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10/02/2026

Your brain runs on an algorithm too.
Feed it one problem and it starts showing you “proof.”
Wrong place. Wrong time. Wrong people.
Conveniently, never wrong patterns.
Just like Instagram, your mind pushes what you engage with.
Scroll victimhood, get more victimhood.
Change focus, the feed changes.
Blame is viral. Responsibility is premium content.

Your Brain Has an Algorithm Too.

19/01/2026

How do you know you’re on the right path?
Success is when the next generation chooses you as their reference point.

Not when life is easy.
Not when applause is loud.
Not when things look impressive on paper.
You know you’re in the right direction when the next generation starts watching you, learning from you, and asking you for guidance.
This moment with the brilliant psychology students from Oxford College, Canada reminded me why purpose matters more than position.
These are not beginners.
They are already trained psychologists with years of academic experience.
Yet when they were given an unusually complex assignment on mental health, addiction, autism, and clinical practice, they reached out for support, insight, and direction.
Because real growth recognises real depth.
Influence is not built through titles.
It is built through trust.
Through consistency.
Through showing up when knowledge becomes complicated and answers are not easily available.
When young professionals model your work, seek your perspective, and rely on your experience, that is when you know your journey is aligned with impact.
Grateful for minds that question.
Honoured to support those who will shape the future of psychology.
This is how legacies are built.



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15/01/2026

Your Past Self Is Not Your Brand

Growth is not betrayal.
It’s evidence of learning.
If someone still sees you as who you were years ago, that’s not loyalty. That’s outdated data.
Humans evolve the same way technology does.
Updates happen because improvement is necessary.
You are allowed to outgrow old habits.
You are allowed to upgrade your mindset.
You are allowed to become unrecognisable.
Progress is not arrogance.
It’s responsibility.
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15/01/2026

Navigating the complexity of love, relationships, friendships and family. ❤️
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14/01/2026

Your Mind Is Not a whirlpool bath. Stop Boiling It.

A calm pool reflects perfectly.
A boiling pool reflects nothing.
Same water.
Different temperature.
Different reality.
When your mind is calm, you see clearly.
When your mind is overheated with stress, drama, and overthinking, reality turns into a blurry mess.
People don’t lose clarity because life is hard.
They lose clarity because they never slow down.
Stillness is not laziness.
It’s mental power.
Control the heat.
Or live confused.

13/01/2026

Is your marriage just a partnership… or a sign from Allah?
Marriage in Islam is not a contract of convenience.
It is a divine ayah. A sanctuary of sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah.
When tension rises, what do you choose first
your ego or your mercy?
Every marriage faces moments where love feels distant and words hurt.
These are not failures. They are invitations to grow.
Your spouse is your garment.
To protect you.
To comfort you.
To stay close to your heart.
Love may shake.
Mercy must not.
Because sometimes Allah places goodness inside the very struggle you want to escape.
Grow together. Heal together. Earn His pleasure together.

12/01/2026

Your Marriage Is Not Toxic. Your Unhealed Trauma Is.

Love is not supposed to feel like anxiety.
Marriage is not supposed to feel like a battlefield.
Home is not supposed to feel like a courtroom.
If your relationship has:
Daily fights
Silent treatments
Emotional distance
Control games
Power struggles
That’s not “normal marriage”.
That’s emotional damage running the relationship.
Quick fixes people try: • Ignoring problems
• Staying quiet to keep peace
• Sleeping in separate rooms
• Threatening divorce
Congratulations. You paused the war.
You did not fix it.
Strong couples don’t fight less.
They heal better.
If you want to save your marriage, stop Googling quotes and start healing patterns.
Love needs skills.
Marriage needs therapy.

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25/12/2025

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23/12/2025

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21/12/2025

“You’re Not Addicted to Food. You’re Seeking Relief.” If food is the only time your mind feels quiet… read this.
• “When I binge, I feel free.”
• “I hate it… but I look forward to it.”
• “I’m good all week, then I collapse.”

This isn’t weakness.
This is your nervous system asking for relief.

🍽️ Binge Eating Isn’t About Food

It’s about:
• Numbing anxiety
• Escaping shame
• Taking a break from being “strong”
• Feeling safe for a moment
Food becomes the fastest exit.

❌ Let’s Be Clear
• It’s not lack of willpower
• It’s not your body size
• It’s not fixed by another diet

Diets don’t fail because you fail.
They fail because restriction fuels bingeing.

🧠 What a Binge Really Is
• Dissociation
• Self-soothing
• Emotional anesthesia

Food isn’t the enemy.
Food is the coping tool you learned when nothing else worked.

🌱 Recovery Is Possible

Recovery doesn’t mean “never binge again.”
It means:
• Less shame
• Shorter episodes
• Faster recovery
• Real needs met without punishment
You don’t need control.
You need compassion + skill.
If this post felt uncomfortably accurate,
you’re not broken and you’re not alone.
Help exists. And yes, it can work for you too.


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15/12/2025

“Every facet of your life mirrors the choices you’ve made, be they splendid or adverse. To forge a divergent path, you must craft superior decisions.

Poor choices breed regrettable outcomes. They frequently stem from emotional impulses rather than logical reasoning. Doubling down on such decisions often arises from ego and self-perception.

Even individuals of virtue stumble into folly. Errors are human, yet they need not define an entire lifespan.

How does one discern a misstep?
⭐️ The primary signal is feeling ensnared(stuck) instead of impactful.
🌟🌟 Optimal decisions sharpens your skills; even in despair, the right partner completes the next chapters of your life journey, despite of being broken.
🌟🌟⭐️ You’re at liberty to choose, but the consequences aren’t within your control.
🌟🌟⭐️⭐️ The sagacious assume full ownership of their choices, transforming them to their advantage.”
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