Leonard Carr Clinical Psychologist

07/05/2026

https://medium.com//parenting-the-adhd-child-from-fixing-a-problem-to-enjoying-a-person-15cf12c309d5

A child runs through a room with more energy than the room seems able to hold. One parent feels embarrassed. Another feels judged. A…

06/05/2026

https://medium.com//what-if-youre-not-lazy-understanding-adhd-beyond-the-stereotypes-18ec6163cfdd

There are people who move through life carrying a private accusation against themselves.

05/05/2026

A man sits across from his partner, listening as she names the hurt she has carried for months. He does not interrupt. He does not deny the facts. At times, he even nods. And yet, when the conversation reaches its natural point of repair—when a simple acknowledgement might restore something between them—he turns, subtly, but unmistakably.

“I’m sorry you feel that way.”

The words are close to an apology.

But something essential has been withheld.

This is a familiar experience. The absence of apology is rarely loud. It is not always defiance or cruelty. More often, it is a quiet inability—a turning away at precisely the moment where responsibility would restore dignity.

It raises a question that is both relational and deeply psychological:

Why do some people struggle, sometimes profoundly, to apologise?

An apology, at its simplest, is an act of alignment.

03/05/2026

Joan Miró - La casa de la palmera, 1918. Oil on canvas, 65 x 73 cm. @ Museo Nacional Centro de Arte Reina Sofía, Madrid, Spain

13/04/2026

"Inger in Black and Violet", (1892)
-Edvard Munch-

13/04/2026

13/04/2026

https://medium.com//the-cost-of-conflict-why-we-destroy-what-we-most-need-ba24a1ab3c25

Two parents sit across a table, each convinced they are acting in their child's best interests. Their language is measured, their…

11/04/2026

10/04/2026

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John Baeder (American, b. 1938). John's Diner with John's Chevelle, 2007. Oil paint on canvas, 30 x 48 in. l 76.2 x 121.9 cm. © John Baeder. irequireart.com

06/04/2026

https://medium.com//psychological-sovereignty-freedom-from-the-need-to-be-understood-75bbb7bddbe3

A woman leaves a conversation and feels unsettled. Nothing overtly hostile was said. There was no argument, no raised voices. And yet, as…

06/04/2026

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/one-most-destructive-habits-relationships-need-understood-carr-9khqf

Most people assume feeling understood is the foundation of connection. In reality, the need to be understood often becomes a form of control.