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09/03/2026

If you want to stop yelling send me a WhatsApp, we'll figure it out together 💙
Children need play, I will teach you how to keep the balance between play and discipline 😁 💙

08/03/2026

To all my millennial parents, who are fighting to break the chains and the generational curses by learning to regulate, by saying no, by going to therapy. By asking for help!
You are not weird, you are brave💙💙
Keep going!! 💪🏻

Millennials are the first generation that looked at toxic family patterns and said, “this stops with us.”

For a long time, we were raised to believe you don’t question your elders. You keep the peace. You tolerate things because “that’s just how they are.”

But a lot of millennials grew up and realized that some of the things we were told to tolerate were actually toxic.

Disrespect. Manipulation. Guilt. Emotional immaturity. Generational trauma that just kept getting passed down and normalized.

And instead of quietly accepting it like generations before us, many of us decided to do something different.

We went to therapy.
We set boundaries.
We learned to say no.
We started protecting our peace and our kids.

And yes, sometimes that means standing up to the very people who raised us.

Not because we hate them.
Not because we’re “soft.”
But because someone has to break the cycle.

Millennials are raising a generation that will know what healthy love, respect and communication look like.

And that kind of healing was never going to happen if we kept accepting toxic behavior just because someone is older than us.

The cycle end with us.

08/03/2026

Take care of yourself.. That's your best parenting strategy, a healthy parent has a better chance at being a regulated, kind and wise parent than a really worn out one..

When parents nurture their own well-being, they quietly strengthen the entire family.🩷

08/03/2026

Be Brave 💙 Let your kids make their own decisions..

We do want children to learn how to control their behaviour. But we want them to feel safe to experience all their emotions. It’s the behaviour we hope they learn to control, not the feelings. They learn how to express feelings in healthy ways by watching us.

Also, impulse control is something that children are developing throughout the first 25 years of their life. They need to make mistakes and feel the natural consequences of those mistakes to develop an intrinsic motivation to behave differently in the future. Natural consequences are NEVER imposed. They just happen. Any imposed consequence could cause them to be defensive and protective of their own safety and autonomy.

J. Milburn

Build a foundation of trust now by being a safe place for their emotions. Learn more about how to do that in my latest book 👇

Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation⁣⁣
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07/03/2026

Emotions Need Connection, Not Correction

A child sits on the floor crying after being told it’s time to leave the playground.

The first instinct might be to correct the behavior, reminding them of the rules or rushing them along.

But beneath the tears is disappointment, not defiance.

Instead of correcting, the caregiver sits beside them and says, “You really wanted more time to play.”

The child’s sobs soften as they feel seen and understood.

A hand on the back and a calm presence help their nervous system settle.

Only after the child feels connected can they hear what comes next.

“Let’s take one last deep breath together, then we’ll go,” the caregiver offers.

The transition becomes smoother because the emotion was met with empathy first.

Connection creates safety, and safety allows cooperation to follow.

When emotions are honored instead of corrected, children learn they are not alone in their feelings.

07/03/2026

True wisdom.. This is the difference between a therapist and an over involved over invested friend.. This is why you go to a qualified therapist..

07/03/2026

💚Mental Health Awareness 💚
💜💜Let's talk about it.. Let's talk about it with kindness and compassion 💜💜

March is Self-Harm Awareness Month 🧡

Behind smiles, jokes, and “I’m fine”…
millions of people are silently fighting battles no one can see.

Self-harm is more common than people realize — and the stigma keeps many suffering in silence.

This month we’re talking about it.
We’re spreading awareness.
And we’re reminding people they are not alone.

If even one person in your life is struggling, this conversation matters.

Share this post. You might help someone feel seen today.

07/03/2026

Talking about the difficult things and asking for help does not make you a bad parent it makes you a parent who seeks wise counsel 🦉 ..
Ask, talk, be brave 💙

Somehow, honesty about parenting became confused with negativity.

As though acknowledging the hard parts means we are ungrateful.
As though struggle is evidence that something is wrong.

But raising children asks more of us than almost anything else we will do.

It stretches patience.
It exposes our limitations.
It asks for presence even when we are depleted.

Speaking openly about that reality does not diminish the love.
If anything, it reveals the depth of it.

Because continuing to show up with care, effort, and intention -
even on the days when it feels heavy - is not weakness.

It is the quiet strength that parenthood is built on.

Credit - Inside Parenting



Trauma

06/03/2026

This one is for all my millennial parents..
You are doing a great job! Keep going!!
Keep being brave 💙💙

06/03/2026

Example: “I’m feeling really frustrated right now and it’s making it hard for me to communicate. I just need a minute to reconnect with myself.”

If you’re sitting here going… “yeah but how do they know what they did was wrong?” They will understand, when they are mature enough. But before you collaborate with your child to find a solution, you need to check-in with yourself. When we take the time to check-in and connect with ourselves before we try to make sense of the situation, we’re more likely to respond, instead of react. What if my child is continuing to hit me or someone else? This is tough because both nervous systems are in sympathetic. You can meet both your needs with a co-regulation strategy that uses force. I like the “push me over game.” I put my palms up and brace myself and my child uses only their palms to try and push me over; highly effective nervous system reset. You can also try to push against a wall if another person is not available.

Learn more about connection, co-regulation and deepening the parent-child bond in my latest book 👇

Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parent’s Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation⁣⁣
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05/03/2026

So beautifully said ... 💜💜