Leandri Beyers - Clinical Psychologist/Kliniese Sielkundige

16/02/2024

10/11/2023

Kies is verlies.

With every gain there is a loss. Loss of what was before the change, of how things were. It is healthy to create space to admit the loss as well as to feel the joy of the change or choice.

27/10/2023

Yesss 👌🏻 suffering in silence is lonely.I often hear how people say “what does it help to complain?” Not only does it break your isolation by others feeling closer to you as you are more relatable, and wanting to support you, it also opens you up to new perspectives.

You don’t have it all figured out.
And you don’t have to.

That’s why you have others, to assist, to carry you, to hold your hand and if necessary to guide you.

03/10/2023

The “strong ones” are the ones who often suffer the most. The role is lonely and one sided.

If you are always there for others, willing to listen, ready to deal with whatever problem comes your way and seen as “the strong one” in your family or friendship circle your challenge is to become more visible. To learn how to ask what you need from others. To take up space. To let others closer by allowing them to reverse the roles. To get comfortable with the vulnerability of reveiving.

24/03/2020

Dear Clients,

What an impactful couple of days it has been! Since the outbreak of the Corona Virus I have seen the uncertainty and anxiety rise in my practice. The effect of the president’s speech last night has put us in a position where we are limited in terms of freedom of movement and things we usually experience as a given.

As a psychologist I deal with the effects of social isolation on my clients’ mental health on a daily basis. I can therefore foresee that the ‘lock down’ will have an impact. That being said, we need to find ways to break our isolation during this time without putting ourselves and others in danger of getting sick. Connecting with others and focusing on what we do have control over will serve as protective factors during this time.

I will be sharing ideas and articles online on how to reframe this time of lock down into a meaningful time of connection (with ourselves and others), stimulation and relaxation. Furthermore, my practice will move online from Friday 27 March and session times will be adjusted to accommodate times that can work for those of you who have to work from home and have children to attend to as well. You are welcome to contact the practice if you can’t find a suitable time so I can try to fit you into another time slot.

For clients who are receiving hypnotherapy or play therapy with me, I suggest that we consider alternative measures of addressing your presenting complaint. Those who are busy with the hypnotherapy process would need to continue with online individual therapy until we are able to continue with face-to-face sessions or we would need to put your process on hold, depending on your need. For the children in play therapy, I suggest that we focus on online parental guidance instead to ensure the continuation of the therapy process at home.

It is indeed a trying but also interesting time to be alive.

20/03/2020

To all new and existing clients: My practice will remain open. You are welcome to continue your face to face sessions as is. The necessary hygiene measures have been put in place to ensure safety. I am also available for online therapy and you are welcome to let me know if that is your need.

We are facing an abnormal and extraordinary situation and it is important to also look after your mental health during this time.

26/10/2019

Attending a talk on “The Paradox and Poetry of Modern Love” by world renound psychotherapist, Esher Perel and poet David Whyte.

27/09/2019

Learning to accept our partner’s “no” and also feel safe enough in the relationship to say “no” as well as “yes” creates safety and a deeper connection.

Healthy relationships are infused with both heartfelt yeses and loving no’s. If I ask something of you, and you say YES with your mouth while the rest of your body silently screams NO, guess what’s gonna happen? Resentment is going to build. As resentment builds, your wide open heart, the one I so cherish, will begin to close in self-protection. You’ll pull away from me, shut down, retreat. Resentment erodes authentic connection.
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In order to love me fully, you must be able to say no to me... without guilt and without fear of retaliation.
* Your work is to speak your no with love and clarity.
* My work is to handle whatever your no stirs in me.
In the face of your loving-healthy-boundary-no, I might feel the rise of a thousand old stories:
* I screwed up
* I’m bad
* I’m alone
* I’m helpless
I might feel the sting of tender feelings
* sadness
* shame
* fear
My brave work is to sit with my stories and my feelings. The more I can sit with my stuff, the less likely I am to ACT on my stuff... punishing you, withdrawing from you, begging you, etc. My commitment to practicing relational self-awareness in this way will open the door to an understanding that your boundary is an expression of love.

24/09/2019

Self-sabotasie is iets wat ons almal in ‘n mate doen. In Oktober-maand se Sarie gesels ek met Suzette Truter oor die redes waarom mense in hul eie pad staan en hoe om dit aan te spreek.

03/06/2019

After a number of changes my practice will re-open today.Please note that I have relocated to the tranquil scenery of Irene, Centurion.All bookings can be done online at

Johannesburg Registered Clinical Psychologist - Couples, Family, Individual and Child Therapy