Postpartum Mummy

16/01/2024

🔖Request for volunteers - Parents of Children With ADHD

This serves as an invitation for parents of children with ADHD in my Masters Research with regard to the below topic that has been approved by my supervisor and university Ethics panel.

🎯Research Topic: Exploring the challenges of parents, in caring for children with ADHD, in urban South Africa

📚Volunteers will be asked to fill out a 10 minute anonymous questionnaire with regard to current stressors experienced by parents, caregivers and legal guardians.

⚖️Criteria:
- Parents, caregivers and legal guardians must be 18 years of age or older
- Must be living with and caring for a child with ADHD
- Must be living in urban areas in South Africa

Please feel free to contact me should you require any additional support, as the survey is anonymous and therefore we will not be collecting any emails or specific data for follow-up. Emails for support can be sent to 📧 connect@wellnessspecialist.co.za or whatsapp me directly on 061 462 7419.

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Thank you for agreeing to participate in my online study as part of my Masters Degree requirements. The study aims to explore the challenges of parents, in caring for children with ADHD, in urban South Africa and is estimated to take approximately 5 -10 minutes to complete. You participation is comp...

12/10/2021

Stillbirth is Still Birth and I’m Still A Mom

2 days

On the 12th of October 2014 I started to say goodbye to my baby boy. I did so with the realisation that in 2 days we would be separated and his perfect little form would leave my body - creating an emptiness that would linger for always. I tried to say goodbye during that time, through the labour and his birth, through the aftermath of empty arms and an empty womb. Working very carefully towards saying goodbye.

I say ‘started’ to say goodbye because 7 years later I’m still trying to get over the finality of that period. And 7 years later, I am still trying to say goodbye.

The problem with this concept of goodbyes and closure is that to me my son is very much alive. He is alive as a curly haired bundle of energy in my dreams, he is alive in the memories of this big sister and little brother, he is alive in the conversations my husband and I have, he is a part of every celebration and a mention in every moment that doesn’t quite go as it should.

So I struggle with the goodbyes.

You see, stillbirth didn’t happen to me - I am stillbirth. My son wasn’t spontaneously aborted - he was born still. And his death is not a secret - his name is pure and worthy of memory. So I don’t want to say goodbye. And I don’t think anyone should be forced to.

01/10/2021

Letters from my baby

Such a sweet note from my amazing daughter, Rachy(9 years old) and a message from her brother in heaven. Who wouldn’t want to be a bit of sugar in a salty cake!!

29/09/2021

Sometimes I see them together and I think how lucky we are to have them, and how lucky they are to have each other. There is nothing quite like sibling connection, shared experiences and chilling together in a space. Rainbow baby Daniel and Preemie Princess Rachel. I’m a happy mummy tonight❤️

14/09/2021

When you are a mum to kids with the special abilities that come with , you celebrate the things that others might view as normal. Like an empty lunch box, brought home closed tightly and a beautifully folded up piece of wax paper. In attention is something we struggle with and this recent change has bright so much joy to both my daughter and I. I know her struggle well, and it’s not an easy path to embark on but unlike this mummy she will have a chance to know that what makes her super intelligent and also very misunderstood is also what makes her a superhero in my books!

18/07/2021

Sometimes I worry about how they argue amongst themselves and other times I am overcome with tender moments like helping die a shoelace or an unexpected hug and kiss. There is nothing quite like sibling love!

17/06/2021

Brush

I brush your hair every morning and every evening
Not because I have to
But because I love the moments
I love the conversation
I love hearing your 9 year old logic
I love hearing about your highs and lows
I even love hearing fire when you scream OUCH dramatically
I love meeting your eyes in the mirror
I love seeing your noise scrunch up when you laugh
I love the way you are still so little
And I sometimes forget that

I brush your hair
Because in those moments
It’s just you and me

~ Mummy

Keshnie Mathi

12/12/2020

I experienced this with my first pregnancy ♥

13/11/2020

It's World Kindess Day!

" Kindness in primary care
Patients undergoing embarrassing or undignified procedures or needing to discuss personal problems or difficult feelings, are vulnerable and need treating with kindness in order to reassure them and address their problems" - Independent nurse