Mytherapy Charlene Cole- Counselling Psychologist

20/04/2025

This week we are thinking about building children’s self-esteem!

10/01/2025

One of the most challenging goodbyes occurs when we love someone yet recognize the impossibility of establishing a healthy relationship with them. Remaining in the relationship means continuing to wait for changes that will never materialize, tolerating hurtful actions, accepting minimal effort, and losing ourselves in an attempt to avoid loss. Although departing will be painful, it will ultimately lead to healing. Conversely, staying will perpetuate the cycle of hurt, causing the wound to deepen. Sometimes, choosing to leave is not a reflection of a lack of love for the person, but rather a demonstration of self-love and self-care, which necessitates leaving with love.

22/12/2024

06/11/2024

BrainAbility works with kids and adults of all ages, training the cognitive skills the brain uses to think, read, learn, remember, and pay attention.

10/10/2024

Catch them before they fall!

01/10/2024

No one told us that when we become parents, suddenly WE have to learn to regulate OUR emotions. The good news? It’s never too late to show up for yourself so you can show up for your kids too.

There’s so much pressure out there to get it *just right* with our kids. But the work really does start with *us*. Learning to identify emotions and feelings OURSELVES. Learning to use healthy coping skills OURSELVES.

Our kids are little sponges, and when WE can learn to rewire our own brains and show up as whole people—that’s where our kids soak it up and REALLY learn emotional regulation. Try this:

✨SEE YOURSELF, instead of pushing it down (‘cause you know that sh*t will come up later, in a different form).

“I’m feeling tired, overwhelmed, and helpless.”

✨ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL, and notice yourself in your body.

Feel it fully, cry, breathe INTO IT so you can release it.

✨COMFORT YOURSELF, instead of only comforting others.

“This is a hard moment, and I deserve a break. I deserve love and another chance.”

Breaking generational cycles is intense, so give yourself some grace. Be gentle with yourself in your hard, stressful, overwhelmed moments.⁠ The journey isn’t linear. It’ll never be perfect. A little bit of progress goes a long way.

Proud of you, generational cycle breakers. You’re doing it. 🤸🏻‍♀️

✨If you’re triggered by your toddler’s tantrums, you’re not a monster. You’re HUMAN. We’ve all been there. And? You deserve the tools to regulate *yourself* so you can teach your child to regulate their big feelings too. Our course Winning the Toddler Stage, teaches you exactly how to do it. Guaranteed to calm the chaos in your home, or your money back! For parents + caregivers of kids ages 1-6. Link in bio.✨

16/09/2024

While it may look like you go from 0-100 instantaneously, what is misunderstood is that you were never at 0. There is no 0. You're running beyond 100 and trying to keep it all under control.

So are you 'over reacting' to something innocuous? Something small? Something seemingly insignificant?
No. You are running far beyond capacity. You are reacting to everything. All at once. And most of it is neither insignificant, innocuous nor trivial. Those are the bits no one sees, because you hide them so well.

09/08/2024

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13/07/2024

This week we are thinking about preschoolers!