Karen Botha Attorney

31/08/2025

SPEAKER ANNOUNCEMENT

🌟 Meet Karen Botha🌟 – a powerful voice in the fight against gender-based violence! As an accomplished Attorney, skilled Mediator, and passionate Author, she brings a wealth of experience and insight to the conversation. A survivor herself, Karen uses her journey to inspire change and advocate for those who feel unheard. Join us at TEDx to witness her compelling story and learn how resilience and advocacy can transform lives. Don’t miss the chance to be inspired!

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💪 West

25/08/2025

I am honoured to have been invited to speak at this much-needed event on: The Connection Between Trauma & Toxic Relationships.

I am hoping this will coincide with a soft launch of my book: Trauma to TRIUMPH: How Healing Our Past Helps Us Lead, Connect, and Transform Our World.

Debby KempthorneRegistered Ecucational Psychologist, Special Interest In Trauma Karen BothaAttorney, Mediator and Director of Dignified Dispute Resolution. Author: “Trauma To Triumph” Dr Emma Louise BackeGender-Based Violence Researcher, Affiliate at the University of Cape Town’s Centre for Cr...

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23/07/2025

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23/07/2025

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17/07/2025

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24/06/2025

Are Unspoken Issues Holding Your Family Business Back?

In many family businesses, the most significant obstacles aren’t always the ones discussed around the boardroom table. More often, it’s the unspoken issues — the topics everyone avoids or the tensions simmering just below the surface — that quietly erode trust, undermine decision-making, and stall progress.

Why do these issues remain unspoken?
Family businesses are unique in their blend of personal relationships and professional responsibilities. Sometimes, out of a desire to keep the peace or protect loved ones, family members choose not to voice concerns or disagreements. Other times, there may be a lack of confidence that their perspective will be heard or valued. Over time, these silences can become entrenched, making it even harder to bring sensitive topics into the open.

What are the signs that unspoken issues are at play?
 Certain topics are consistently avoided in meetings or family gatherings.
 Decisions are made without full transparency or input from all stakeholders.
 Some family members feel marginalized or reluctant to participate.
 There is a sense of tension or discomfort, even if no one can quite name the cause.
 The same misunderstandings or conflicts keep resurfacing but never get fully resolved.

Why does this matter?
Unaddressed issues rarely disappear on their own. Instead, they tend to grow in complexity and impact, affecting both family harmony and business performance. When concerns aren’t voiced, opportunities for innovation, growth, and genuine connection are lost. Worse still, unresolved tensions can eventually erupt in ways that are far more damaging than if they had been addressed early and openly.

How can your family business break the silence?
 Create safe spaces for honest dialogue: Encourage regular, structured conversations where all voices are welcomed and respected.
 Foster a culture of inclusion: Make it clear that every family member’s perspective matters, whether or not they are directly involved in the business.
 Document and review governance protocols: Clear, transparent processes help ensure that issues are surfaced and addressed constructively.
 Consider external facilitation: Sometimes, a neutral third party can help families navigate sensitive topics and build the skills needed for open communication.

Addressing unspoken issues isn’t always easy, but it is essential for building a resilient, thriving family business. The rewards are well worth the effort: stronger relationships, better decisions, and a legacy you can be proud of.

Ready to bring hidden issues into the open and unlock your family business’s full potential?
Contact us at www.dignifieddisputeresolution.com or email info@ddrsa.co.za to learn how we can help your family create a culture of openness and trust with the DDR Legacy Suite™.

31/05/2025

I’m a Girl in South Africa, and I’m Afraid…

Olorato Mongale did everything right.

She told her friends where she was going.
She planned her safety.
She promised to send her location.
She was on her very first date.
With a man in a white VW Polo.

She never sent that location.

Two hours later, her friends used a “find me” app.
They found her phone.
Her bag.
But not her.

Later, in Lombardy, a community watched that same Polo drop a parcel.
Suspicious.
Wrapped.
Heavy.

Inside was her body.
Olorato was gone.

Unalived. Murdêred. Tossed away like she meant nothing.

And yet she was everything.
A Wits student. A dreamer. Someone’s daughter.
She was careful. She was smart. She was hopeful.
And now she is gone.

But Olorato isn’t the first.
And that’s the part that chokes us.
Because her name joins a long, bloodied list.

Uyinene Mrwetyana went to the post office.
She never came out.

Karabo Mokoena loved a man.
He burnt her to ash.

Tshegofatso P**e was eight months pregnant.
He hung her from a tree.

Reeva Steenkamp locked herself in a bathroom.
She was shot through the door.

Sibongile Zenzile went to work.
She never made it home.

Leighandre Jegels.
Namhla Mtwa.
Boitumelo Rabale.
Naledi Phangindawo.
Nosicelo Mtebeni.

How many more, South Africa?
How many candles must we light?
How many vigils? How many broken mothers?
How many girls must whisper goodbyes as they close the door, not knowing it’s their last?

We are a nation of blood-stained sheets and silenced screams.
We are taught how not to be r***d before we are taught how to love ourselves.
We are told to shrink, to whisper, to pray.
But we are not the problem.
They are.

The men who love like fists.
The boys who believe consent is negotiable.
The uncles who smile too long.
The pastors who preach then prey.
The cops who laugh and lose dockets.
The courts that delay.
The politicians who tweet condolences and do nothing.

This is not a poem. This is a scream.

We scream for Olorato.
We scream for Karabo.
We scream for every woman whose last words were “Please don’t.”

We are not safe on our streets.
Not in our taxis.
Not in our homes.
Not in our own skin.

To be a girl in South Africa is to live with a target on your back,
To carry pepper spray like lip gloss,
To pray that the Uber driver doesn’t lock the doors,
To text your friends “Made it home” like it’s a miracle.

We are dying.

And even our deaths become statistics.
Hashtags.
Slogans.
Then silence.

But we are not silent anymore.

We are angry.
We are broken.
We are loud.
We are terrified but unafraid.

Because we are tired of being careful.
We are tired of burying our sisters.
We are tired of watching the same story written in fresh blood every week.

Say her name: Olorato Mongale.
Say all their names.
Let them haunt this land until justice shakes this country to its knees.
Let the earth feel the weight of our rage.
Let the men who hurt us hear our footsteps—coming not in fear, but in fury.

We don’t want your pity.
We want change.

Until then, remember this:

We are girls in South Africa.
And we are afraid.
But we are not going anywhere.

Even if it kills us.

© Harrison Ncube 2025.

10/04/2025

The Power of Functional Conflict
Introduction
While conflict is often viewed negatively, it can also be a powerful tool for innovation and growth when managed effectively. Functional conflict refers to disagreements that lead to better decision-making, collaboration, and creativity. Unlike dysfunctional conflict, which can be destructive, functional conflict fosters a positive and productive work environment.

What is Functional Conflict?
Functional conflict is a type of conflict that aligns with organizational goals and enhances teamwork. It involves respectful communication, collaboration, and a focus on problem-solving rather than personal attacks. This type of conflict encourages diverse perspectives, leading to more informed decisions and innovative solutions.

Benefits of Functional Conflict
Functional Conflict encourages open communication and mutual respect among team members and promotes critical thinking and creativity in addressing problems. Diverse perspectives lead to novel ideas and approaches. Constructive disagreements can reduce stress by addressing issues openly. This involves considering multiple viewpoints, leading to more informed decisions.

Key Characteristics of Functional Conflict
Team members work together, sharing ideas and listening actively. Conflicts are focused on achieving shared objectives. It encourages exploring different solutions and evaluating their merits. Disagreements are expressed constructively without personal attacks. Conflicts are seen as opportunities for learning and development.

Techniques for Fostering Functional Conflict

Create an environment where employees feel comfortable expressing their opinions. Establish clear rules for constructive dialogue. Direct discussions toward finding solutions rather than placing blame. Recognize and appreciate contributions that lead to positive outcomes.

Conclusion
Functional conflict is a valuable tool for enhancing teamwork, innovation, and decision-making in the workplace. By fostering an environment that encourages respectful disagreements and collaboration, organizations can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and success.

08/04/2025

The Role of Communication in Conflict Resolution

Introduction
Effective communication is the cornerstone of conflict resolution in the workplace. It involves not only what is said but also how it is said, and even what is not said. Understanding different communication styles and their impact on conflict can help you navigate disputes more effectively.

Communication Styles
1. Passive Communication:
Passive communicators tend to avoid expressing their own needs or feelings, often leading to unresolved issues. This reduces immediate conflict but may lead to resentment and unresolved issues.

2. Aggressive Communication:
Aggressive communicators assert their needs at the expense of others, often escalating conflicts. Whilst it can achieve immediate results, it damages relationships and fosters resentment.

3. Passive-Aggressive Communication:
Passive-aggressive communicators express negative feelings indirectly, often through actions rather than words. This avoids direct confrontation but can lead to confusion and mistrust.

4. Assertive Communication:
Assertive communicators express their needs clearly while respecting others' rights. This fosters respect and collaboration but requires skill and confidence.

5. Manipulative Communication:
Manipulative communicators use tactics like guilt or coercion to influence others. Whilst it can achieve short-term compliance, it erodes trust and can lead to resentment.

Non-Verbal Communication
Non-verbal cues, such as body language and tone of voice, significantly impact how messages are received. They can either reinforce or contradict verbal communication, influencing the outcome of conflicts. Non-verbal cues convey emotions and intentions more effectively than words alone. These include facial expressions, posture, eye contact, and tone of voice.

Effective Communication Strategies for Conflict Resolution
Pay attention to what is being said, both verbally and non-verbally, and respond thoughtfully. Express feelings and thoughts without blaming others. Clarify expectations and needs to prevent misunderstandings. Manage emotions to maintain a constructive dialogue. Look for mutually beneficial solutions.

05/04/2025

Understanding Conflict in the Workplace

What is Conflict?
Conflict is a state of disagreement or opposition between individuals, groups, or entities. In the workplace, it can occur between colleagues, teams, or between employees and management. Common causes include differing work styles or personalities, conflicting priorities or goals, resource allocation disputes, and miscommunication or lack of clarity in roles.

Impact of Conflict
Unresolved or poorly managed workplace conflicts can have significant negative consequences:
• Direct Financial Costs: Litigation, absenteeism, turnover, decreased productivity, and compensation costs.
• Litigation and Legal Fees: Defending against claims can result in substantial legal fees.
• Absenteeism and Sick Leave: Stress-related absence costs businesses significantly.
• Turnover Costs: Replacing an employee can cost up to 200% of their annual salary.
• Decreased Productivity: Employees spend time dealing with conflict instead of focusing on tasks.
• Indirect Costs: Reduced morale and engagement, damage to reputation, loss of innovation, increased stress and burnout, erosion of trust, and spread of negative attitudes.
• Reduced Morale and Engagement: A negative atmosphere affects employee satisfaction and productivity.
• Damage to Reputation: Publicized disputes can harm customer loyalty and investor confidence.
Mitigation Strategies
To manage conflicts effectively, organisations can implement the following strategies:
• Conflict Resolution Training: Provide training on effective communication and conflict resolution techniques.
• Clear Conflict Resolution Policies: Develop and communicate policies for addressing disputes.
• Promote Open Communication: Encourage employees to express concerns constructively.
• Leadership Development: Train managers to identify and address conflicts proactively.

Conclusion
Workplace conflicts are complex, involving both personal dynamics and organisational objectives. By understanding the costs and implementing proactive strategies, organisations can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and innovation, fostering a more positive and productive work environment.