07/11/2025
When Forgetfulness Feels Like Something More
When I was a student, one of my psychology lecturers gave us a piece of advice I’ll never forget. He called it “Student Syndrome” that feeling of diagnosing ourselves with every condition we read about in the textbook.
It always makes me think of the families I meet who come to me, anxious that their parent or partner might have dementia because they’ve been a little more forgetful or confused lately.
Not every lapse in memory means dementia. We all forget where we put our keys or walk into a room and wonder why we went there. But sometimes, forgetfulness begins to affect how someone functions day to day, and that’s when it’s time to pay closer attention.
I once worked with a family whose father, once calm and gentle, had started becoming easily irritated and withdrawn. He would ask the same questions repeatedly, get lost while driving routes he’d known for years, and become anxious at sunset, closing the curtains and doors as if the night made him uneasy.
They weren’t sure if it was stress, depression, or something more. Together, we spoke about the difference between normal forgetfulness and behavioural changes that persist across situations.
I encouraged them to speak with a medical specialist because only a doctor can make a diagnosis but more importantly, I reminded them that seeking clarity is an act of love, not fear. ❤️
Sometimes the changes we see in those we love are difficult to face. But with understanding, compassion, and early support, families can navigate these moments with dignity and care.
It’s okay not to have all the answers. What matters most is noticing the changes, asking questions, and reaching out for help when you need it.
Have you noticed changes in someone you love that made you pause and wonder if it’s just forgetfulness or something more?
If you’re feeling uncertain or overwhelmed, I offer confidential online counselling to help you find clarity, understanding, and emotional support during this journey.
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