Inspired By Robyn

20/11/2023

10 SIGNS THAT YOU ARE TOO EMOTIONAL

1. You just can't say 'no' to anyone without feeling guilty. You care too much and love too much.

2. You cry when you're alone but you don't tell anyone because you're afraid of what people would think of you.

3. You're quick to think that everyone is a friend. You do things for every temporary person in your life .

4. You're extra- nice with people. You treat everyone with kindness and expect the same.

5. You don't know when a person is taking advantage of you because you can't do it to others.

6. You can't intentionally hurt people because of how soft hearted you are.

7. You can't express your emotions without breaking down.

8. You're so sensitive that you can notice the slightest changes in people's behavior towards you- the way they talk to you, the way they act towards you - but you don't Do anything about it.

9. You feel too deeply for people, you always put yourself in people's shoes and try to be there for everyone, Literally, Every single time.

10. You're the problem fixer. You can't afford to lose people , but in the end, you're still left alone. Just like always...

Please Be guided accordingly.

09/10/2023

01/10/2023

Fellas.

The perfect woman doesn’t exist.

They all have their level of crazy.

Just like we do.

But 10 years after divorce and dating a few women, I’ve figured a few things out about this relationship deal.

Here’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned.

CHOOSING.

We must CHOOSE.

I played small for a long time.
I had trust issues so I didn’t trust.
I had fear so I kept my distance.
I had resentment that I projected.

In the back of my mind I had the idea that one day the perfect woman would just kick down the door and save me. That This bad ass chick would trump all the others and it would just be rainbows and kittens 24/7.

All the while over the years I used the story of HER insecurities, or HER crazy, or HER issues as my excuse to why I couldn’t make a relationship work.

When in reality I simply hadn’t CHOSEN.

Most of all I hadn’t chosen ME.

To work on me and do some dark, scary, humbling work on ME. To see what I didn’t want to see and change what I was too damn stubborn to change.

Fellas you and I could bounce from woman to woman easily. That’s simple, it takes zero effort. We can say she’s got this problem or that problem, and we are probably right. We can move on over and over and at the end of it all that a pretty hollow existence.

Keeping her at a distance.

But the truth is there is only one way we are going to BUILD (not find) love.

And that’s if we CHOOSE.

CHOOSE HER.

Choose her and choose to do whatever work necessary to BUILD with her.

CHOOSE to own your s**t

CHOOSE to close other doors.

CHOOSE to get off the fence.

CHOOSE to dive into the deep and dark s**t.

CHOOSE you man.

More than anything, CHOOSE YOU.

CHOOSE to honor yourself by not playing small.

Look, if you want to be Hugh Hefner and have 47 girlfriends so be it. No judgement at all.

However.

If you truly want to build an empire with a queen, YOU MUST CHOOSE TO BE A KING.

When I quit LOOKING for a Queen and I CHOSE to go all in on me, the little girls disappeared and she showed up.

Yea she tests me. A good woman will.

Yea I still have fears. I suspect I always will.

But from one dude to another I can attest to you that the biggest thing I’ve changed to bring this Queen into my life is ME.

I CHOSE ME.

I CHOSE to quit lying and blaming.

And once I made that choice and did that work, the game changed.

Fellas, CHOOSE YOU.

Surround yourself with other men building REAL relationships. With men who will hold themselves and you to a higher standard.

Much love y’all.

30/09/2023

A man said: My wife was sleeping next to me, and suddenly I got a Facebook notification, a girl asked to add me. So I thought of seeing who it was..

I accepted her friend request and sent her a message asking, ′′ What do you want? ′′
She replied, ′′ I saw you were married I'm so happy for you, but I still miss you ′′

(She was a friend from the past. Of course a pretty girl)

I closed the talk to make sure my wife was still sleeping.

I looked at her, she slept deep after her exhausting day, and dealing with all the tasks in our house.

As I looked at her, I started thinking: How would she feel if she learned our brief discussion, how she could think,.. so I'm thinking while thinking ′′ She's far from home, where she spent 18 years surrounded by her family, when she got mad or got sad, her mom was there to help her cry in her arms, her mom would come home and bring her everything she wanted.

All these thoughts came to my mind, so I took the phone and said ′′ Yes and today I am well, happy and fulfilled with the person who brings me that everything I need on a daily basis ′′ Then I pressed Block. 🙏🏼

I went back to look at her and sleep by her side, because I'm a man. A man who doesn't cheat on his wife and doesn't break his family. ❤️

🤎🖇

20/09/2023

DEAR DAUGHTER

I hope with all my heart that I showed you the real me.

That I didn’t pretend I had it all together, or that life was not hard.

I hope I gave you the belief of you, in your core.

That I loved you enough, albeit messily, to code a blueprint for life.

To show you what love should look like.

And I hope I let you see me break, so you could understand, it is not an ending, rather a step.

And it’s vital.

Dear Daughter, I could not possibly have gotten everything right, and perhaps, thats the best thing I have given you.

That knowledge. No one gets it right.

We are not here to be perfect, we are here to love, to grow stronger and more bright with every generation.

Grow brighter my love, brighter than me.

As it very much should be.

And when I can no longer be with you, remember, my cells live within you.

You cannot, ever, lose me.

Not really.

We are a deal, a two for one.

A team.

For life.

And everything after that.

Donna Ashworth

Artist: Kat Hannah

19/09/2023

′′NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, SEE YOU AT HOME.′′

Many people think that living as a couple is always peachy, but this is the real reality...✍🏾

Living with the person you love is not what everyone thinks it is. You don’t wake up early in the morning for breakfast together in bed every morning. It's not snuggling in bed together until you sleep peacefully every night. It's not always having the house clean and food freshly made every day.
Living with the person you love is arguing for simple things, like who forgot to take out the trash, it's sleeping because the day has been hard and you're exhausted, it's arguing over financial issues, it's someone who takes your bed sheets away when you sleep and you wake up in the cold.
But despite everything, every day you expect to see that person eagerly or go home everyday to meet that same person you know loves you and cares about you. You laugh together the moment you do something funny, it's intimacy with each other, it's cooking dinner together as you talk and making it easier because you both had a complicated day.
It's living an emotional crisis and having someone who sits next to you, hugs you and tells you that everything will be fine and you believe it.
It's loving that same person even when it drives you freaking crazy and pulls you out of your box.
Living with the person you love is arguing for silly things constantly, but it's also having a love that many people spend their lives looking for. It’s the times that people try to break you up, but the love was stronger. It's not perfect and it's very difficult to keep it balanced every day, but it's wonderful and the best you can experience, because if it were easy it wouldn't be worth it.

That's why every day you think...”NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS SEE YOU AT HOME.”

11/09/2023

The Sad Generation ...

We are a generation were alcohol is turned into cool drinks. Relationship are hobbies.
Breaking a girls virginity is an achievement.
Hurting someone is a joke.
Beating up your partner is discipline.
Su***de becomes natural Death
and cheating is a part of relationship ...

07/09/2023

Have you ever noticed how in the scriptures men are always going up into the mountains to commune with the Lord?

Yet in the scriptures we hardly ever
hear of women going to the mountains.
But we know why — right?

Because the women were too busy
keeping life going;
they couldn’t abandon babies,
meals,
homes,
fires,
gardens,
and a thousand responsibilities to make the climb into the mountains!

I was talking to a friend the other day,
saying that as modern woman
I feel like I’m never “free” enough
from my responsibilities,
never in a quiet enough space
I want with God.

Her response floored me,
“That is why God comes to women.
Men have to climb the mountain to meet God, but God comes to women where ever they are.”

I have been pondering on her words for weeks and have searched my scriptures
to see that what she said is true.
God does in deed come to women
where they are,
when they are doing their ordinary,
everyday work.

He meets them at the wells
where they draw water for their families,
in their homes,
in their kitchens,
in their gardens.

He comes to them
as they sit beside sickbeds,
as they give birth,
care for the elderly,
and perform necessary mourning and burial rites.

Even at the empty tomb,
Mary was the first to witness Christ’s resurrection,
She was there because she was doing the womanly chore of properly preparing Christ’s body for burial.

In these seemingly mundane
and ordinary tasks,
these women of the scriptures found themselves face to face with divinity.

So if — like me — you ever start to bemoan the fact that you don’t have as much time to spend in the mountains with God as you would like. Remember, God comes to women. He knows where we are and the burdens we carry. He sees us, and if we open our eyes and our hearts we will see Him, even in the most ordinary places and in the most ordinary things.

He lives. And he’s using a time such as this to speak to women around the world.

Original 🖌: Heather F.

03/09/2023

Have you ever thought about this?

In 100 years like in 2123 we will all be buried with our relatives and friends.

Strangers will live in our homes we fought so hard to build, and they will own everything we have today. All our possessions will be unknown and unborn, including the car we spent a fortune on, and will probably be scrap, preferably in the hands of an unknown collector.

Our descendants will hardly or hardly know who we were, nor will they remember us. How many of us know our grandfather's father?
After we die, we will be remembered for a few more years, then we are just a portrait on someone's bookshelf, and a few years later, our history, photos and deeds disappear in history's oblivion. We won't even be memories.

If we paused one day to analyse these questions, perhaps we would understand how ignorant and weak the dream to achieve it all was.

If we could only think about this, surely our approaches, our thoughts would change, we would be different people.

Always having more, no time for what's really valuable in this life.
I'd change all this to live and enjoy the walks I've never taken, these hugs I didn't give, these kisses for our children and our loved ones, these jokes we didn't have time for.

Those would certainly be the most beautiful moments to remember, after all they would fill our lives with joy.

And we waste it day after day with greed, greed and intolerance.

Anon