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🌿 Where the Quiet Things Grow — Coming September 2025 📚✨Get ready for a soul-stirring journey through three unforgettabl...
21/06/2025

🌿 Where the Quiet Things Grow — Coming September 2025 📚✨

Get ready for a soul-stirring journey through three unforgettable stories. From a silent boy who finds healing in a school hallway chair, to lovers reunited in late bloom, to twin brothers torn apart by fate—this debut novel by Frank Benade reminds us that sometimes, the deepest truths grow in silence.

If you love emotional storytelling, romance with depth, healing journeys, and quiet power, this book will stay with you long after the last page.

The Shackz Family MissionThe Shackz family is a unique, heartfelt community dedicated to uplifting those who feel like o...
09/04/2025

The Shackz Family Mission

The Shackz family is a unique, heartfelt community dedicated to uplifting those who feel like outcasts—people navigating mental health challenges, cancer, limb loss, caregiving, loneliness, or simply the weight of being “different.” Using messaging platforms like WhatsApp, we create a safe, non-judgmental space where personal stories become a source of strength.

Here, members share their experiences, offering empathy and a roadmap for others facing similar struggles. Think of us as an old thrift shop—full of diverse, cherished souls finding belonging.

With the expertise of Frank, a specialist in marriage and family therapy, trauma counseling, life coaching, play therapy, and cancer support, we’re growing stronger in our mission to empower and heal.

Led by Toni’s passion for paying it forward, The Shackz Family is a beacon of hope, proving that no one has to walk alone.

Connect with us:
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+27 83 651 3729
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+27 66 556 9007
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+27 72 591 9980
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+27 72 813 3135

+27 64 867 6289



People don’t always say I LOVE YOU Sometimes it sounds like ….
22/06/2024

People don’t always say
I LOVE YOU
Sometimes it sounds like ….

 # # # Breaking Through StressStress often creeps up on us, culminating in hitting a wall where our mental and physical ...
30/05/2024

# # # Breaking Through Stress

Stress often creeps up on us, culminating in hitting a wall where our mental and physical capacities feel stretched thin.

**Understanding Stress:**
- **Physiological:** Activates the body's fight, flight, or freeze responses.
- **Psychological:** Causes emotional turmoil, leading to avoidance or disconnection.

**Signs of Accumulating Stress:**
- Snapping at loved ones.
- Declining performance in tasks.

People hit the wall for various reasons:
- **Regimented Individuals:** Struggle with expanding to-do lists.
- **Avoidant Individuals:** Face mounting unfinished tasks.

Stress spirals, harming well-being and relationships. Negative emotions impair thinking, crucial for managing stress. Even those adept in high-stress situations can falter when overwhelmed, akin to an exhausted runner.

**Preventing the Wall:**
- **Take Small Steps:** Tackle tasks incrementally.
- **Avoid Self-Judgment:** Shame worsens stress.

**Seeking Help:**
- **Utilize Support Systems:** Discuss problems with others.
- **Venting:** Release stress in small doses.

**Athletic Approach:**
Recognize limits and manage stress proactively.

# # # When Parenting Overwhelms

Parenting strains many, especially those with chronically ill children.

**Burnout Factors:**
- **Cultural Variances:** Western parents more susceptible.
- **Predictors:** Family disorganization, low emotional intelligence, lack of social support, and work-family conflicts.

**Is Stress Contagious?**
Yes, emotions spread, impacting social networks.

# # # Beating Burnout

1. **Start Positively:** Connect with your body.
2. **Embrace Nature:** Spend phone-free time outdoors.
3. **Practice Mindfulness:** Focus on daily sensations.
4. **Celebrate Successes:** Shift focus from disappointments.

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Hey,You’re not a failure. You haven’t failed at anything. You’ve just gone through something incredibly hard, and it’s n...
26/05/2024

Hey,

You’re not a failure. You haven’t failed at anything. You’ve just gone through something incredibly hard, and it’s not your fault.

I wish I had told myself this when I was at my lowest point. Instead, I convinced myself I was the biggest failure and loser in the world.

I remember hitting rock bottom, losing 50 kg, unable to get a job. My dreams of starting a business felt unreachable. Waking up each day was unbearable. Even getting out of bed felt like climbing Mount Everest, with a crushing weight of pain on my chest and shoulders.

For months, I did nothing. Depression wore me down to the point where I believed:

“Those big goals aren’t for you.”
“Maybe you’re not cut out for this.”
“Maybe you’re broken now. You’re a failure.”
“You’re a loser. None of this is possible for you.”

Looking back, I know that wasn’t true. I wasn’t a failure or a loser. I was hurt. Just hurt.

If you’ve ever felt like a failure or that you’ve messed things up beyond repair, I understand. What you need right now isn’t more pressure or negative self-talk. You need to remove that pressure. You need love and understanding—from yourself.

I learned that if I couldn’t love myself, I couldn’t accept the love others were trying to give me. I felt undeserving. I realized that if I couldn’t care about myself, it was game over. You deserve that love too.

Here’s something that helped me: try looking at yourself from a different perspective. See yourself as you would see a loved one. Things changed for me when I started doing this. Instead of beating myself up, I began to see myself as deserving of love and understanding. I started saying:

“No matter what it takes, I’m here every step of the way. Right by your side, to love you, to support you, and to push you to get there.”

I learned to become my own best friend. That inner self-talk is vital during hardship.

So, what are you saying to yourself? You might not even realize the negative loops you’re stuck in. Start becoming aware of those patterns and choose to interpret your situation differently. The way we interpret reality affects us, and that interpretation is up to you.

How are you going to interpret your situation? Are you going to conclude that you’re a failure, that you’ll never do anything right, that you’ll never amount to anything? That’s what a lot of people do. That’s what I did for a long time.

But I didn’t want to live the rest of my life hating myself. I learned to first tolerate, then genuinely like and love myself.

I hope this helps. Set high goals, but be gentle with yourself!

How to Make Your Mondays Better: Tips for a Less Stressful Start to Your WeekMondays can be challenging, but effective s...
20/05/2024

How to Make Your Mondays Better: Tips for a Less Stressful Start to Your Week
Mondays can be challenging, but effective strategies can make them more manageable and enjoyable.

Understanding the Monday Blues
The dread often starts Sunday night. By Monday morning, the tasks ahead can feel overwhelming, leading to repeated snooze button hits. Ricardo Santiago, LMHC, explains this is due to transitioning from weekend relaxation to workweek stress.

Quick Tips for a Better Monday
Get Enough Rest: Ensure a good night's sleep on Sunday.
Dress Up a Bit: Wear something you love to boost positivity.
Eat a Healthy Breakfast: Opt for nutritious foods to manage your mood and energy.
Squeeze in a Workout: Physical activity can lift your spirits.
Practice Meditation: Start your day with a calming session.
Treat Yourself: Do something fun to make your day special.
Coping with a Rough Monday
Meditate: A morning session can improve mood and focus.
Dress Up: Wearing a favorite outfit can make the day feel special.
Eat Well: A nutritious breakfast can set a positive tone.
Have Fun: Incorporate enjoyable activities into your routine.
Exercise: Boost your mood with a workout.
Planning Ahead
Sleep Early on Sunday: Ensure you're well-rested.
Avoid Heavy Meetings: Start with lighter tasks.
Prep on Friday: Organize for the week ahead.
Organize a Fun Treat: Plan a Monday treat to boost morale.
Address Anxiety: Challenge negative thoughts and seek support if needed.
By making these adjustments, you can transform Mondays into a positive start to the week




Imagine a workplace where every interaction is fueled by kindness. It’s not a dream—it’s your choice as a leader. As a l...
15/05/2024

Imagine a workplace where every interaction is fueled by kindness. It’s not a dream—it’s your choice as a leader.

As a leader, you create a lasting impact by embracing the power of kindness.

Let's break down the KINDNESS approach:

1. Knowledge Sharing:

↳ Recognize that knowledge is a collective asset.
↳ Share knowledge to mentor and elevate the entire team.

2. Inclusivity:

↳ Celebrate diversity and actively seek different perspectives.
↳ Foster an inclusive environment where diverse perspectives drive innovation.

3. Nurturing Relationships:

↳ Build strong relationships by connecting personally and supporting each other.
↳ Show genuine interest in their well-being.

4, Decisiveness with Empathy:

↳ Make tough decisions empathetically, considering their broader impact.
↳ Communicate transparently and provide context to build trust.

5. Empowerment:

➟ Empower and recognize your team to foster ownership and accountability.
➟ Delegate responsibilities and encourage autonomy.
➟ Creating a culture of ownership and accountability.

6. Self-Reflection:
➟ Reflect on your actions and embrace continuous improvement.
➟ Acknowledge mistakes and learn from them.
➟ Authenticity inspires others.

7. Nurturing Growth:

➟ Provide opportunities for skill enhancement and career advancement.
➟ Encourage a growth mindset.
➟ Invest in your team’s growth for both professional and personal advancement

8. Servant Leadership:

➟ Serve your team’s needs and inspire loyalty through approachability
➟ Prioritize your team’s needs.
➟ When you serve, you inspire loyalty and commitment.

9. Sincere Appreciation:

➟ Recognize efforts, whether big or small.
➟ A simple “thank you” can boost morale and foster a positive work environment.
➟ Show sincere appreciation and celebrate collective achievements

Kindness isn’t a weakness; it’s a strength in action. As leaders, let’s create a ripple effect—one act of kindness at a time. 🌊

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P.S. When was the last time you experienced an act of kindness in your workplace? How did it impact your day?

Cleansing the Mind: A Journey of DetoxificationIn the heart of a bustling city, amidst the chaos of daily life, there li...
10/05/2024

Cleansing the Mind: A Journey of Detoxification

In the heart of a bustling city, amidst the chaos of daily life, there lived a young woman named Maya. Despite the vibrant energy surrounding her, Maya often found herself feeling overwhelmed, burdened by the weight of her own thoughts and emotions. Struggling with anxiety and stress, she longed for a way to cleanse her mind and find inner peace.

One fateful day, as Maya sat in the park, her mind heavy with worry, she noticed an elderly man sitting on a nearby bench. His serene demeanor and gentle smile caught her attention, drawing her closer. Intrigued, Maya approached the man and asked, "How do you find peace in such a chaotic world?"

The man chuckled softly before responding, "My dear, peace isn't found in the external world; it resides within each of us. It's a matter of cleansing the mind and letting go of that which no longer serves us."

Intrigued by his words, Maya listened intently as the man shared his story. He spoke of a time when he too had been consumed by the stresses of life, until he discovered the power of mindfulness and meditation. Through regular practice, he learned to quiet the noise of his mind and cultivate a sense of inner calm.

Inspired by the man's wisdom, Maya embarked on her own journey of self-discovery. She began to explore various mindfulness techniques, from meditation to deep breathing exercises. With each practice, she felt a little lighter, as though shedding the layers of stress that had weighed her down for so long.

As Maya delved deeper into her practice, she discovered the importance of self-reflection and gratitude. She took time each day to journal her thoughts and express gratitude for the blessings in her life. Slowly but surely, she began to shift her perspective, focusing on the beauty and abundance that surrounded her.

With each passing day, Maya felt herself becoming more grounded and centered. The worries that once plagued her mind began to lose their grip, replaced by a sense of peace and clarity. She found joy in the simple moments of life – the warmth of the sun on her face, the laughter of children playing in the park, the gentle rustle of leaves in the wind.

As Maya continued on her journey, she realized that detoxifying the mind was not a one-time event, but an ongoing process. Just as we must cleanse our bodies of toxins to maintain good health, so too must we cleanse our minds of negative thoughts and emotions to find inner peace.

Armed with this newfound wisdom, Maya embraced each day as an opportunity for growth and transformation. She no longer feared the challenges that lay ahead, knowing that she had the power to overcome them with grace and resilience.

And so, with a heart full of gratitude and a mind cleansed of clutter, Maya walked confidently into the future, ready to embrace whatever the universe had in store. For she knew that true peace could only be found within – and she had finally discovered the key to unlocking it.

Happy Mother’s Day the 12 May 2024.
10/05/2024

Happy Mother’s Day the 12 May 2024.

Can an employee take leave from work for depression and anxiety in South Africa?Mental Health Leave in South Africa | LA...
03/05/2024

Can an employee take leave from work for depression and anxiety in South Africa?

Mental Health Leave in South Africa | LAW FOR ALL
If an employee seeks the help of a medical professional for depression and anxiety, and they are told it's best to be booked off for some time, then they do qualify to take sick leave, which every South African employee is entitled to take.



Stuck in a Pain Cycle? Scenario😒:  Do you ever find yourself in a situation where conflicts with your partner escalate i...
29/04/2024

Stuck in a Pain Cycle?

Scenario😒: Do you ever find yourself in a situation where conflicts with your partner escalate into a cycle of anger and withdrawal? This pattern can leave both individuals feeling misunderstood and isolated. It's a common issue that many couples face, but it doesn't have to be the norm.

I strongly believe that understanding and breaking this Pain Cycle is crucial for developing the ability to resolve conflicts with compassion. Effective conflict resolution is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, and it's disheartening to see so many relationships suffer because of this very issue.

To help more couples overcome the Pain Cycle and strengthen their foundation, I have created a short and accessible online course. This course is designed to provide practical tools and strategies that can be easily implemented in daily life. My hope is that this resource will empower you to break free from the destructive cycle of anger and withdrawal and instead foster a deeper connection with your partner.

I invite you to embark on this journey of growth and transformation, so you can experience the joy and fulfillment that comes from resolving conflicts with compassion. Together, we can create a healthier and more harmonious relationship. ❤

"Hearing each other AGAIN".

Goals for both : Unravelling your Pain Cycle, feel heard and understood, Experience a new level of connection

Who will benefit?
All couples in a committed relationship. We focuses on understanding both yourself and your partner. For this reason the skills you'll gain will be invaluable for your relationships

Outcomes:
✔️ Understanding all the dynamics of YOUR Pain Cycle
✔️ Identify your Attachment Styles
✔️ Identify you Pain Beliefs
✔️ Identify your Conflict Stance
✔️ Change your Pain Cycle into a NEW Cycle of Connection
✔️ Feel Heard and Understood
✔️ Experience a New Level of Connection

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Words to repeat to yourself in April:
03/04/2024

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