Siphokazi Tinto Private Social Worker

31/08/2025

NDAKHE NDAPHILELA UTHANDWA NGUMNTU WONKE UMIPHUMELA KE YE RESENTMENT/ REJECTION
You becoming co- dependent to others we call attachment behavior
Jonga mntane Sukude"Not Nice" Yiyekeni bantase ndis**apho yhuuuu😭😥 that nonsense energy of people pleasing.Uyawuhlalela ungxekwa, uxolisa for the rest of your being.There are refreshing perspectives on the pitfalls of excessive niceness and the importance of authenticity in self-expression from people-pleasing behaviors and embrace a more authentic and fulfilling life. The lesson is within encourage individuals to set boundaries, practice assertiveness, and cultivate self-compassion as you navigate your relationships and personal growth journey wethu maarn . By applying these principles, people can keep healthier connections and ultimately lead more authentic lives. Jonga practice to say FUTHSECK once ukhabe ucango before uphume ukhuphe umsindo , wogqiba uthi wena Siphokazi's inner child uyandi failer maarn.Let me live my authentic life without being a people pleaser....Sukaaaaa maaarn.Nithi kutsho uMama omhambayo .....ukuthula makubekhona...💃💃💃💃 nge nkani Masingavumini uba zi victims of our childhood traumas # Hey ndithi Yala ngawe wena.

30/08/2025

🖤 SPIRIT OF REJECTION 🖤

Listen, my lovies, and listen attentively.

Some of you may not know this pain. But I do. Deeply. I’ve lived it, breathed it, cried it out loud.
My own mother resented me. My only daughter turned away.
Friends? Family? Pulled out without warning, without care.
I used to weep for their presence in my life—ndililela ubukho babo ebomini bam.
Even those I helped turned around and called me names.
But guess what? I learned. I grew. I prayed.

I placed my hand on my heart and said:
“Thixo, undidlulisa entlungwini ukuze intliziyo yam ibethe kanye neyabo.”
Because I know this pain. I carry it. And I want to meet others in theirs.

🕯️ To those who’ve been rejected, resented, left behind—don’t curse your God. Don’t lose hope.
He still has a plan for you.
Trust Him. Rest in Him.
Even when your own mother gossips about your pain behind closed doors.

💔 It hurts. I know.
But my message to you is this:
Myeke uThixo enze intando yakhe ngawe.
Let Him do what only He can.

Khanithi: AMEM MAZULU 💃💃💃🤝

PhilaNgenkaniYakho

22/07/2025

🚨 BURNOUT IS A STATE OF EMERGENCY 🚨
Assisting others in finding themselves? That’s my daily brew—my cup of purpose, strong and soul-stirred. ☕
Well-being isn’t just a hashtag; it’s my sacred assignment. But here's the real tea: before you pour into others, sip from your own saucer first. PRIORITIZE YOURSELF.

SuvumaNgawe 😰
Yhooo... me saying this to someone else—yet deep inside, I’m aching for someone to pull me into a hug and whisper the same:
"Apha kum...kum...mna...mna loo."
Ndithi “Jonga maarn Pokie, stay cool 😎” but let’s be real: holding everyone up is not ayoba. Hayi… hayi… CUT CUT. 🧘‍♀️💔
Even resilient souls get tired. Andif’ngatsho. I’m not lazy—I’m just standing in front of life’s mirror saying:
"Cry, Pokie. Hayi s**aa… it’s therapic nje."
Let’s weep, bantase. Masilileni bethunana 💧
When it hurts, cry it out, feel it out.
Then? Heal. Rise.
Ndithi to those vibing with this energy today:
🗣️ Kuzoba right maarn.
Because this heaviness? It’s not the end—it’s a sacred reckoning.

🔥 for Today:
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@ SPOKIE'S ✍️📄📚

21/07/2025

💌 Why Talking to Your Person Every Day Is Non-Negotiable
Spokie’s Wisdom ✍📄📚

Me: If you're deep in love and still asking questions like “should we talk every day?”—hayi s**a! Start with YOU. Qala ngawe. Honest, professional advice: true connection flows without forcing. When it’s real, silence is unnatural. If you’re in their veins and they’re in yours, communication becomes oxygen—essential.

💡 When you talk every day:
- You catch the subtle emotional shifts 🎭
- You spot red flags before they blow up 🚩💥
- You build a relationship rooted in trust and warmth 🧱❤️

Maturity means listening deeply. Reflecting. Responding. Don’t play stubborn—ngathi wakhe watsha nendlu just to stand your ground. It’s never about ego; it’s about presence.

⚠️ If your person says, “I’m not a good communicator”—uyaxoka!
Those lies shine green-green cwe cwe, bold and clear. If they’re not speaking to you, they’re not seeing you. Akakudingi.

💫 Observe the vibe. Step back when needed. Move with clarity and force. Protect your peace and your joy.

💃💃 I’ve said it once, and I’ll keep saying it: every second, every moment, every day—speak, connect, grow.

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Suvuma Ngawe 🧠

Yala Ntanga ❤️

Phila nge Force 🚀

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Siphokazi Tinto is a qualified and registered private Social Worker, offering community-based psychological counseling and guidance support services. Her mission is to provide support, guidance, and coping tools to promote well-being among individuals. With extensive experience in emotional recovery...

17/07/2025

Ukuziqonda nokuzazi ubuwena kubalulekile.
In the saddest and most painful moments of my life, I’ve learned that not every pain is meant to destroy you. Some come as sacred lessons for the beautiful journey God has prepared.
Hayi maan, so much has happened to me... and I’ve walked many of those roads alone. No close family to lean on. I was born into solitude.

But oh, the miracle of God!
He removed certain people from my circle and replaced them with the most amazing souls. I now have beautiful, wonderful human beings in my corner—those who speak of me with love, and I realize: God prepared my path even through the rejection I faced from Ndumi.

When she resented me, I didn’t know that I was being shaped to become a comforter to those who’ve never known peace—those hurt by their own parents, siblings, relatives, and even their communities.

Hayi maan, can I get an Amen, Mazulu! 💃💃💃
I find healing in knowing that my blood flows with the strength of those who came before me.
: "Ugavumi ukohluleka."
Live boldly. Die trying, ntanga.
ngekani.

12/07/2025

Attachment Isn’t Love.

Sometimes, what we chase isn't love—it’s attachment.
The longing to fix, to hold on, to give second, third, and hundredth chances.
But here’s the truth: not everyone is meant to journey with you. Not everyone deserves your energy.

Your time is sacred. Your energy is limited. Your heart—precious.
Stop dimming your light to accommodate those who can’t see your brilliance.
You are worthy of joy, of peace, of love that elevates you.

✨ Don’t settle because the world whispers that being alone means being incomplete.
Good men do exist—but finding one is like seeking a needle in a haystack.
Still, never let that search cost you your spirit.

🔥 Don’t burn yourself to keep others warm.
Choose healing. Choose solitude if it brings you peace.
Choose self-respect over societal approval.
“Niyoyika gqithi uhlala nodwa nina.” 👗👠

If you’ve walked away from draining relationships, if you’ve chosen yourself lately—celebrate it.
Let 'S be your reminder that healing is beautiful. You are a masterpiece in progress. 📄📚✍

10/07/2025

🌿 Supporting Families Through Difficult Times 🌿
Social workers play a crucial role in helping families navigate serious domestic challenges. Whether it's tension between parents and children, experiences of spousal abuse, or deep-rooted marital issues, these professionals offer guidance, support, and resources to help families heal and rebuild.

In our community, we honor the strength it takes to seek help — and the compassion it takes to offer it. 💛 Let’s continue creating a space where healing is possible, and no one has to face their struggles alone.💃💃💃 I am your family social worker...

07/07/2025

Shared post from Thabo Mantyi Attorneys

Evening friends, ndiza nenye ngoku…

Izolo, 6 July 2025, l was doing a session on divorce ku Ndicel' uncedo iyanditya nantsinto bakhaya ngo 15:00.
As l was reading comments, l noticed umfana othi ucela ukoluka, akanabazali, ndathi makathumele iicontacts. Let us call him “AJ”.

Today l called AJ, wanting to verify uba ngenene akayo alien. He confirmed it is his comment, that he is turning 24, akakuluki. I don’t need to emphasize ubaluleka kokoluka emntwini onguMxhosa.

AJ is a victim of circumstances, like many SAns.🥹. His father wafa ethwele umnqwazi, AJ never saw his mom de wasweleka ngo2010. Another sad story for another day. Oomakazi abanandlela, umakhulu akathathintweni.

Kodwa kee, siye sanento ethi umntu ngumntu ngabantu. So we, THABO MANTYI ATTORNEYS INC, thought that singaplannisa, kudityaniswe amathe neenyembezi, eluke umjita. As if asinazingxaki zamakhaya 😰

Mhlawumbi there will be friends abanofuna uphosa lonto banayo, iskipa, ijeans, mhlawumbi irug, igwele, umamboyi, cabbage, chicken, etc. Imbeleko was never done for AJ, sakuqala apho, kufuneka ojisiwe. Sinqwenela uba aphume njengabanye abantwana.

Sicela izandla friends. His shoe size ngu 5, small kwi shirts/golfers, pants ngu size 26.

He is based in Paarl, if you would like to assist him in person.

I spoke to umakhulu, we agreed on the 20 Sept for umphumo, wase walila umntu omdala 😭

I will control where the money goes. Capitec acc is on the comments.

26/06/2025

JUST START MAARN KUTSHO MNA

I used to think I needed the perfect plan.The right day. The right mood. The right weather.
I told myself I’d start when I felt ready, when things were calmer, when I had more confidence, when life wasn’t so life-ing.

But "ready" was a shapeshifting ghost I could never quite catch. The truth is, I wasn't waiting for the right moment. I was hiding from the real work.I was afraid..Afraid of the messy beginning. Afraid of judgment if I stumbled. Afraid of discovering my limits and finding out they were closer than I hoped.

So I waited. And in that waiting, a year vanished. An entire year of open tabs, silent anxieties, and the hollow echo of potential.
Here’s the hard lesson I learned far too late:There is no "right time."
What if we had just started then?
That question is a gut punch.
Because the sting of failure is temporary. It’s a lesson, a scar you can learn from.So if you are standing on the edge of a decision right now, lost in the fog of overthinking, waiting for a sign that will never come… this is it.
This is your permission slip.
JUST START MAARN KUTSHO MNA

10/04/2025

Ingomso asilazi mesiya..Life can change in a moment. Uthixo ukufaka ezintlungwini kanti unecebo ngawe, she is a activist in sexual assault cases..Working together we can do more.She is a nurse I'm a social worker.Mental health is real ...xa ungazange umelane nobunzima be trauma yoba kwisimo abanye abantu abangazinto ngaso,kuku faka phantsi koxinizelelo lwengqondo. I once say " Phila nge force mntase wam.

08/04/2025

At Siphokazi Tinto private practice we offer confidential and compassionate counseling services to individuals navigating life's challenges. Our approach is centered on empowering you to tap into your inner strength and resilience. As reflected in our slogan, "Phila nge nkani" - embracing determination, stubbornness in a positive sense, and resilience to overcome obstacles.

Through personalized counseling sessions, we'll work together to address emotional issues, trauma, and other concerns that may be impacting your well-being. Our goal is to support you in developing coping strategies, building self-awareness, and fostering a stronger sense of self.

If you're ready to face life's challenges head-on and unlock your full potential, we're here to support you every step of the way."

03/04/2025

MOYIKE UTHIXO NGOMNTU WAKHE
Niyabasefa abantu baka S'maki nina Niyabajonga uba how much money they have, which level of education they've completed, what type of cars are they driving..Whoou..I mean nyani are you for real...Buya mntase apho that mentality is outdated "Umntu ngumntu ngoba ngoka Thixo."Focus to the person you are talking to no matter how small they may seem to your eyes . Switch off your phone before an important discussion. Show the person you’re meeting that you’re fully focused and interested in the conversation. Smile, listen, nod and make eye contact...oh ! I love my journey maarn..ndiyamthanda umntu xa umamela ngembeko uyaphila
..aaayy💃💃💃mabaphile abantu
Wise people work on themselves and pray for others. Ignorant people try to change others. Wise people are team players who focus on the strengths of others. Fools think they don’t need others. It takes courage to stand up and speak. It takes wisdom to sit down and listen.
SPOKIE'S ✍✍✍📄📚