Soulflight

24/02/2022

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23/02/2022

14/02/2022

I spent so many valentine’s days either wishing I had someone in my life to spoil me or wishing that the person in my life would actually do something to make me feel special. I’ve also spent many valentine’s days caught up in the excitement of making someone special feel absolutely fantastic and being made to feel that way myself. In the end I think it all balances out. Today I’ll probably just put out birdseed in the shape of a heart and call it a day.

So many people want to know when they’re going to meet “the one” or if the person they’re with right now is “the one”. I want you all to know that the only way you will ever meet “the one” is if you look deeply into the mirror and appreciate and love the person looking back at you. You are the one. You’re the person who is absolutely perfectly placed to love you. You’re the person who will do it best if you put your heart and soul into it. As for the others? They’re the many.

You’re going to meet so many people who are good for you. You’re going to meet a bunch of people who are a good match for you too. If you just step away from the pressure of finding the right one then you’ll be free to enjoy the experience of seeing what and who is available to you. That person over there might be the one who makes your heart flutter… and that one is the one who shares your love of looking at the clouds… that person definitely loves rubbing your feet and making you feel relaxed… and that one looks deep into your soul and appreciates you for who you are. It doesn’t matter which person you choose or if you make a less than stellar choice right now. You’re always going to find yourself in exactly the right place, at the right time, with the right person.

So today, on the day that we celebrate love, please prioritise loving YOU. Make sure you’re happy and fulfilled and ready to take on the rest of the week. And open yourself up to the love that the Universe is waiting to rain down on you. I’ll start by sending you all the love in my heart for today and every day.

13/02/2022

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11/02/2022

I’ve been trying (and failing) to write this post for close on two weeks now. It’s not often that I run out of words but they’ve escaped me day after day. I’ve had moments when I’ve thought that this is possibly too personal to share or that it’s going to be misunderstood and taken for self pity.

When I started Soulflight I committed myself to complete honesty with everyone I came in contact with. I also noticed that sometimes the things that were uncomfortable to share were also the things that shone a light into someone else’s darkness. It’s a beautiful thing when you realise you’re not alone in what you’re dealing with.

Two weeks ago today I was diagnosed with cancer. Since the initial diagnosis we have discovered that it’s spread and is now classified as stage 3. I don’t think any of this came as a surprise to me… I’ve known for a long time that there was a problem and I’ve known on some level exactly what the problem was. No matter how unsurprising though, it still hits like a ton of bricks when you hear the words from a doctor’s mouth. I won’t lie to you… it’s a struggle to come to terms with this and I face this struggle daily.

Of course it brings to mind the words I’ve spoken to you so often. Everything we do is a choice. I can’t choose my disease and I can’t choose not to have it but I can choose how I respond to it. I can allow myself to become bitter and angry and to wallow in the “why me?” of it all or I can choose to embrace this journey with all its ups and downs and live the last years of my life as though there is tomorrow. The irony of that statement isn’t lost on me.

I’ve never claimed to be or even wanted to be a guru. The most I can hope for is to step into my Crone years with a bit of wisdom to share. Because I’m not completely Zen, I have days that are all just too much for me to handle. The pain seems insurmountable, the worry looms like a dark cloud and I find myself giving in to tears or to sleep (at least the painkillers make that easy).

Here's what I’ve noticed though. The days when I fall apart are the days I isolate myself. The days when I am positive and upbeat are the days when I connect with other people.

Connection is vital especially when we go through difficult times. It’s so easy to keep our interactions impersonal or superficial but why bother with that when a few kind words or a question about someone you’re speaking to can open a well of connection? I don’t care how limited my time on this earth is, I’m going to strive to connect deeply with everyone I meet. They may respond or they may ignore my outreach but the ones who respond will make everything worthwhile. The real value though is in the sense of fulfilment and community we walk away with when we’ve met someone on a level that isn’t just about today’s weather.

I’m glad I’ve been honest about my journey and I hope that you’ll walk it with me. I hope that you’ll understand that a lack of posts is not because I’m lazy or I don’t care. Most of all though, I hope that sharing my journey will shine some light into someone’s darkness, possibly even give someone a little boost of strength for their own difficult journey. Let’s connect as much as we possibly can and no matter how much time we have, we’ll leave the earth and our communities with a legacy that will outlast us. Much love, always.

01/02/2022

I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all struggled through tough circumstances at some point in our lives. I think it’s also safe to say that one person’s struggle is sometimes another person’s cakewalk. There are so many factors that influence how people cope with a particular obstacle.

All too often I’ve seen people judging another person’s way of navigating their struggle without stopping to realise that they are judging from a position of privilege that the other person doesn’t have access to. People seem to forget that you shouldn’t cast judgement until you’ve walked a mile in someone’s shoes. And before anyone jumps on their soapbox and starts denying their privilege, let’s remember that privilege doesn’t mean you live in a mansion or get everything for nothing without having to work your ass off for it. Sometimes it’s the little things… knowing where your next meal is coming from, knowing that there will be enough money in your bank account on pay day to cover your rent, knowing that you have someone you can call to help you if you hit a snag, or having access to decent medical care.

I’ve found that “just be kind” message being hammered home to me time and again over the past few days. We have no idea what’s going on under the surface and so often the people who put on a brave face, a big smile and lend a helping hand are the ones who are drowning.

The thing with any kind of trauma or struggle is that it’s usually not just one thing. It’s one thing that leads to a whole lot of other issues coming to the surface. So a person might battle with the death of a loved one but then also have to deal with the expenses related to it or the guilt they might feel at the last conversation they had with this person or the pressure being put on them by relatives to put on a good funeral show. You see what I’m getting at? It’s those struggles that are sometimes kept very quiet because they’re clouded in shame or embarrassment.

One thing I’ve learned is that people don’t talk about the depths of their pain. They may tell you about something on the surface and it may leave you wondering at their inability to handle what life has thrown at them… after all, you might have dealt with something similar so you know what it’s like. It’s the depths that make struggles unique, not the struggles themselves.

So if you’re tempted to judge or advise, please don’t. Please rather ask how you can help and if you’re not in a position to help then just hold space without judgement. Let love guide you at all times.

May you all be blessed beyond measure.

01/02/2022

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31/01/2022

Life is a series of pathways, paved roads, dirt tracks and crossroads. Some are scenic and others seem to be carved out of desolate surroundings. They’re all there to be travelled though. I’ve found that every time I reach a crossroads I’m not only faced with a decision on which route to take but also who should travel with me. I used to believe that everyone who wasn’t going to endure the road with me had to be left behind completely. And sometimes they really should. Those people who eat away at your soul, use or abuse you should be left at the crossroads.

Very often when we face a difficult road there are people who we love dearly and who love us in return who just can’t travel with us. They’re not equipped or they’re not fit enough. It’s a bit like the whole team that escorts a climber to base camp on Everest. Not everyone is going to push for the summit. Some of those people are going to stay at base camp and watch and encourage and hope and pray. They might not have the levels of fitness, the ability to climb that high or the equipment they need. Our paths through life are similar.

Few of us set out on life’s most difficult journeys because they’re fun. We’re usually forced into those through circumstances beyond our control. These are the crossroads where we need to decide who our travelling companions will be. There are those who just really don’t care and we can leave them behind without a second thought. But there are the ones who really love us and want to help us along the journey but who just don’t have the tools. These are people who should be treasured and kept close anyway because they’re guaranteed to be at the end of our slog, waiting with refreshments and love and cries of joy that we made it. And of course, there are those who will take your hand and tell you they’ve got you and put one foot in front of the other as they follow you down the track. I don’t even have to tell you to treasure those. It goes without saying.

It's all good and well to know that we have our angels, our guides, our spirits or our gods walking beside us but the comfort of a warm hug from a friend or a kind word from a human being is sustenance on these tough journeys.

I find myself at a crossroads now and I know that the path ahead is going to be tough. I also know that I have a couple of people who will walk it with me, a couple of people who will be waiting at the finish line and, sadly enough, a person who won’t be continuing along my road with me.

I’ve spoken often about the choices we make and how we can’t control everything that happens to us. We can choose how we respond to those events though. It’s not always going to be possible to keep a smile on your face. There are going to be days that are absolute hell on wheels. But none of that is an excuse to approach the world with anything but love… from my point of view anyway. So no matter what this journey brings, I’m going to wrap all the people around me, every person I come in contact with, in love and hope that the journey is short and easier than expected.

31/01/2022

Back in the saddle after an unplanned hospital stay. What shall we do today? A post? Readings? Some therapy?