15/09/2022
“Relationships have become more challenging during this Time of Transition and bifurcation. As the Divine Force is descending and stirring up everything out of the shadows, many people yearn for more authentic relationships beyond superficial personality match-up based on conditioned desires and social/cultural programming.
We've seen four major areas and issues in the relationship space, and with hundreds of people we've worked with over the past three years:
1. For people who are already in a relationship, one partner seems to "wake up" and is open to entering into deeper inner work, seeking truth, and following the inner call, but the other partner is reluctant to do so. Interestingly, we have seen an 80% women to 20% men ratio, with women being way more open to sincerely engaging in the inner work as opposed to men. If both partners are not growth-oriented, the relationship becomes stale, many things get ignored, pushed inner the rug, and it hinders both partners' personal and spiritual growth.
In this instance, one partner often times "waits" for the other person to change, make him/her change, or starts to blame the partner [without taking responsibility for their own part]. Both approaches usually just prolong the inevitable. Couples can also be together for decades, but it is a co-dependent "functional" relationship where many things are unsaid, shoved into the shadow, communication breakdown, and true love departed a long time ago already. In other words, the length of relationships does not always equal quality and depth.
"Many continue to be seduced by the hope that their partner will change for the better, getting so used to being relationally undernourished that when a few crumbs of a desired outcome show up (often just after a serious fuss has been made about needing a closer relationship), those crumbs get framed as a feast, a reason to hang in there, to keep waiting and waiting and waiting... And while we're waiting thus, we are doing little more than postponing our life, impaling ourselves on our hope (our nostalgia for the future), as if this is all we deserve."
~Robert Augustus Masters
2. People get addicted to the romantic phase and sexual attraction, mistaking the early relationship phase for true love [positive shadow projections] and when this phase is over, they blame the partner for all kinds of things [negative shadow projections] and terminate the relationship to look for the next "fix" in the futile attempt to look for the "perfect partner" who will fulfill all their needs [mistaking unfulfilled childhood needs for mature adult needs]. They are the avoidant types and run away the moment issues arise and not seeing it as an opportunity for growth and much-needed inner work. There is also only ONE relationship that can fulfill you on all levels, and it needs to come before any other relationship, and that is your relationship to God/the Divine.
“The recurrent fantasy of, or search for, the “perfect partner” is a strong signal from our psyche that we have work to do on ourselves. For a healthy adult, there is no such thing as a perfect partner except temporarily or momentarily. No one source of happiness exists, nor can one partner make life perfect The fact that this happens in fairy tales says it all. A relationship cannot be expected to fulfill all our needs; it only shows them to us and makes a modest contribution to their fulfillment.
~David Richo
3. Because of the [collective] need for more authentic and deeper relationships, people look for their "twin flame," Queen, King, or Divine Masculine/Feminine counterpart, all concepts which have become very distorted in today's New Age/pop-spiritual teachings or people fall for the superficial polarity personality role play [lacking psychological and spiritual depth] that seems very hyped these days. For example. The popular Twin flame concept is a gross distortion of the original esoteric concept of the "polar couple," which the occult hostile forces have hijacked and used to manipulate relationships for their own "loosh" gain.
4. More and more people are single and have become so disillusioned or disappointed in their attempts to [attract] find a partner that they have become hardened and tell themselves that they are "meant to be alone" to that there is "no one out there for them." Both beliefs are usually unconscious self-defeating trauma responses. Or they have impossible "standards" [positive projections] [based on points 2 and 3] without embodying those qualities themselves or making any effort to learn more about relationship psychology and their own psychology, trauma, coping mechanisms, shadow, etc. They can also be way too hard on themselves and hence look for an "idealized version" and unconsciously push away love when it comes around [due to childhood trauma.]”~
~Bernhard Guenther
