Emotional Fitness

25/09/2025

Overthinking is not good at all for everyone. Listen.

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02/09/2025

Ask a question and let's have a conversation. If you know anyone who will benefit from having a meaningful chat with me, please refer them using this link https://www.facebook.com/EmotionalFitnes.

Emotional Fitness Community was established to readdress self-esteem issues and align one with his/her emotional experiences in order to maintain relationships and reach for stars in their place of work and personal life.

21/07/2025

It was a lovely day yesterday that I even post the 06th day message 😊

Day 6

God isn’t old-fashioned — He’s eternal. And His love is still the answer for this restless generation.

19/07/2025

Day 5

In an era of overthinking, God gives peace that surpasses understanding.

18/07/2025

Day 4

What we hide, God heals. He doesn’t expose to shame, but to restore.

17/07/2025

Day 3

Being woke is trendy, but being spiritually awake? That’s life-changing.

16/07/2025

Day 2

We need more prayer warriors and fewer social media warriors. Fight your battles in the Spirit.

15/07/2025

Join me in celebration of a 30-day Facebook post series on why God is a necessity in this generation:

Day 01

This generation is searching for answers in everything and everyone. God has been the answer all along.

06/07/2025

🌟 Your Journey Matters 🌟

To you with awe,

Remember this: your journey is uniquely yours. Don’t measure your progress against someone else’s timeline. Whether you're striving to grow in your career, seeking emotional healing, deepening your spiritual life, or simply trying to hold it all together—you are doing better than you think.

💼 In your career, small steps still move you forward. Be proud of every job, every skill, and every lesson.

🙏 Spiritually, even in seasons of silence or doubt, God is still working. Keep praying, keep trusting.

💖 Emotionally, healing is not linear. Be gentle with yourself. Celebrate the fact that you are still showing up for yourself and your life.

Each challenge you face is shaping the version of you that your future needs. Don’t give up. Keep pushing, growing, praying, and becoming. One day, you’ll look back and be amazed at how far you’ve come.

✨ Your story is not over — it's unfolding beautifully.

With love and belief in you always,
Mr. Siboniso G. Mthembu

09/04/2025

Appreciate your life experiences. Keep going and never stop regardless of the challenges.

06/04/2025

This post got me thinking hard about the harsh realities as men go through. Bafowethu, we need each other for support. If it becomes too much, please reach out.




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"Modern Fatherhood Is a Thankless Job

If you want to know what true silent suffering looks like—watch a father in 2025.

Fathers don’t just provide anymore. They sacrifice their lives, peace, and identity… and still get disrespected.

Because modern fatherhood isn’t about love. It’s about service. Duty. Disposability.

Let’s break it down:

1. The Legacy Trap

Every man’s deepest fear isn’t death—it’s raising children who don’t carry his name, his values, or his blood.

Legacy is everything. That’s why men build. That’s why men protect. That’s why men die working.

But guess what?

30% of DNA tests come back negative. And that’s just among those bold enough to check.

Do the math. If you have three kids, chances are one might not be yours.

So you’re telling me a man can work 35 years, sacrifice dreams, deny himself joy… and end up investing in another man’s s***m?

No refund. No apology. Just “thanks, Dad.”

2. Divorce Means Automatic Disconnection

Even if the children are yours, there’s still a 50% chance you’ll lose them after divorce.

The court hands her the house, the kids, the sympathy—and hands you bills, depression, and supervised weekend visits.

You become an outsider in the very family you built.

They call another man “Daddy.”

And you get Father’s Day texts… if you’re lucky.

3. Mothers Get the Spotlight, Fathers Get the Stress

The media worships motherhood.

Social platforms turn moms into superheroes for posting lunchbox ideas.

They get celebrated about 30 times around the year.

Meanwhile, the father who left the house at 5am, fought the traffic, paid the rent, almost got stabbed, survived hypertension, and came back home to loud silence?

Zero praise.

She gets flowers for childbirth. You get bills for being the man.

4. If You’re Broke, You’re Trash.

Forget morals. Forget effort. Forget presence.

If you’re a man without money, you’re just an inconvenience—even to your kids.

The modern world respects deadbeat millionaires more than present, struggling fathers.

And when your kids grow up, guess who they take abroad?

Not the man who paid school fees.

Not even the one who bought them their first car.

It’s always the mom. She’s all deserving!

5. The Government Is Raising Your Children

Even if you stay. Even if you fight. Even if you provide.

(Even if your wife aligns with you. 😏)

Modern fatherhood still loses.

Why?

Because the school is telling your son he might be a girl.

The media is teaching your daughter that men are predators.

TikTok is feeding them gender confusion, identity crisis, and a full menu of rebellion.

And you? You’re not allowed to say “No.”

You don’t raise your kids anymore. You sponsor them.

6. You Can’t Discipline. You Can’t Lead. You Can’t Even Speak

Try correcting your child, and you’re “toxic.”

Try setting rules, and you’re “controlling.”

Try raising your voice, and CPS might knock on your door.

So now, fathers are quiet.

Not because they’re weak—but because they’ve been silenced.

7. Society Protects Her, Not You

She cheats? It’s because you were emotionally unavailable.

She withholds s*x? It’s self-care.

She takes your kids and vanishes? It’s “protecting them from trauma.”

You cheat? You’re a monster.

You complain? You’re weak.

You fight for custody? You’re unstable.

Welcome to modern fatherhood.

Conclusion: Why Do Men Still Do It?

Because men are wired to protect—even if they get destroyed doing it.

Because deep down, every real man still hopes he’ll be the exception.

But in this world?

Fatherhood is no longer a position of honor.

It’s a battlefield where you fight for children who might not be yours, in a house that’s not yours, with a woman who might not respect you—and a system that’s praying for your failure.

And yet… we still show up.

Because even in a thankless job, real fathers don’t quit.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t bleed.

Let the comment war begin.

I would love to hear the motherhood apologists spot where I am wrong this time.

17/03/2025

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