Sadie Fourie Psychologist Pretoria

18/03/2024

Sadie Fourie Psychologist Pretoria currently has a Special Employee Wellness Offer.

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sadie.fourie@mweb.co.za

02/05/2022

"Deep listening is miraculous for both listener and speaker. When someone receives us with open-hearted, non-judging, intensely interested listening, our spirits expand. " Sue Patton Thoele

To achieve this, I use the "Intentional couples' dialogue", borrowed from Harville Hendrix in therapy.

10/03/2022

Exactly how I hear clients express themselves

16/12/2021

https://fb.watch/9VNUUnKU1o/

05/11/2021

Yes, you have multiple options and possibilities. You can also choose to suffer from excusivitis.

19/07/2021

Food for thought...

03/07/2021

In a family session recently, a 20 year old told his father: "I am still growing. Lets try and understand one another by spending more time with each other."

Dear Mum and Dad,

Please stick with me.

I can’t think clearly right now because there is a rather substantial section of my prefrontal cortex missing. It’s a fairly important chunk, something having to do with rational thought. You see, it won’t be fully developed until I’m about 25. And from where I sit, 25 seems a long way off.

But here's what i want my parents to know..

My brain is not yet fully developed

It doesn’t matter that I’m smart; even a perfect score on my math test doesn’t insulate me from the normal developmental stages that we all go through. Judgement and intelligence are two completely distinct things.

And, the same thing that makes my brain wonderfully flexible, creative and sponge-like also makes me impulsive. Not necessarily reckless or negligent but more impulsive than I will be later in life.

Please stick with me.

So when you look at me like I have ten heads after I’ve done something “stupid” or failed to do something “smart,” you’re not really helping.

You adults respond to situations with your prefrontal cortex (rationally) but I am more inclined to respond with my amygdala (emotionally). And when you ask, “What were you thinking?” the answer is I wasn’t, at least not in the way you are. You can blame me, or you can blame mother nature, but either way, it is what it is.

At this point in my life, I get that you love me, but my friends are my everything. Please understand that. Right now I choose my friends, but, don’t be fooled, I am watching you. Carefully.

Please stick with me.
......

Here’s what you can do for me

1. Model adulting.
I see all the behaviors that you are modeling and I hear all of the words you say. I may not listen but I do hear you. I seem impervious to your advice, like I’m wearing a Kevlar vest but your actions and words are penetrating. I promise. If you keep showing me the way, I will follow even if I detour many, many times before we reach our destination.

2. Let me figure things out for myself.

If you allow me to experience the consequences of my own actions I will learn from them. Please give me a little bit of leash and let me know that I can figure things out for myself. The more I do, the more confidence and resilience I will develop.

3. Tell me about you.

I want you to tell me all the stories of the crazy things you did as a teen, and what you learned from them. Then give me the space to do the same.

4. Help me with perspective.

Keep reminding me of the big picture. I will roll my eyes at you and make all kinds of grunt-like sounds. I will let you know in no uncertain terms that you can’t possibly understand any of what I’m going through. But I’m listening. I really am. It’s hard for me to see anything beyond the weeds that I am currently mired in. Help me scan out and focus on the long view. Remind me that this moment will pass.

5. Keep me safe.

Please remind me that drugs and driving don’t mix. Keep telling me that you will bail me out of any dangerous situation, no anger, no lectures, no questions asked. But also let me know over and over and over that you are there to listen, when I need you.

6. Be kind.

I will learn kindness from you and if you are relentless in your kindness to me, someday I will imitate that behavior. Don’t ever mock me, please and don’t be cruel. Humor me-I think I know everything. You probably did as well at my age. Let it go.

7. Show interest in the things I enjoy.

Some days I will choose to share my interests with you, and it will make me feel good if you validate those interests, by at least acting interested.

One day when the haze of adolescence lifts, you will find a confident, strong, competent, kind adult where a surly teenager once stood. In the meantime, buckle in for the ride.

and.. Please stick with me.

Love,

Your Teenager
....

By Helene Wingens
https://grownandflown.com/letter-from-teen-to-parents/

10/05/2021

There where you breathe, you are enough.

I am enough there where I breathe.

28/04/2021

Brain working recursive therapy: The ‘spectacular’ treatment providing instant relief for mental health problems

Psychologist Terence Watts says that while brain working recursive therapy is often described as a quick fix, it also produces a deep, permanent change in people

http://www.sadiefouriepsychologist.co.za/index.php/articles/15-brain-working-recursive-therapy-the-spectacular-treatment-providing-instant-relief-for-mental-health-problems

16/04/2021

Brain Working Recursive Therapy(BWRT) eases too the experiences of ADULTS with regards to dealth and trauma.

We are all affected by the death of a loved one, but children can be particularly vulnerable. Clinical psychologist Shelley Hall explains how to support a grieving child and which signs could indicate that professional help is required. Recounting the case of an 8-year-old who witnessed her father s...

11/03/2021

This therapy is based on neuroscience. We use it get rid of debilitating anxiety, trauma and panic. It can also be used to deal with loss and grief.

The Corona pandemic has increased the incidence of anxiety, whether generalised or more specific - such as performance anxiety. Clinical social worker Morag Scordilis uses case studies to illustrate how children, teenagers and adults can benefit from BWRT® and why it is a fast, cost effective solut...

11/03/2021

This therapy is based on neuroscience. We use it to get rid of debilitating anxiety, trauma and panic attacks.

The Corona pandemic has increased the incidence of anxiety, whether generalised or more specific - such as performance anxiety. Clinical social worker Morag Scordilis uses case studies to illustrate how children, teenagers and adults can benefit from BWRT® and why it is a fast, cost effective solut...

10/02/2021

BWRT, a therapy based on neuroscience with immediate results in every session

What exactly is Brainworking Recursive Therapy or BWRT? Clinical psychologist Rafiq Lockhat tells podcast host Mariette Snyman how it originated, how it works, what its advantages are and to which conditions – from phobias to eating disorders and substance abuse – it can be applied.

03/01/2021

Depression can be a useful guide

New theories recognize depression as part of a biological survival strategy.

26/12/2020

We have women in all cultures/cultural groups in our society who have painful decisions to make or not make, because of generational narratives/beliefs being kept alive that men are just doing the "man thing: live with it". My best hopes are that male as well as female can keep on taking baby steps to break these generational patterns.

“Every girl and every woman, has the potential to make this world a better place, and that potential lies in the act of thinking higher thoughts and feeling deeper things. When women and girls, everywhere, begin to see themselves as more than inanimate objects; but as beautiful beings capable of deep feelings and high thoughts, this has the capacity to create change all around. The kind of change that is for the better. Remember: High in the head and deep in the heart. Antlers on your mind and anchors in your heart.”
C. JoyBell C.

Christian Schoe

31/10/2020

Yoga releases the natural anti-anxiety drug, GABA in the brain. GABA enhances better mood and lower anxiety.

GABA, the brain's natural anti-anxiety drug, is boosted by exercise. But Chris Streeter, MD, found one activity to be even more powerful: yoga.

23/10/2020

Understanding relationships comes from asking great questions. Here are two that point the finger towards us.

What parts of yourself are you trying to break up with?

(People often talk about needing or wanting to break up with another person and sometimes I think they need to break up with stories that no longer serve them.)

And a second from my colleague Ellen Wachtel: As a person who knows yourself quite well, what would you say makes it hard to live with you?

One question gives you agency and the other question gives you accountability. They’re funny, they’re surprising - they stop people in their tracks a little bit.

In the midst of talking or thinking about what the other is doing, it’s interesting to turn the tables.