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Hendrien van der Bijl- Imago Relationship Therapy

🩷Therapist, married millennial, emotional translator. Helping couples stop living like polite strangers. Take the quiz. Get the guide. Do the work.👇

16/09/2025

This month stretched me, softened me, and taught me more about marriage than I expected.

Here are 9 truths I learned in the 9th month of the year, lessons that remind me that love isn’t just about getting through life together, but about staying alive to each other in the middle of it.

1️⃣ Survival kicks in fast
But you only notice the cost later. By then you’re burnt out, feeling heavy, and convinced your marriage “just doesn’t work.” That’s when you realize you’ve been living in survival mode far too long.

2️⃣ “It’s just a phase” can become the biggest excuse.
If you don’t take steps now, the phase becomes the new normal and it doesn’t magically get better. It gets worse.

3️⃣ A marriage is for two people.
That’s hard enough because you’re already different but if you start living by everyone else’s opinions, you’ll lose the uniqueness of your own story.

4️⃣ Being different isn’t the problem. It’s the point.
The magic is in the contrast, the balance, the way you stretch each other and restore aliveness.

5️⃣ Coping mechanisms aren’t bad.
My work is mine, his is fixing things around the house. both valid and needed. But when we turn to them faster than we turn to each other, the other feels abandoned.

6️⃣ We’re grown-ups now but our needs didn’t magically disappear.
Attention, care, being seen and wanted… they still matter, deeply.

7️⃣ Raising little kids pulls on every ounce of you.
Being wanted every second of the day can make you want to shut down with your partner, even though that’s exactly who you long for, just in a different way.

8️⃣ Relationships can’t be all “hard work.” Peace, fun, and joy matter just as much as the tough conversations.

9️⃣ Frameworks and tools don’t make marriage mechanical they make it doable. They give you a path through uncertain seasons, so you don’t lose each other in the storm.

Which of these lessons speaks loudest to you right now? 👇

Comment the number that hit you or share this with your partner as a gentle way to start the conversation.

17/08/2025

Most couples don’t end up at divorce because they “didn’t try.”
They end up there because they worked endlessly on the wrong things.

👉 You don’t need another book of communication hacks.
👉 You don’t need years of surface-level counseling.
👉 You don’t need to keep convincing yourself “this is just how marriage is.”

What you do need is a shift.

A deep, perspective-altering experience where safety is restored, reactivity dissolves, and you finally see your partner not as the problem but as the gift.

That’s what happens inside my 3-Day Intensive.
It’s not about fixing every fight. It’s about re-writing the entire way you relate, so conflict no longer feels like the end, but instead becomes the doorway back to love.

Couples who came to me on the edge of signing divorce papers walked away holding hands, laughing, and rediscovering why they chose each other in the first place.

And here’s the truth: that shift is waiting for you too.

Space is limited but the transformation is endless.

📅 Book a free intro call today and let’s see if this is the next step your marriage has been longing for.

10/08/2025

At first, it’s small things…
•Conversations become quick checklists.
•Hugs feel more like habit than passion.
•You spend more evenings in silence than laughter.

One day, you notice you’re more like roommates than lovers.
No big fight. No dramatic ending.
Just a slow fade into emotional distance.

This isn’t how love is supposed to feel.
And the truth is, the drift doesn’t fix itself.

💡 Couples who come back from this don’t wait until the gap feels unbridgeable, they act while there’s still time.
💡 The right tools and intentional time together can turn emotional distance into closeness again.

That’s exactly what the 3-Day Intensive is for, not patching cracks with quick fixes, but rebuilding connection from the ground up.

If this feels too familiar, you’re not alone.
DM me the word INTENSIVE and let’s talk.

📅 Fully booked until Sept 10th, join the waitlist.

08/08/2025

Something beautiful happened this week.
Not because every couple I saw had it all figured out
But because they chose not to stay stuck.

This week, several couples made the brave decision to go all in.
They didn’t settle for a session here or there.
They committed to the full 3-day intensive.
And that is the moment things start to shift.

🌀 It’s not easy to say “we want more” when things feel distant.
But choosing to do this work together, deliberately, fully, is what makes reconnection possible.

I’m fully booked for now and walking this journey with incredible couples all month long…
But if you’ve been thinking about it, don’t wait for things to fall apart.
Book your intro call now to save your spot for September.

Let’s rebuild something beautiful.

Address

106 Shirley Avenue
Pretoria
0081

Opening Hours

Monday	09:00 - 17:00
Tuesday	09:00 - 17:00
Wednesday	09:00 - 17:00
Thursday	09:00 - 17:00
Friday	09:00 - 16:00

Telephone

+27836102892

Website

https://startright.co.za/, https://www.imago.joburg/SRSRQUIZ

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