The Breathing Space

28/07/2025

Have you ever wanted to trust yourself…
but felt like you just couldn’t?

Like no matter how much advice you read, or how many intuitive nudges you try to follow, there’s always a part of you that second-guesses, spins, or freezes?

Here’s the truth we rarely speak:
Sometimes we don’t struggle with clarity.

We struggle with self-trust...
Because we’ve spent too long abandoning ourselves.
We say yes when we mean no.
We look to others for permission.
We silence the small, wise voice inside because somewhere along the way, we learned it wasn’t safe to listen.

And when that happens enough times…
Our inner compass doesn’t just go quiet. It stops working altogether.
Not because we lack intuition but because we no longer feel safe inside ourselves.

But here's the beautiful part:
Self-trust can be rebuilt.
Not through pressure or perfection.
But through presence. Through reverence. Through a thousand quiet moments of choosing to stay with yourself instead of abandoning your truth.

If this resonates, you're not too far gone.
Every gentle yes to yourself is a stitch in the thread of trust.

I’ve written a new blog about this very process: rebuilding inner safety after years of self-abandonment. You can read it here: https://carolric681.substack.com/p/when-you-dont-trust-yourself-anymore

Drop a 💛 if this speaks to where you are right now.



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Reclaiming Inner Safety After Self-Abandonment

25/07/2025

What if it’s not only about Letting Go… but also Letting In?

We spend so much of our healing journey focused on letting go.
Letting go of pain.
Letting go of stories.
Letting go of control.

But in all our releasing…
Have we forgotten how to let in?
Let in nourishment.
Let in support.
Let in the things we deeply desire, the ones we think we must “earn.”

I know I had.
For a long time I sat in nothingness.

It slowly came back to me..
True healing lives in the finely tuned balance of release and receive.
Like the tide, like the breath, it’s a natural rhythm not something to force or chase.

As we allow what no longer serves to move through us,
We make space for what does.
No pushing.
No proving.

By standing in the energy of readiness.
Ready to believe.
Ready to receive.
Ready to let life meet you, where you are.

What if your next chapter isn’t about doing more…
But simply being available for all that’s trying to arrive?

21/07/2025

The hidden cost of betraying your own boundaries

Notice how hard it is to speak up when you’ve spent a lifetime staying quiet?

Sometimes the deepest boundary wounds don’t come from others.
They come from the places we abandon ourselves.
The yes we didn’t mean.
The silence we held too long.
The resentment we swallowed to keep the peace.

What happens to our emotional wellbeing when we don’t honour our own boundaries?

The longer we override our truth,
the more we lose access to our clarity… our confidence… and our calm
Every time we abandon ourselves to say yes, we chip away at trust, not with others, with ourselves.
Over time, this self-abandonment becomes a pattern:
We feel resentful but don’t speak up
We stay silent when something doesn’t feel right
We become anxious or over-responsible for others’ emotions

This tension doesn’t just sit in our minds it lives in our body.
And left unchecked, it can lead to long-term emotional exhaustion, burnout, and disconnection from our own intuition.

If we spend too long living without boundaries, something eventually snaps.
We go from people-pleasing to pushing people away.
Because when you’ve been chronically disrespected, especially by yourself the only way to feel safe again can seem like shutting everything out.
But this isn’t healing. It’s reaction.

And to heal means coming back to centre to the place where you can hold yourself with both firmness and compassion.

Compassionate boundaries don’t start with scripts or strategies.
They start with truth.
With a quiet knowing:
I am worthy of space.
I am safe to say no.
I can trust myself to protect my peace always.

We teach the world how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.

15/07/2025

Have you ever felt like the more you try to find clarity… the less clear everything becomes?

It’s a strange thing how lost we can feel in the middle of a life that looks “fine.”
The schedules. The routines. The roles we hold.

And yet… inside, something feels foggy. Directionless. Off.
If that’s where you are, I want you to know:
You haven’t lost your inner compass

You may have just stopped hearing it beneath all the noise.
This week, I wrote a piece about how to reconnect with that deeper, quieter part of yourself, the one that always knows.

No big breakthroughs.
Just rituals that restore clarity.
And tiny yeses that lead you back to wholeness.

You can find it here. https://carolric681.substack.com/p/from-doubt-to-direction-reclaiming

15/07/2025

Stay curious...

There is incredible power in the simple act of asking a question. When you open yourself to curiosity, you allow energy to move. You stop trying to control the outcome—and in doing so, you create space for healing, insight, and possibility. Answers can often fix us in place. But questions? They open us. They help us feel our way forward, beyond fear, beyond the known.

Curiosity is not just about the mind—it’s energetic. It shifts your frequency. It keeps your spirit awake. When you stay curious, you remain connected—to your intuition, to others, to the life force that’s always guiding you. Every time you ask with openness, you invite the universe to respond. This is how change happens. This is how healing begins.

Trust in your questions. Let them lead you. The more curious you become, the more aligned you feel—and from that alignment, anything is possible. Even the things you once thought were out of reach.

Love Seka

09/07/2025

There’s a quiet confidence that comes more from presence than push, from knowing which part of you to trust.

What if your answer doesn’t come from your mind but your body?

For years I’ve been living in my head when making decisions. I'd loop through possibilities, ask for advice, try to find the “right” answer. I thought overthinking meant I was being careful.

And yet, the more I thought the less sure I became.

When I started listening to my body again, things started to shift.

Here’s what I learnt:
Clarity lives in the body, not the brain.
Self-trust grows with every small yes or no we honour.

Confidence isn’t something you earn, it’s something you remember.
Not the “power pose” kind.
But the kind that lives in your gut.

In the breath you finally release when something just feels right.

01/07/2025

Too many years living in stress, fear, and grief took a quiet toll on my body.
I didn’t realise just how deeply I was running on empty until I found something that started to shift things.
Not a magic fix. But support. Light. A new way of helping my body remember how to heal.
I’m slowly restoring what stress took from me: energy, clarity, sleep, emotional stability.
If you’ve been carrying too much for too long, this might be the gentle nudge you’ve been waiting for.
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30/06/2025

What if rest is the beginning not the end?

After a week of bitterly cold, wet weather and some high emotions, we braved the weather on Saturday morning to do the Benguela Cove Park Run. It was not a day to focus on performance or personal best time, it was a day to BE in nature, to allow the emotions to release, to move our bodies, and to clear our heads.

It made me think about how we talk about rest, as if it’s something we earn after we’ve done enough, or something we collapse into when we’ve hit our limit.
But rest should be a conscious act of emotional decompression, a release that clears the pressure we’ve been carrying.

Because when we intentionally decompress, something incredible happens:
The emotional charge softens
The clarity returns
The inner power rises. Not through force, but through space

Decompression isn’t stepping away from your life it’s stepping into it, with more presence and less pressure.

Inside this week’s blog, I’m sharing why emotional decompression is the missing piece for so many of us and how you can begin right where you are.

It’s time to rebuild, gently and powerfully.
This isn’t just rest.
This is your reclamation.

Check out the full blog here: https://carolric681.substack.com/p/rebuilding-not-just-resting?r=5v3iat