Life Skills and Therapy to Empower Yourself - Cape Town

03/10/2020

Dealing With a Manipulative Person? Grey Rocking May Help ...
https://www.healthline.com/health/grey-rock?fbclid=IwAR20fcMgzFxBdejGYo8YFhzS5DAMU2t8Hct74BHk1DS37qLOviYfh_HxCzA

Grey rocking is a technique for dealing with manipulative or abusive people. We'll break down 6 techniques you can try out for yourself.

24/07/2020

Children often grow up to do what you did, not what you told them to do - here is why:

If parents are not emotionally healthy themselves, they can’t but fail to raise emotionally healthy children — the emotional issues they are suffering from will inevitably be transferred to their children.

20/05/2020

At uncertain times like this, it’s up to parents to model resilience, kindness and calm to their children. It’s hard. Children don’t have our level of reasoning. They’re anxious. We’re anxious too. That’s ok.

05/04/2020

Treat and help others as you want to be treated and helped.
The allegory of the long spoons teaches us that when we struggle to feed only ourselves, everyone goes hungry. But when we focus on our neighbours’ hunger, we discover there are ways to feed everyone.
This is also true when looking at modern life: when we reach out to help enough others, our needs are also taken care of and life becomes better for everyone.
We have the option to use what we are given (the long spoons in this allegory) to help meet each other’s needs. With exactly the same tools, we can either create a living hell or heaven on earth, simply by how we treat each other.
Click on https://myhero.com/film-allegory-spoons to see the clip:

MY HERO Project seeks unique works of art by professional and student artists that celebrate the lives and courageous acts of heroes who work to promote change by positively affecting others and their communities.

05/04/2020

25/03/2020

https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief?utm_source=facebook&utm_campaign=hbr&utm_medium=social&fbclid=IwAR16inBled_-0Vt8rE01V-43MOtIG0azj3QxPzycacWcTgG7zr24lZESkZQ

09/12/2019

Read this to the end and get inspired to change your life ...

I really didnt want to go to India. I was happy in Melbourne. I had a fulfilling job as a teacher and a hometown brimming with opportunities to do the things I loved. If I was hungry I could walk to my favourite cafes. If I fancied a beer I could pull up a stool in my local pub and if I was craving....

22/10/2019

Love is actually an action, not only a feeling or word (e.g. sometimes you may not like someone in a specific situation, but you love them enough to not wish them harm).

09/10/2019

Align body, mind and spirit by walking - it offers on the opportunity to be more present, ease anxiety, spark creativity, increase productivity, and detox from digital overload:

Sometimes an ancient tip is just the trick for managing a postmodern existence.

05/10/2019

Are we laying the foundations for abuse and control by the way we parent unconsciously?

Parenting tactics that mirror abuse – a blog discussing common parenting tactics that mirror the tactics used in domestic and sexual violence. Jessica Eaton 17/12/2018 Working in trauma and a…

02/10/2019

Live a life that has a positive impact on others too:

26/09/2019

I left the house yesterday at 6:20am in a suit, made it through a couple of meetings where I sat squarely in the hot seat, battled evening traffic across town to the daycare, and finally pulled into the driveway at 6:40pm. Before the van door even opened, Little Lady asked what we were having for dinner.

When I walked in, all I could see was that the dishwasher was full of clean dishes and the trash can was overflowing. Backpacks appeared to have exploded in the entryway and shoes were trailing through the kitchen.

I’d like to think all parents have been there...in moments like these, we have a split-second choice to make: “How am I going to respond to this?” We waffle for 60 seconds, trying to decide between fury and throwing our hands up (and everything in between), and then, we respond.

In the workplace, when our leaders need to confront a team member, we train them to “approach with curiosity.” This means, don’t draw a conclusion and approach with a reaction, consequence, or solution. Instead, approach with curiosity, seeking their side of the story with an aim to listen, collect new info or context, and THEN craft an appropriate response.

This method is equally effective when leading our children.

Instead of, “How many times have I told you?”.... “Get down here!”... “Let me guess, you had plenty of time to play video games.” ... I approached with curiosity, “Hey boys, what have you been up to since you’ve been home?”

They explained that they were finished with all of their homework and that J had to sit beside his little brother to help him stay focused on his 30 Math problems. They also revealed that they had emptied the dryer and put away a load of their clothes. (Oh, snap! I hadn’t even noticed that.) I thanked them for getting it done and asked if they could knock out the dishes and trash while I put dinner in the oven. They happily complied and we went about our evening like nothing had happened.

Approach with curiosity.

I know from (lots of) personal experience - had I barged in and immediately laid into them in frustration, I would have wasted my chance to greet them kindly after not seeing them all day. It would have set an entirely different tone for the rest of our evening, and things could have spiraled downhill from there. These types of reactions weaken our connection with our kids and erode their trust that their leader will always assume the best in them.

23/09/2019

Don't judge - there is usually more to an issue than meets the eye ...

22/09/2019

As parents, we should start recognizing our contribution to our kids’ challenges. We can’t continue to expect that the lack of a well- balanced childhood would not affect a child’s overall functioning ability at school and home. Children need us to put a conscious effort into bringing childhood back to them - here are suggestions of how to bring back more:
* connection
* movement and outdoors
* boredom and calmness
* responsibilities

Parents, children's "misbehaviors" are their desperate calls for our help. Their “misbehaviors” are symptoms of a much deeper problem that can’t be ignored any longer. The concept “He was born like that" can no longer justify the epidemic increase in our children’s social, emotional a

19/09/2019

You are whole, no matter what ...