21/08/2025
"What would you be doing right now if you followed your childhood dreams?" (or who would you be?) - I just saw this posted on a group that I am a member of. This is a quite powerful question, as when you ask this to yourself and answer it honestly, but like truly honest, HONEST!!! ...Stripped of the fluff that might pop in your mind that stems from societal conditioning etc.. without the BS and the "what would be the best sounding answer" ... when you answer truthfully and play with the ideas until you find the answer that resonates most with who you TRULY ARE beneath the fluff, you will notice how you get to KNOW yourself better. You will notice what you truly value - and no matter what this answer includes, whatever - if the answer is honest and feels true, that is the start. Obviously, depending on where you are in your journey of acceptance vs resistance towards your current/past circumstances, you can go ahead and ask more questions and go deeper - but this post is not about that (for now). What I want to share here is my own honest answer. And trust me, I sat for a while and dissected the answer to make sure it is absolutely true, and it is. I did not have to edit one word. And that made me realize how far I have come, how quickly I leaped, like in really leapt. This is not to show off or compare or being in denial, this is MY ABSOLUTE TRUTH. My answer to the question above is this:
Arina: "I'd be happy, I'd be loved and fully, unconditionally accepted for exactly who I am. Not in spite of my flaws or the parts of me that is "different", that is "strange" that is "dramatic" and "emotional". I would not be broken or less-than, I would be whole...And you know what? I am there, I have that now, not necessarily from others or all around me, but from myself!! It took a journey, but looking back, it all makes sense🫶".
Even just a month ago, this would not have been my answer, as in the last month, for some reason, more and more just clicked!!
So (excuse the long post/text) - I still have sooo much I want to share, but will try to contain myself. 🙈
As I am learning to know myself and the world, through doing "the work" as Byron Katie calls her own method of this, my "ideal picture" of the future started changing. For the first time ever ever ever in my life, I am able to not resist (the good or the "bad) and I see clearly how everything is actually OK. It cannot be anything BUT OK.
If this post resonates with you, please comment. If you are "not so sure" and would like to debate this or have a strong argument against it, or even just want to explore some loopholes you are seeing, please comment. - Let’s challenge this.
My aim with MORE THAN ME started out from a place of really wanting to help others navigate challenging situations in a healthy expanding way - and helping them in the form of 1:1 coaching sessions. That was my idea, and yes, I do that with my clients. BUT, growing and learning and searching within for my "true longing/purpose " has compelled me to share these stories here as well, (not from a high and mighty place), from a honest place from someone who never saw her own worth, almost always felt misunderstood and scared and the list goes on.
Whatever your situation, your triggers, your less-than healthy coping mechanisms- dude!, I know them all, as I was there! I am aware of all of it. Everyday something new "clicks" for me, yesterday I wasn't able to understand something and today it just feels obvious.
If none of this feels obvious to you, THAT IS OK. There are baby steps you can begin to take just to test the waters. Take the baby steps and see the magic happen⭐️
