23/04/2025
Attachment Styles: Understanding the Patterns That Shape Our Relationships
Our attachment style — the way we connect, disconnect, and respond in relationships — is formed in early childhood through our interactions with caregivers. But here’s the good news: it can be healed. With awareness, support, and self-compassion, we can move toward a secure attachment style and experience healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Anxious / Preoccupied
Core Fear: Abandonment, rejection
You might notice:
• Overexplaining or oversharing too soon
• Seeking reassurance: “Are you mad?” or “Are you still there?”
• High sensitivity to tone or disconnection
Disorganized / Fearful-Avoidant
Core Fear: Both closeness and abandonment
You might notice:
• Push-pull dynamics (connect, withdraw, reconnect)
• Big emotional reactions followed by shutdown
• Trauma history is often present
Avoidant / Dismissive
Core Fear: Enmeshment, vulnerability, dependency
You might notice:
• Emotional detachment or a flat affect
• Preference for logic over emotional depth
• Difficulty naming needs or asking for help
Secure Attachment
Core State: Comfortable with closeness and independence
You might notice:
• Open emotional expression
• Ability to reflect, repair, and collaborate
• Resilience in navigating conflict
Remember: “Attachment isn’t a label — it’s a relational pattern in motion.” And with curiosity and care, you can shift that motion toward healing.
If you need support on this journey, reach out.❤️
Larney 🧚🏻
Existential Therapist & Counselor,
Massage Therapist, Meditation Guide and Spiritual Mentor.
Whatsapp 0738899403
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