Hayley Van Stenis - Wellness Counsellor

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Hayley Van Stenis - Wellness Counsellor

Natural Health Practitioner, Specialist Wellness Counsellor - Illness to Wholeness to Wisdom "Come home to yourself" Languages include English & Afrikaans.

Working with adults, adolescents, couples and families, my goal is to empower people, to be able to make choices, which will ultimately improve, their over all quality of life. Looking to restore health and wellbeing, advise on coping skills, improve relationships, and teach tools to manage stress. With an eclectic training background, I work towards meeting your individual needs within the therapeutic space. I was fortunate in having the opportunity to work at an inpatient specialised care addiction treatment facilities. Where patients primarily received treatment for process and chemical addiction, including support for trauma, personality disorders, anxiety, burn out and depression. In 2017 I moved into private practice in Hermanus, offering face to face and Skype sessions.

20/12/2025

Silly season, all the excessive eating, drinking etc etc, can be a very triggering time if you are a recovering addict. Just because most people think that they don’t have choice in the way that they behave over the festive season. Does not mean that recovering addicts, need to forget that they do.
There will be hundreds of other Christmas’s….addicts only have one recovery. …..So if you are a recovering addict ….don’t be a dumb ass, like the rest of them…..be proud, be wise, be sober!!!

18/12/2025

your behaviour shapes your day.
your thoughts shape your behaviour. unhelpful expectations like …”they must, it should, we can” set you up to fail….…the only things you can control are your thoughts, beliefs, actions… just let the rest go!!!!

10/12/2025

It’s easy to blame other people for the conflict in your life. “I can’t believe that he’s like that. I can’t believe she said that”. Have you ever thought what is it about you, that attracts all these people that cause the conflict?…. A difficult question..??. You also have a role to play in this. Maybe you didn’t directly or deliberately cause it, but if it’s something that continuously turns up on your doorstep, you do well to take a look at it. Allowing yourself an opportunity of choice….. To make change, by choosing more helpful behaviour and solving the conflict.

08/12/2025

Not everybody gets blessed with old age. This is something I learned when my first husband died and although I miss him every day. I am grateful for the life lesson..

01/12/2025

Having a “healthy” fear of rejection is so normal for people. We all want to belong, to find our tribe. It is literally connected to the idea of safety in numbers. It is when this, spirals out of control. When we are filled with anxiety, shame, and guilt and our behaviours become governed by these thoughts and emotions, that we need to catch a wake up and check ourselves. Fear based decisions, are one of the symptoms that we need to do this very personal check in. Why to ask? …..WELL….. When we choose, with the intention of preventing being rejected, we choose what is best for others not ourselves. AND quite frankly we all deserve better!’

30/11/2025

As a child school was hard for me. Sometimes I need to remind myself. “It’s ok, you are not that little girl anymore”❤️ We all have a vulnerable child within us. This vulnerability is triggered at times. To get mean and hard on yourself, when feeling your vulnerability, just replays the heartache. Give that child what it needed but never got. To blame and shame gets you nowhere. Show love and understanding. Most importantly tell your vulnerable child, it need not deal with your grown up life. Your adult self has got this!!!!

27/11/2025

When you where a children you had fewer choices. You were still developing mentally, physically and emotionally. You were dependent on your primary care givers for allot. Now that you are an adult you don’t get to blame other people for your unhappiness …..problem + unhappy = do something about it..result no more problem 🙃 not sure what to do? You don’t need to try and work these things out alone anyone… DM me “support” if you have a challenge and let’s book some time to talk.

25/11/2025

WTF!!! why do I still get so stuck on the nonsense and meanness, that I show myself, when I feed into the unrealistic, unkind, just dam stupid, idealistic nonsense ….:we are fed by our societies. Let’s stop this, it’s time..this summer let’s all just embrace our beautiful bodies and walk with our heads held high.

23/11/2025

We need to all stop living by unrealistic standards. Let’s get honest, half the stuff that you tell yourself about your past and how fantastic it was, is not close to what it really was…. a lot of the time it’s like when someone dies and everyone only wants to remember how amazing that person was, but when they were alive, no one really liked them... You can only do as much as you can do in a day. What you do on that day, does not have to be compared to anything. Because then that day is a success, a triumph and so are you. That day is your enough. Tomorrow will be another day. All you need do, is remember your enough, learn what you need to learn, let go of the rest and have another day of enough!!!

20/11/2025

I know and understand that there are multiple reasons, why you might find it hard to treat yourself, with the same respect that you treat others. I also know, that feeling as if you don’t deserve better, like you are not good enough, does not start as a choice. That no one chooses to battle like this. I know that no one wants to be like this. But what I also know, is that generally no one cares about your pain and suffering, more than what you do. It is very rare and fortunate when someone, is given the help and support that they need, without them making the first move towards change. Truth is, it’s up to you, to take responsibility, for your life, for your healing. You just need to take one small step in that direction, to start making the change. Don’t know how? I just told you, start meeting yourself where you are at!!!! ps and you need not do it alone. DM me “change” I can be there to walk with you and find a way

Address

Block B, Arundel Medical Rooms, 79 Church Steet
Hermanus
7200

Telephone

+27824924285

Website

https://hayleyvanstenis.co.za/

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