The Relationship Experience

The Relationship Experience

High Value Determination Exercise*
• Understand the theory of values and how they come into play in a marriage
• Find and understand your personal hierarchy of values
• Understand your spouse’s hierarchy of values
• Practical exercise working with each other to understand how your individual values serve each other
• How to speak in each other’s value’s
High Value Area Exercise*
• Understand the theory of high value areas and how they come into play in a marriage
• Find and understand your personal high value area
• Understand your spouse’s high value area
• Practical exercise working with each other to understand how your individual high value areas serve each other
• How to speak in each other’s value’s
The Dynamics of Relationship Stress Exercise*
• Understand the 15 fantasies and delusions that give rise to the ABCD’s of negativity and depression in a marriage:
o Anger/Aggression, Blame/Betrayal, Criticism/Challenge, Despondency/Desperation
• Discussion on how this works in relationships and how they relate to high values and high value area’s
• Where do you have unrealistic expectations of spouse?
• Where does your spouse have unrealistic expectations of you?
• Where do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself?
• Practicing the gift of feedback. The Five love Languages Exercise ϯ
• Find and understand your Love Language
• Understand your spouse’s Love Language
• Understand when your spouse is speaking to you in their Love Language
• Practical exercise to practice speaking in your spouse’s Love Language
The Five Apology Languages Exercise ϯ
• Find and understand your Apology Language
• Understand your spouse’s Apology Language
• Understand when your spouse is apologizing to you in their Apology Language
• Practical exercise to practice apologizing in your spouse’s Apology Language


There is never anything missing: The Soul Mate Exercise*
• Recognizing your soul mate
Likes and Dislikes Exercise *
• Find the 5 traits you most love and the 5 traits you most hate about yourself
• Find the 5 traits you most love and the 5 traits you most hate/dislike about your spouse
• Practicing the gift of feedback. Introduction to the Demartini Method*
• Equilibrate the trait you most hate/dislike about your spouse