking is more frequently reported among autistic females than males, making diagnosis and support even harder to access.

* While about 1 in 31 children (3.2%) are identified with autism in the U.S. such differences in presentation (like high-masking) suggest many adults are undetected.

Why does someone mask so extensively?

From a clinical perspective, masking can be seen as a coping strategy in a world built for neurotypicals, an attempt to access friendships, work, acceptance, safety.

But this adaptation comes at a cost: constant self-monitoring, suppression of natural responses, and emotional exhaustion, often leading to burnout.

⚠️ The psychological cost is real

* People who mask heavily describe chronic fatigue, burnout, and reduced sense of identity.

* Masking has been linked with higher risk of suicidal thoughts in autistic adults.

* Because the outer appearance is often “successful”, the inner distress is overlooked, leading to delayed diagnosis or misdiagnosis.

Some things you can do, whether you’re masking or supporting someone who is;

* Recognise the signs: perfectionism in social settings, “why am I so tired after being fine all day?”, feeling like you’re an actor in your own life.

* Validate the experience: “It makes sense you’re drained; what you’re doing takes energy.”

* Offer or seek professional help that understands neurodiversity, not trying to “fix” autistic traits but supporting authentic living and reducing harmful masking.

* Encourage “unmasking” moments in safe spaces: hobbies that feel natural, letting stim behaviours happen, being with people who accept you as you are.

* For the workplace or home: Create environments where authenticity is valued, and small differences are seen as strengths.

So how do psychologists at the Spectrum Centre detect autism in high masking?

Our specialist clinicians, with years of experience and neurodiversity expertise, look beneath the surface. We use detailed interviews, developmental history, structured autism assessments, and careful observation across multiple settings.

We listen for the quiet clues that are often missed, such as lifelong social exhaustion, intense internal preparation before conversations, sensory overwhelm that gets hidden, or a history of feeling out of sync with peers even when appearing socially capable.

We explore how much energy it takes to function, what someone does to fit in, and what happens when they no longer have the strength to perform. We take the full person into account so the assessment is never only about what others see, but what the individual experiences.

For many people, receiving an accurate diagnosis feels like finally being understood. It gives language to a lifetime of masking, relief from self-blame, and a pathway to support that honours their authentic way of being.

If you see yourself in this and would like guidance, reach out. You deserve a space where you can begin to unmask safely, reconnect with your true identity, and be supported for who you are.

Click here to book an appointment: clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/spectrumcentre

🌐 https://spectrumcentre.co.za/
📧 hello@spectrumcentre.co.za

We specialise in Adult Autism diagnosis and long term therapy. The Diagnosis is conducted over 2 sessions by one of our Autism (Neurodiversity) Specialist Psychologists. The diagnosis process consists of a Clinical Interview based on the diagnostic criteria of ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder as specifi...

06/11/2025

💙 What’s it like being married to an autistic partner?

We’re often asked this by partners of autistic adults, what does it actually look like day to day, and how can both people feel supported in the relationship?

Every relationship involves learning, adapting, and understanding each other’s needs. When one partner is autistic, that learning process can look a little different, not better or worse, just unique.

Autism in adults often doesn’t match the stereotypes people expect. It’s not about being unemotional or distant, it’s about a brain that processes the world in a different way.

That might mean:
🌿 preferring quieter, calmer environments over busy social settings
🌿 finding comfort in routine and predictability
🌿 needing direct and clear communication rather than hints or subtle cues
🌿 valuing honesty, fairness, and authenticity deeply

These differences can sometimes cause misunderstandings, especially when each partner is trying to meet the other’s needs without fully understanding why those needs exist.

But with openness, communication, and mutual respect, neurodiverse relationships can thrive. Autistic partners often bring loyalty, integrity, and a depth of care that is deeply grounding.

The key is to communicate clearly, express needs directly, and be patient with each other’s differences. Love your partner including their autistic traits, not despite them.

And it’s important to remember, Autism is a reason BUT it is never an excuse for unkind or abusive behaviour. All healthy relationships are built on safety, respect, and compassion. 💙

If you’d like support navigating a neurodiverse relationship or understanding your autistic partner better, book an appointment with us today ➡️ https://clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/spectrumcentre

🌐https://spectrumcentre.co.za/
📧 hello@spectrumcentre.co.za

We specialise in Adult Autism diagnosis and long term therapy. The Diagnosis is conducted over 2 sessions by one of our Autism (Neurodiversity) Specialist Psychologists. The diagnosis process consists of a Clinical Interview based on the diagnostic criteria of ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder as specifi...