Leandie Buys - Relationship Counsellor & Clinical Sexologist

Leandie Buys - Relationship Counsellor & Clinical Sexologist I am one of only a few qualified clinical s*xologists in South Africa. I specialise in Marriage/Relationship Counselling and S*xual Concerns.

I am also a certified S*x Addiction therapist (IITAP). I am passionate about helping couples in crisis, and takes a holistic approach to marriage/relationship counselling by looking at all of the factors that can influence a relationship. These include environment, mental health, physical health, emotional health and s*xual intimacy. I am determined to help remove the negative stigma attached to s*xual health problems – and the effects they have on peoples' lives. I help couples and individuals with:
- erectile dysfunction
- vaginismus
- infertility & pregnancy
- loss of s*xual desire
- premature ej*******on
- painful in*******se
- s*xual addiction
- s*xual functioning
- relationship and marriage counselling

I am also a s*x addiction therapist, certified by the International Institute for Trauma & Addiction Professionals (IITAP).

After almost 20 years of working with couples, this is what I know for sure...A good relationship is not about being per...
27/01/2026

After almost 20 years of working with couples, this is what I know for sure...

A good relationship is not about being perfect. It's not about never fighting. It's not about always agreeing. It's about choosing each other. Again and again. Even when it's hard. Especially when it's hard.

The couples who make it aren't the ones without struggles – they're the ones who face their struggles together.

Are you and your partner willing to do the work? My relationship audit gives you 20 questions to start the conversation.

✨ https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/your-2026-relationship-audit-20-questions-every-couple-should-ask-themselves

When last did you and your partner truly check in on your relationship?As a relationship therapist, I've noticed that co...
22/01/2026

When last did you and your partner truly check in on your relationship?

As a relationship therapist, I've noticed that couples often wait until things are really broken before seeking help. They come to me when they're already considering separation, or when years of resentment have built up.

In my latest blog, I share 20 questions every couple should ask themselves in 2026.
These are designed to help you:

✨ Reconnect on a deeper level
✨ Make sure you're still on the same page
✨ Address small issues before they become big problems
✨ Celebrate what's working well

Your relationship deserves this attention. Check out my blog for all 20 questions 👇
https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/your-2026-relationship-audit-20-questions-every-couple-should-ask-themselves

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?COUPLES THERAPY CAN WAITCouples counselling should only begin once your partner has ...
20/01/2026

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?

COUPLES THERAPY CAN WAIT

Couples counselling should only begin once your partner has been in solid recovery for at least 3-6 months. Rushing into couples therapy before the addict has begun their individual healing journey is often counterproductive and can cause more harm. Focus on individual therapy first – for both of you.

Find out more on my blog: https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/my-partner-s-a-s*x-addict-what-now

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My partner's a s*x addict, what now?LEAVING IS A VALID CHOICEIf you feel unsafe, if the betrayal is too deep, or if your...
16/01/2026

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?

LEAVING IS A VALID CHOICE

If you feel unsafe, if the betrayal is too deep, or if your partner refuses to acknowledge the problem and seek help, you have every right to walk away. Leaving doesn't make you a quitter – it makes you someone who values their wellbeing. You deserve a relationship built on honesty, safety, and mutual respect.

Find out more on my blog: https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/my-partner-s-a-s*x-addict-what-now

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My partner's a s*x addict, what now?IT'S NOT ABOUT YOUR S*X LIFES*x addiction is about medicating emotions – anger, lone...
09/01/2026

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?

IT'S NOT ABOUT YOUR S*X LIFE

S*x addiction is about medicating emotions – anger, loneliness, sadness, boredom, anxiety. It's a coping mechanism for underlying trauma, often rooted in childhood. Even the most beautiful, s*xually adventurous, constantly available partner cannot fix what drives s*x addiction. This is about your partner's relationship with themselves, not with you.

Find out more on my blog: https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/my-partner-s-a-s*x-addict-what-now

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08/01/2026

5 Quotes for anyone facing a relationship crisis right now. You are not alone. Support is available at leandiebuys.co.za.

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?DISCLOSURE IS A PROCESS, NOT AN EVENTYou need the truth to heal, and your partner ne...
03/01/2026

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?

DISCLOSURE IS A PROCESS, NOT AN EVENT

You need the truth to heal, and your partner needs to be honest because "an addict is as sick as his secrets." But full disclosure can only happen once they've begun recovery. Their brain has become sick through acting out and needs time to rewire. This creates a difficult waiting period that requires professional support to navigate.

Find out more on my blog: https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/my-partner-s-a-s*x-addict-what-now

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My partner's a s*x addict, what now?ACKNOWLEDGE THE TRAUMADiscovery of a partner's s*x addiction triggers symptoms simil...
27/12/2025

My partner's a s*x addict, what now?

ACKNOWLEDGE THE TRAUMA

Discovery of a partner's s*x addiction triggers symptoms similar to PTSD. If you're experiencing overwhelming thoughts, difficulty sleeping, physical symptoms like nausea or racing heart, emotional numbness alternating with intense feelings, or hypervigilance – these are normal trauma responses. You need and deserve professional support.

Find out more on my blog: https://www.leandiebuys.co.za/article/my-partner-s-a-s*x-addict-what-now

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