TraumaCare

30/05/2025

DID YOU KNOW THAT THE HUMAN BRAIN IS MORE ELECTRICAL THAN ANY MODERN COMPUTER? And yet... we still don't fully understand how it works! This organ weighs only about 1.5 kilograms, but it consumes 20% of the body's entire energy. It has more neural connections than stars in the galaxy and processes millions of data points per second... But, ironically, a simple fall, poor nutrition, or a sleepless night can throw it completely off balance.

And you know what's even crazier? It doesn't feel pain! You can operate on the brain while the person is awake. Can you imagine seeing your cerebral cortex being touched while you're talking to the neurosurgeon?

We live on autopilot, but we're carrying the most complex machine in the universe inside our skulls.
(David Attenborough)

07/05/2025

10/04/2025

LOSING A CHILD
I have posted this again as recently, in my practice, I have sadly had 3 clients who have lost children.

VILOMAH
There are words such as widower or widow when we lose partner or orphan if you lose your parents but no word if we lose our child.

Vilomah is a word that is gaining acceptance and is building a community around itself. The term “Vilomah” describes a parent who has lost their child. Life has its natural order, and in that order, children are supposed to outlive their parents. But sometimes there comes a time when parents have to bury their children.

“Vilomah” comes from Sanskrit, which means “against the natural order.” Sanskrit is one of the oldest languages that dates back to 400 B.C. The same language gave us the word “widow,” signifying “empty.” There are times English cannot capture the true essence of a word. The term “vilomah” is a powerful yet straightforward word that captures the pain and turmoil that a parent faces in this situation.

Karla Halloway, a Duke University professor, began using the word “vilomah” after losing her child. She goes on to say, “the grey-haired should not bury those with black hair. As in, our children should not precede us in death. If they do, we are vilomahed.”

31/03/2025

Lovely TED talk to watch by seven year old
Molly Wfight.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1LBRQfVVTA/?mibextid=wwXIfr

12/02/2025

JUST BE THERE
Ernest Hemingway once said: In our darkest moments, we don’t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection—a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much.
Please don’t try to fix me. Don’t take on my pain or push away my shadows. Just sit beside me as I work through my own inner storms. Be the steady hand I can reach for as I find my way.
My pain is mine to carry, my battles mine to face. But your presence reminds me I’m not alone in this vast, sometimes frightening world. It’s a quiet reminder that I am worthy of love, even when I feel broken.
So, in those dark hours when I lose my way, will you just be here? Not as a rescuer, but as a companion. Hold my hand until the dawn arrives, helping me remember my strength.
Your silent support is the most precious gift you can give. It’s a love that helps me remember who I am, even when I forget.

09/02/2025

RAISING CHILDREN
There are many ways to raise a child.
And there are many people who want to tell you how you should raise your child.

Some will offer their opinions when asked, but many will give unsolicited advice.

it is easy to doubt your parenting decisions when you are surrounded by people questioning your choices.

The truth is that what works for one child may not work for another child.
The truth is that what works for one mother may not work for another mother.
The truth is that every day with your child is the first day of raising your child at that age.

The truth is that NOBODY has all the answers.

What should a mother do?
𝑇𝑟𝑢𝑠𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑡𝑠.

In a world full of opinions, all you can do is trust your own voice and your own heart.

𝐵𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 you 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑤 your 𝑐ℎ𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑛 𝑎𝑛𝑦𝑜𝑛𝑒.

Will you always get it right?
No.
Will you always do what you think is best?
Yes. With every ounce of your being.

Written by: Randi Latzman

18/01/2025

ANXIETY AND FOOD

I am often asked about the link between emotions and food, here is some interesting reading about the link between anxiety and diet.

“Does diet affect anxiety? If so, what should you eat, and which foods should you try to avoid?

People who suffer with anxiety should remember a few simple rules:

Low blood sugar, poor hydration, use of alcohol, caffeine, and smoking can also precipitate or mimic symptoms of anxiety.
Eating regular meals and preventing hypoglycemic states are therefore important.

Adequately hydrating with plain water is best, at least six to eight glasses a day.
While ni****ne does not cause anxiety, withdrawal from ni****ne can mimic anxiety, and people with anxiety may smoke to soothe themselves. It may become a problematic behavior, as ni****ne can also raise blood pressure and heart rate, which are also symptoms of anxiety.

People who feel anxiety may lean on alcohol to calm their nerves, but excessive drinking can lead to its own set of emotional and physical problems.
Many sodas contain caffeine and have a high sugar content. Being aware of these factors and substituting plain water or sparking water for soda can be a healthier option.

Working toward a well-balanced diet with adequate fruits, vegetables, lean meats, and healthy fats remains a good recommendation for those who struggle with anxiety. Avoiding processed foods and foods high in sugar means the body experiences fewer highs and lows of blood sugar, which helps to further reduce feelings of anxiety. Very simply put, a sugar rush can mimic a panic attack.
Ref:Harvard Health

17/01/2025

Grannies are not around forever, let them be part of your children’s lives. Children need many influences, different teaching, different personalities, as the saying goes “it takes a village to raise a child”. This creates a balanced individual and one that can learn more, be independent and make better choices.

15/01/2025

Ernest Hemingway once wrote: "The hardest lesson I’ve had to learn as an adult is the relentless need to keep going, no matter how shattered I feel inside."

This truth is both raw and universal. Life doesn’t pause when our hearts are heavy, our minds are fractured, or our spirits feel like they’re unraveling. It keeps moving—unrelenting, unapologetic—demanding that we move with it. There’s no time to stop, no pause for repair, no moment of stillness where we can gently piece ourselves back together. The world doesn’t wait, even when we need it to.

What makes this even harder is that no one really prepares us for it. As children, we grow up on a steady diet of stories filled with happy endings, tales of redemption and triumph where everything always falls into place. But adulthood strips away those comforting narratives. Instead, it reveals a harsh truth: survival isn’t glamorous or inspiring most of the time. It’s wearing a mask of strength when you’re falling apart inside. It’s showing up when all you want is to retreat. It’s choosing to move forward, step by painful step, when your heart begs for rest.

And yet, we endure. That’s the miracle of being human—we endure. Somewhere in the depths of our pain, we find reserves of strength we didn’t know we possessed. We learn to hold space for ourselves, to be the comfort we crave, to whisper words of hope when no one else does. Over time, we realize that resilience isn’t loud or grandiose; it’s a quiet defiance, a refusal to let life’s weight crush us entirely.

Yes, it’s messy. Yes, it’s exhausting. And yes, there are days when it feels almost impossible to take another step. But even then, we move forward. Each tiny step is proof of our resilience, a reminder that even in our darkest moments, we’re still fighting, still refusing to give up. That fight—that courage—is the quiet miracle of survival.
Ref Coach Mantas