Marlize Labuschagne-Educational Psychologist

01/10/2025

Dear parents,
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be vigilant when posting pictures of your children on social media. Especially when your accounts are public. We NEED to safeguard our kids.

Exclusive: Instagram pictures of girls as young as 13 were posted to promote Threads site ‘as bait’, campaigner says

26/09/2025

The Learning Hive is the learning centre adjacent to The Neurodiversity Hive . The centre was born out a need for a safe space where neurodiverse kids can complete their high school education, without the extra challenges that mainstream schooling brings.

Go take a look at their page. The kids get to be so creative and learn at their own pace, in their own way. It is so humbling to see how they grow and progress in a variety of different ways!

21/09/2025

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So today he decided he'd apply the logic backwards. And gave his teacher a sticker for walking in the classroom nicely. And then refused all stickers headed his way, because he doesn't 'do things to get stickers'. She stopped waving them at him.

He told her if everyone had to sit down then so did she. And not look at anything else while she was speaking to them. including the white board. And if the kids have to put up their hands to speak, so do the teachers. Because that's fair.

And he got told he couldn't sit cross-legged. Which he does EVERYWHERE (even in the car). So he continued to sit cross legged. And was told he'd make his seat dirty. So he said he'd take his shoes off. which he wasn't allowed to do. So he produced a packet of baby wipes and said he'd wipe it before he went home. She stopped telling him to sit properly.

A kid in the yard was crying and they told him to calm down. So he marches his arse over and told them that' said kid couldn't help it and to help him or leave him alone.

He had an appointment with the ed psych. And told her that the teachers didn't understand Autism. And rules should only be followed if they make sense and are fair. Otherwise they are stupid and he's not doing them until someone makes them make sense.

They had to draw shapes in class. A circle, a square, a rectangle.....and colour them in. He did that in first grade. He's in third. And it was boring. So he drew a circle and made it into the earth complete with tectonic plates. This was not the assignment. But he gave not a single s**t because he didn't care if he didn't get a sticker anyway.

I fear it's only a matter of time before I'm called into the school for raising the rebellion .But I'm game for that. Bring it on.

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[image is of him holding the world he made out of bits of paper. And I do think it's a little more interesting than a circle to be fair]

20/09/2025

Hello Facebook Fam!
Check out this workshop, presented by Frances Kaplan Educational Psychologist, next weekend.

I have the privilege of not only working with Frances but also having a case study discussion/supervision session with her at least once a week. Her passion for her work and the humans we work with is amazing!

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This interactive, online workshop is designed to help parents and partners gain a deeper understanding of autism from a neurodiversity-affirming perspective.

Together, we will explore how autistic people experience the world (socially, emotionally, and sensorily) so that we can be AUsome partners in this journey through life.

Through discussion, reflection, and practical strategies, we will learn how to support autistic people's unique strengths, needs, and communication styles.

The aim is to foster stronger connections, reduce misunderstandings, and create an environment where autistic people can thrive.

Contact our care coordinator, Blue, on 083 676 1462 (call or WhatsApp) or email info@ndhive.co.za to secure your spot.

11/08/2025

I have heard so many different versions of this from my adult autistic clients... SO MANY!!

08/08/2025

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28/07/2025

𝕐𝕠𝕦’𝕣𝕖 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕤𝕔𝕣𝕠𝕝𝕝𝕚𝕟𝕘...

Then bam!!! A sentence catches you off guard. Your stomach tightens.

Your thoughts start spiralling. Your parts start whispering familiar old stories:
“Say something back!” A fiery Reactive Part rushes in, ready to defend your worth, to argue, to make it fair
“You’re not good enough to speak.” A tender, hidden Insecure Part speaks up, carrying wounds from long ago, afraid of being shamed again.
“Forget it. Shut it all down.” A frozen, overwhelmed Avoidant Part tries to cut the circuit, pulling the plug to avoid more pain.
Self gently enters, offering space, breath, and perspective. Not pushing the parts away, but sitting beside them with compassion. “Pause. This hurts. You’re allowed to feel your feelings before deciding how to react.

𝕀𝔽𝕊 𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕎𝕚𝕝𝕕 𝕝𝕠𝕠𝕜𝕤 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤: Sometimes, the scroll taps on old wounds. Not every trigger needs a takedown or a retreat. We don’t need to silence our parts. We can listen to them kindly, let them know we’re here, and choose our next step from calm, not chaos.

28/07/2025

The Learning Hive in Brooklyn, Pretoria, is hiring!
We are looking for a magic unicorn, someone with sparkle and charisma, innovative and out-of-the-box thinking, strong yet compassionate, independent and a team player.

The kids have a history of school trauma and require gentle encouragement, emotional support and nervous system regulation.

Contact Hours:
07h30 to 13h30
No extra-mural activities

If you believe you possess the personality, temperament, and skill set to create some magic, please submit your CV and cover letter to Jo at hello@learninghive.co.za.

The position is available from 1 September 2025.

24/07/2025

23/07/2025

In Internal Family Systems (IFS), the 8 C’s and 5 P’s describe the natural qualities of the Self, the calm, compassionate core within each of us.

When we lead our inner world from Self, these qualities begin to shine through, gently guiding how we relate to our parts.

This week we are exploring 𝐂𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐲: 𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑏𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑓𝑟𝑒𝑠ℎ, 𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑝𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑛𝑠.

How does CREATIVITY show up for you?

21/07/2025

ℍ𝕠𝕤𝕡𝕚𝕥𝕒𝕝 𝕧𝕚𝕤𝕚𝕥𝕤 𝕔𝕒𝕟 𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕣 𝕦𝕡 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕟 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕤𝕪𝕞𝕡𝕥𝕠𝕞𝕤, 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕔𝕒𝕟 𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕣 𝕦𝕡 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥𝕤.

You might be there for a blood test, a scan, or an overnight stay... but inside, your parts are having very different experiences:

A Worried Part says, “What if something’s seriously wrong?”
A Minimising Part scolds, “You’re being dramatic. Just suck it up.”
An Overwhelmed Part tries to hide, “This is too much. I want to go home.”
And then Self enters the building, with a suggestion: "I'll sit with all of you. You don't have to do this alone."

𝕀𝔽𝕊 𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕎𝕚𝕝𝕕 𝕝𝕠𝕠𝕜𝕤 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤: Sitting in the waiting room, checking in not just with reception, but with your inner world. Noticing the fear, the frustration, the fatigue. Making room for each part that’s stirred by the unknown.

Whether you're there for answers, support, or healing, you don't have to face it alone. Self can be with you. Every part is welcome.

16/07/2025

In Internal Family Systems (IFS), the 8 C’s and 5 P’s describe the natural qualities of the Self, the calm, compassionate core within each of us.

When we lead our inner world from Self, these qualities begin to shine through, gently guiding how we relate to our parts.

This week we are exploring 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞: 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑟𝑔𝑒𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑤𝑒 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑆𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑑.

How does CONFIDENCE show up for you?