Jeanne Meer Consulting

01/11/2023

28/03/2022

https://fb.watch/c1sDyJuAyL/

10/03/2022

Young children do not engage in difficult behaviour to offend us. One cannot expect an overwhelmed and dysregulated child to communicate efficiently. Especially a young child who is still learning how to do so. It is important not to take their behaviour personally. Instead, help your child recenter and work on strategies to improve your child ability to communicate and improve your ability to listen to and understand what your young child it trying to communicate.

05/07/2021

05/07/2021

"Kids do well IF they can"

When I came across this statements some months ago by Dr Ross Greene, a clinical child psychologist, I must say I was intrigued.

Think about it, why would kids purposefully not do well? For most children they know there will be consequences to their behaviours, so why do it?
This statement makes sense.

I challenge you to consider this statement in your dealing with your young children and let this guide you and see if you find that it makes an impact for you. It did for me with my youngsters.

06/03/2021

https://www.scarymommy.com/sitting-with-tantrums-heartbeat-hug/?utm_source=FB

The "heartbeat hug" is my favorite tantrum-reducing parenting hack.

06/03/2021

This is a very good reminder for those of you who are trying to practice positive parenting but sometimes battle to maintain it.

06/03/2021

Isnt it though 😊

12/02/2021

Little children have Big emotions.

Lately, even with my knowledge and experience, I find myself in the middle of an emotional battleground.

I know Gabriel, my 3 year old, lacks impulse control. I know he hasnt mastered appropriate outlets for his emotions yet and I know he gets overwhelmed by his emotions. I also know that he works so hard to keep all his negative emotions and impulses in check during the day at school, that he must be mentally and emotionally exhausted when he comes home. This is where the war begins.

I will be the first to admit, I often do not stand my ground and maintain boundaries during the 2 or 3 hours between arrival from school an bedtime. I am so desperate to get dinner made on time and lunches packed and pj's ready that I let a lot of things slide or I reinforce the wrong behaviors by giving him attention in those moments instead of putting those behaviours on extinction. Most times it is in an attempt to protect poor Benjamin, who is almost 5. He has autism so often doesn't gauge a social or emotional situation, He is also not violent and will often cower in fear as Gabriel lays a beating on him instead of fighting back.

I have recently been doing some reading in an effort to expand my knowledge base and find a way to calm the storm. One thing that has stood out for me above all is that YOU CANNOT APPROACH AN EMOTIONAL CHILD LOGICALLY! Before you can approach a child with any logic, you need to calm the emotional waters.

The whole brained child, Is a book I would highly recommend to any parent. It teaches us how our kids brains are wired from a neuro science perspective and how we can help them better integrate the different side of their brains to function better. The montessori notebook has done a great summary of the book.

We need to remember that our children are whole people. Like us they get overwhelmed but have not yet learnt how to deal with it. It is essential for us to empathise with our children, help them calm the emotional chaos and only then can we impart the logic of the lessons needing to be learnt.

https://www.themontessorinotebook.com/summary-of-the-whole-brain-child/

Summary of The Whole-Brain Child - an essential infographic to help you put into practice the 12 strategies from Dan Siegel's best seller The Whole-Brain Child