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                                            Day 3: The Relational Unconscious
The unconscious is never just âours.â It is woven between people, shaped and reshaped in relationships. What we call the relational unconscious refers to the shared, often wordless field between patient and therapist: an intersubjective space where unconscious processes are co-constructed.
Many thinkers have deepened our understanding of this dimension: Sigmund Freud, with the earliest glimpses of unconscious transference; SĂĄndor Ferenczi, who first emphasized mutual influence; Harry Stack Sullivan, who foregrounded interpersonal dynamics; Heinz Kohut, with his focus on empathic attunement; Stephen Mitchell and Jay Greenberg, who articulated the foundations of relational psychoanalysis; Jessica Benjamin, exploring recognition and mutuality; Lewis Aron and Philip Bromberg, who expanded the notion of multiplicity and enactment; and Emmanuel Ghent, who brought attention to surrender and intersubjectivity.
In this view, the unconscious is not a sealed vault inside the individual but a living fabric that arises between people. Our desires, defenses, and histories are always in dialogue with the unconscious of the other. Therapy, then, becomes a place where these unconscious currents can be felt, recognized, and thought about together.