06/04/2025
This post got me thinking hard about the harsh realities as men go through. Bafowethu, we need each other for support. If it becomes too much, please reach out.
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"Modern Fatherhood Is a Thankless Job
If you want to know what true silent suffering looks likeâwatch a father in 2025.
Fathers donât just provide anymore. They sacrifice their lives, peace, and identity⌠and still get disrespected.
Because modern fatherhood isnât about love. Itâs about service. Duty. Disposability.
Letâs break it down:
1. The Legacy Trap
Every manâs deepest fear isnât deathâitâs raising children who donât carry his name, his values, or his blood.
Legacy is everything. Thatâs why men build. Thatâs why men protect. Thatâs why men die working.
But guess what?
30% of DNA tests come back negative. And thatâs just among those bold enough to check.
Do the math. If you have three kids, chances are one might not be yours.
So youâre telling me a man can work 35 years, sacrifice dreams, deny himself joy⌠and end up investing in another manâs s***m?
No refund. No apology. Just âthanks, Dad.â
2. Divorce Means Automatic Disconnection
Even if the children are yours, thereâs still a 50% chance youâll lose them after divorce.
The court hands her the house, the kids, the sympathyâand hands you bills, depression, and supervised weekend visits.
You become an outsider in the very family you built.
They call another man âDaddy.â
And you get Fatherâs Day texts⌠if youâre lucky.
3. Mothers Get the Spotlight, Fathers Get the Stress
The media worships motherhood.
Social platforms turn moms into superheroes for posting lunchbox ideas.
They get celebrated about 30 times around the year.
Meanwhile, the father who left the house at 5am, fought the traffic, paid the rent, almost got stabbed, survived hypertension, and came back home to loud silence?
Zero praise.
She gets flowers for childbirth. You get bills for being the man.
4. If Youâre Broke, Youâre Trash.
Forget morals. Forget effort. Forget presence.
If youâre a man without money, youâre just an inconvenienceâeven to your kids.
The modern world respects deadbeat millionaires more than present, struggling fathers.
And when your kids grow up, guess who they take abroad?
Not the man who paid school fees.
Not even the one who bought them their first car.
Itâs always the mom. Sheâs all deserving!
5. The Government Is Raising Your Children
Even if you stay. Even if you fight. Even if you provide.
(Even if your wife aligns with you. đ)
Modern fatherhood still loses.
Why?
Because the school is telling your son he might be a girl.
The media is teaching your daughter that men are predators.
TikTok is feeding them gender confusion, identity crisis, and a full menu of rebellion.
And you? Youâre not allowed to say âNo.â
You donât raise your kids anymore. You sponsor them.
6. You Canât Discipline. You Canât Lead. You Canât Even Speak
Try correcting your child, and youâre âtoxic.â
Try setting rules, and youâre âcontrolling.â
Try raising your voice, and CPS might knock on your door.
So now, fathers are quiet.
Not because theyâre weakâbut because theyâve been silenced.
7. Society Protects Her, Not You
She cheats? Itâs because you were emotionally unavailable.
She withholds s*x? Itâs self-care.
She takes your kids and vanishes? Itâs âprotecting them from trauma.â
You cheat? Youâre a monster.
You complain? Youâre weak.
You fight for custody? Youâre unstable.
Welcome to modern fatherhood.
Conclusion: Why Do Men Still Do It?
Because men are wired to protectâeven if they get destroyed doing it.
Because deep down, every real man still hopes heâll be the exception.
But in this world?
Fatherhood is no longer a position of honor.
Itâs a battlefield where you fight for children who might not be yours, in a house thatâs not yours, with a woman who might not respect youâand a system thatâs praying for your failure.
And yet⌠we still show up.
Because even in a thankless job, real fathers donât quit.
But that doesnât mean we donât bleed.
Let the comment war begin.
I would love to hear the motherhood apologists spot where I am wrong this time.
