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21/05/2026

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21/05/2026

20/05/2026

Some people change after pain.
Some after loss.
Some after betrayal.
And some after finally getting tired of abandoning themselves.

These 10 images reminded me of something important as a psychotherapist:

Healing is rarely one dramatic moment.
It’s usually a series of uncomfortable realizations.

• The people around you affect your nervous system more than you think.
• One decision can completely change your identity.
• Pain can harden you or strengthen you.
• Not everyone will understand your growth.
• And the smallest consistent action today creates a different life tomorrow.

Many people are not lazy.
They’re emotionally exhausted, disconnected, overwhelmed, or stuck in survival mode.

Sometimes people don’t need judgment.
They need understanding, structure, emotional safety, and guidance.

And sometimes… they simply need someone who truly sees what they’re carrying.

17/05/2026

08/05/2026

People pay thousands for nervous system regulation workshops…

…while Islam quietly taught a grounding position 1400 years ago.

Sujood is not “just a ritual.”

Psychologically, it forces the body into one of the most vulnerable positions possible: • head lowered
• breathing slowed
• muscles relaxed
• stimulation reduced

And strangely enough… the brain often interprets surrender as safety.

Modern therapy calls it: “downregulating the nervous system.”

Islam called it: “Sujood.”

When a person keeps fighting life mentally, the body stays in survival mode.

But during sujood, something shifts: The ego lowers. The nervous system softens. The racing thoughts slow down.

That’s why some people cry in sujood without understanding why.

Not weakness. Release.

Religion was never only spiritual. It was psychological survival too.

Dr Arjumand Raza (PsyD) Psychotherapist | Special Needs Support | Islamic Psychology

🌐 Arjumand Raza Official Website 📧 Ms.arjumandr@gmail.com 📞 +27 71 017 5451

06/05/2026

“If therapists had perfect lives, we’d be out of business.”

There’s this strange belief that if you’re a coach or a therapist, you should have your entire life perfectly figured out.
As if we’re some upgraded version of humans who don’t feel overwhelmed, confused, or emotionally exhausted.
Reality check: we’re human first.
And when life gets heavy, I don’t pretend to be “strong.”
I get support.
Because clarity doesn’t come from struggling alone.
It comes from being guided when your mind is too loud to think straight.
For me, that safe space has been Bismillah Pathways and & Co.
People who hold space, challenge my thinking, and help me reset when things feel too much.
Therapy isn’t weakness.
It’s emotional hygiene.
You don’t wait to collapse before you take care of your body.
So why wait until you’re breaking to take care of your mind?
The strongest people I know don’t avoid help.
They invest in it.
If you’re still thinking therapy is a “taboo,” ask yourself this:
Is struggling silently really the better option?
Because healing doesn’t happen in isolation.
It happens in the right environment.
And sometimes, even the ones who guide others… need someone to guide them too.

Normalize support.
Normalize growth.
Normalize not doing life alone.

05/05/2026

Can you sit with yourself?
Why silence feels Heavy?
You can have everything but still feel uncomfortable alone.
You dont need more people you just need a better Relationship with yourself.
You’re not tired. You’re avoiding yourself.
You check your phone.
You distract yourself.
You stay busy.
Not because life is overwhelming…
but because silence feels uncomfortable.
The truth?
You carry your thoughts everywhere.
You sit with your emotions every day.
You respond to life through your mindset.
So if your inner world feels chaotic,
everything outside starts to feel heavy too.
But when you learn how to sit with yourself…
without anxiety, without noise…
that’s where peace starts.
Not outside. Inside.
💬 Be honest… can you sit quietly with your thoughts without reaching for distraction?

If you want to feel mentally lighter and emotionally steady, I help people rebuild their inner world step by step.
Dr Arjumand Raza (PsyD)
📧 Ms.arjumandr@gmail.com
📞 +27 710 175 451
🌐 www.arjumandr.com⁠�

03/05/2026

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01/05/2026

I found my first white hair today.
So naturally, I held a board meeting with my scalp.

Today, history was made.
I found my first white hair.
Not a strand. A statement.
A tiny silver flag planted on my head by time itself.
And instead of panicking, I did the math. Because trauma taught me many things, but calculations were one of them.
If the average life expectancy for women in South Africa is around 65… then I have officially spent 60% of my life.
That’s 14,600 days.
350,400 hours.
And approximately 97% of those hours were spent solving problems I didn’t create.
So this white hair?
It’s not aging.
It’s a trophy.
Proof that I survived relationships, career shifts, health battles, expectations, reinventions, and people who said “just relax” like it was a medically approved treatment plan.
I left one path and fully stepped into psychotherapy 13 years ago.
Best decision.
Because after becoming a psychotherapist, I learned two things:
Everyone has issues.
The people who say they don’t… usually have premium subscription issues.
I also learned I’m not the only person whose brain creates 47 alternate conversations before breakfast.
Comforting.
And here’s my philosophy:
If Plan A fails, there are 25 more letters.
And if all letters fail, invent symbols.
Who said survival has to be alphabetical?
So no, I’m not sad about this white hair.
I earned it.
And if more come… they better arrive with respect.

Stress really said, “Let me decorate your scalp.”
Apparently wisdom is silver, not gold. Inflation affects everything.
I’m not aging. I’m becoming a limited edition.
Therapy taught me healing. Life taught me sarcasm.
My hair is now fact-checking my age publicly.

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