14/05/2025
This is for the people who feel like they're hard to love.
Y’all, we can all be difficult. All of us.
And the most “difficult” aspects of our personalities are often self-protective, formed because we’re afraid of exposing our most tender, vulnerable parts.
Many were raised to believe they were difficult simply because their caregivers or parents did not know how (or have the bandwidth) to support a growing human who displayed the full range of their emotional spectrum.
And so many people grew up to believe that big, core parts of who they are not lovable because their adults didn’t know how to separate their worth & goodness from their feelings or behavior.
But you are so lovable.
You — yes, you – are so easy to love.
Even with your protective mechanisms - because they are not you, and you are not them.
Your behavior is changeable, but your worth and lovability are not.
And when people can only see your protective parts, it’s because they’re also living in the world through their protective, reactive parts.
When we soften our defenses, it becomes more natural to have compassion for others’ hardness and to see it for what it is, and not to confuse it for *who* someone is. (which doesn’t mean we don’t have boundaries, but we don’t need to define someone’s essence by their pain).
This is all to say that you are lovable.
As the poet Rumi says, our work is not to seek for love, but simply to remove the barriers we have built against it.
May you soften and feel the love today.
Want to shift that relationship with yourself so that you can connect with just how lovable you really are? The Let It Go (emotional self management) Workshop begins June 3rd, and the 4pm timeslot is now SOLD OUT - a few spots left in the 10am (pacific time). This is the only time I'll be running this workshop in 2025.
https://theeqschool.co/let-it-go-workshop
