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16/11/2025

SECOND CHANCE SUNDAY - a chance to catch up with our most popular posts over the last 7 days.

Supporting a child through a meltdown is not just about what we say or do.
It’s also about what is happening inside us.

Our nervous system responds to their overwhelm.
Their panic can trigger our panic.
Their intensity can activate our urgency.
Their distress can stir our own history of not feeling safe.

So before we can co-regulate a young person, we often need to regulate ourselves.
Not perfectly — just enough to stay steady.

This post shares supportive ways to stay regulated as the adult, so that we can be the grounding presence a child’s nervous system is reaching for in the storm.

Because when we are calm, predictable, and connected — the child feels safe enough to return to calm too.

If you’d like a deeper breakdown of every phase of the meltdown cycle — and how to respond at each stage without shame, fear, or urgency — you’ll find the full Timeline of a Meltdown resource via link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

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16/11/2025

When a child feels that they are loved unconditionally, their emotional well-being is nurtured.

When a child’s emotional well-being is nurtured, they develop a healthy self-esteem and a healthy sense of self-worth and they will have a healthy attachment to you!

Something that I observed as a mom of three, when my children were little, and also in the classroom as a preschool teacher is that children notice how we are with other children and other people and if we are the same with them. They notice if we are genuine with our words and actions. I say this because for a child to truly feel that they are loved simply for who they are, they need to see that we are authentic and genuine otherwise they will question what they see and feel from us.

What’s amazing about this is what gets reflected back to you is your authenticity. This is why it’s important to...

- Show unconditional love. When a child is loved unconditionally, they feel accepted for who they are and that’s a special feeling to feel inside.

- Avoid criticizing when they make mistakes, have big feelings or a tantrum and instead offer gentle support and help. When your offer your child help instead of criticizing, they feel understood by the mere fact of the attention they receive.

- Don’t compare your child to siblings or other children.
This is very divisive and makes a child question their self-worth as well as question how we really feel about them.

- Be present when you are with your child even if it’s only for a few minutes. Make eye contact, have a loving gaze, slow down your movements, let them see that you are listening. If you’re needing to complete a task, let them know that you’ll give them your full. Keep the time that they’ll need to wait brief and then follow through.

- Spend uninterrupted time together even if it’s just 15 mins. You can read a book, start a craft, make a simple snack together. Whatever you choose, be sure to put your phone down and be fully present.

- Show interest in the things they love to do and what they love to talk about.

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Games to Help Kids Practice Following Directions

These games help kids develop listening skills, improve focus, and learn to follow directions, all through the power of play.

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12/11/2025

Today we’re sharing a new series exploring the five protective responses — Fight, Flight, Freeze, Flop, and Fawn.

These instinctive states aren’t bad behaviour. They’re the body’s way of saying, “I don’t feel safe right now.”

When we understand which response a child is in, we increase our ability to respond with empathy instead of frustration. We see the fear beneath the reaction, and we learn how to meet it with calm connection.

We begin today with the Fight Response — when fear shows up as anger.

Understanding these patterns helps us support regulation, rebuild safety, and move from chaos toward connection.

Comment PROTECT if you would like this series made available in our Resource Store with printer friendly duplicates.

You can also download our Timeline of a Meltdown visual — a practical guide for recognising these states in real time. Printer-friendly A4 portrait and landscape versions available via Linktree Shop in Bio ⬇️

12/11/2025

Supporting a child through a meltdown is not just about what we say or do.
It’s also about what is happening inside us.

Our nervous system responds to their overwhelm.
Their panic can trigger our panic.
Their intensity can activate our urgency.
Their distress can stir our own history of not feeling safe.

So before we can co-regulate a young person, we often need to regulate ourselves.
Not perfectly — just enough to stay steady.

This post shares supportive ways to stay regulated as the adult, so that we can be the grounding presence a child’s nervous system is reaching for in the storm.

Because when we are calm, predictable, and connected — the child feels safe enough to return to calm too.

If you’d like a deeper breakdown of every phase of the meltdown cycle — and how to respond at each stage without shame, fear, or urgency — you’ll find the full Timeline of a Meltdown resource via link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

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11/11/2025

Another great quote from Richard Louv!

Oh, the importance of free play! Are you making time for “unstructured, imaginative, exploratory play”?

There's a lot to gain from participation in organized sports, but let's try to find a balance with a healthy dose of UNorganized play as well!

10/11/2025

We celebrate what they can DO — the grades, the skills, the milestones. But beneath all that, what really matters is who they are learning to BE.

Because if a child can solve equations but can’t calm their body when they’re overwhelmed…
if they can speak three languages but can’t find the words for their feelings…
if they can achieve endlessly but fall apart under pressure —
then all that brilliance stands on shaky ground.

It’s not their accomplishments that will carry them through life — it’s their capacity to stay steady when things fall apart. To breathe through conflict; to feel deeply without being consumed.

Emotional regulation isn’t extra credit.
It’s the foundation on which everything else is built. ❤️

Quote Credit: Unknown❣️

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