25/11/2025
My clients know I provide various massage stimulation techniques for relaxing stressed nervous systems and the immediate benefits you experience afterwards. This time of year many of us are feeling stressed out so I want to share some tips you can practice on yourself to help reduce your nervous system stress quickly and easily.
Here is a calming sequence that helps down-regulate fight-or-flight, release tension, and activate the parasympathetic system.
1. Settle and Prepare (20–30 seconds)
Sit upright or lie down comfortably.
Place one hand on your heart, the other on your belly.
Take three slow breaths through the nose, with long, relaxed exhales.
(The long exhale signals safety and begins activating the vagus nerve.)
2. Jaw Release & TMJ Soothing (1 minute)
The vagus nerve communicates with facial and jaw muscles; softening the jaw relaxes the whole system.
Let the jaw hang loosely.
Using your fingertips, massage small circles in front of the ears, over the TMJ joint.
Move down along the jawline toward the chin.
Keep your breath slow and deep.
This reduces sympathetic activation and signals the body to soften.
3. Ear Traction Activation (1 minute)
The vagus nerve has branches that innervate parts of the outer ear.
Gently hold the outer edge of each ear between thumb and finger.
Slowly stretch the ears outward, upward, and slightly back.
Repeat 5–8 times.
Finish by gently massaging the small triangular fossa (upper inner ear bowl).
This is one of the most direct manual ways to stimulate the vagus nerve.
4. Neck Glide & Cervical Release (1 minute)
Where the vagus nerve travels down the side of the neck.
Place the fingertips of both hands on either side of the neck below the ears.
Glide downward with very light pressure (like applying lotion).
Move slowly, never pressing on the throat or carotid artery.
Repeat 6–10 slow strokes.
This encourages lymph flow, reduces tension, and creates a soothing somatic cue of safety.
5. Suboccipital Pressure Point (1 minute)
Targets the “vagal gateway” under the skull.
Place your thumbs (or two fingertips) at the base of your skull, where the neck muscles meet the bone.
Apply gentle pressure upward into the ridge.
Hold for 20–30 seconds.
Release slowly and repeat.
This area is rich in nerve pathways and helps reset the stress response.
6. Diaphragm & Solar Plexus Softening (1 minute)
The vagus nerve passes through the diaphragm—tension here restricts its function.
Place one hand under the rib cage, centre or slightly left.
As you inhale, keep the hand still.
On the exhale, gently press inward and upward.
Repeat for 6–8 breaths.
This encourages deeper breathing and reduces vagal compression.
7. Finish with a Long Exhale Anchor (30 seconds)
Place both hands over your belly.
Inhale for a count of 4.
Exhale for a count of 6–8.
Let the shoulders drop and the jaw soften.
Signs You’ve Activated the Vagus Nerve:
(These may appear during or after the massage)
body softening, sighing or swallowing, warmth in the chest or belly, watery eyes, gurgling in the tummy (digestive activation), feeling grounded, calm, or sleepy.
Hope this helps :)
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