27/11/2025
ENERGY MOVES IN THE PAUSE
Energy moves in the pause
Sensation is in the pause.
Feeling is in the pause.
Presence is in the pause.
Power is in the pause.
The model of s*x that most of us use, engage with, follow, do, is one of movement and friction.
It's about harder and faster.
It's an expression of s*x that's or**sm oriented, performance based, and is actually a narrow expression of pleasure.
There are experiences that invite us, that take us deep into our bodies, deep into our hearts, deep into sensation, deep into pleasure.
And deep into energy.
They're experiences of expansion.
They're experiences that take us to places within ourselves that begin to show us what pleasure really is.
They're experiences that gives us a direct feeling of our s*xual energy.
They're experiences that show us the vastness, the depth, the subtlety, of who we are, of what's within us, and the field of possibility.
We get there, to these places, to these experiences by changing what we do s*xually, how we are.
We move from the model of friction, from hard and fast, to something else.
We move to something that understands that as much as s*x is a physical experience, it's an energy experience.
And when we understand that, when that lands, so much changes.
Within us, between us.
And as much as there are deep understandings, deep practices, there is also a layer of simplicity.
It's learning to pause.
When there's constant sensation, constant stimulation, we actually don't feel much.
Tension builds within us.
And tension seeks release.
That's what it is for so many of us, release.
Not feeling.
Here's what happens.
Touch, in whatever way, builds energy.
It begins as a ripple, becomes a wave.
Intensity increases.
And when we pause, oh, when we pause, all that delicious feeling, sensation, energy, flows through the body.
Awakening, opening.
On one level it's so simple.
On another it's so powerful.
The pause is the portal to realms of wonder.
We are designed, were created, evolved, however you see it, to feel.
There is so much within us.
We were not designed just for the surface, just for a few seconds of explosive release.
And we were not designed to repeat this patterned, conditioned, friction based experience over and over.
There is an ocean of pleasure, a universe, of energy, inviting us.
The invitation is within us.
It's in our bodies, it's in our hearts, it's in our blood, in our skin, in our nerves.
And it's in these channels within us, unseen, unknown, until we allow the energy to move, to flow, to dance, to whisper, to sing, to howl.
It can be hard, it can be fast, it can be fiery.
It can be slow, gentle, tender, soft.
It can be so many things, so many ways.
And the power is in the pause.
It moves when we pause.
The intimacy is in the pause.
In that moment, we're still, we're holding our lover.
We're listening to their body.
We're feeling the pulsations, the throbbing.
We're present in a way that is deeply connected.
We're allowing the experience to be what it is, whatever it is, we're not forcing, we're not chasing.
We're not trying to get somewhere.
We're here, in this delicious, beautiful, powerful, trembling, quivering moment.
When we understand this, when we spend time learning this, experiencing this, we begin to become masters.
This, these experiences, these feelings, are what we yearn for.
Because they are who we are, how we are.
This is what our body is, this is what our s*x is.
This is one, for there are many, of the portals, one of the paths to ecstasy.
I invite you to experience.
I invite you to feel…
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