20/08/2025
Self-regulation is taught through co-regulation. Those who do not receive enough co-regulation, as a young child, may not develop many self-regulation skills. Instead, they may suppress or react to emotions that make them uncomfortable.
The pathways in our brains that tell our bodies and minds what to do with certain emotions, are set in early childhood. The pathways that develop into self-regulation are created through co-regulation. Without enough co-regulation, different pathways are made and self-regulation becomes harder because our brains want to do what we’ve always done… what works. It takes so much intentional effort to stop yourself from taking that well-worn pathway and trying something else.
What’s your go-to? Suppression, reaction or regulation?
Learn all about this process in my latest book 👇
Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation
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