Nandhi Du Plooy Clinical Psychologist

13/10/2025

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I Needed This Dave · BONFIRE · Song · 2025

13/10/2025

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13/10/2025

Honest people explain.
Dishonest people create drama to avoid the truth.**

It’s a simple difference — but it reveals everything about someone’s character. Honest people value clarity. When there’s a misunderstanding, they’ll talk it through calmly. They’ll take responsibility, admit mistakes, and seek resolution. Their goal isn’t to win — it’s to be understood, to make things right, and to keep peace built on truth.

Dishonest people, on the other hand, can’t survive in the light of accountability. The moment the truth gets too close, they shift the focus. They’ll argue, deflect, and turn a simple question into a full-blown conflict. They create chaos not because they’re emotional — but because chaos keeps them safe. If they can make you emotional, defensive, or confused, you stop asking for answers. That’s how they regain control.

With a dishonest person — especially a narcissist — truth is their enemy. They’ll twist facts, play the victim, or accuse you of being the problem. They don’t explain; they *perform.* Every dramatic reaction, every sudden outburst, every tear or accusation is a distraction designed to keep you from seeing what’s really happening.

Meanwhile, honest people don’t need theatrics. They don’t manipulate emotions or rewrite events. Their words and actions align. They can look you in the eye without flinching because they have nothing to hide.

The contrast becomes clear over time: honesty brings calm; dishonesty brings confusion.
So when someone’s response to the truth is drama, defensiveness, or blame — that’s not emotion. That’s avoidance.
And when someone explains with openness and empathy — that’s not weakness. That’s integrity.

16/09/2025

An obsession with cleanliness is often linked to narcissistic abuse, and this is why…
When you’ve lived through narcissistic abuse, your world often felt unpredictable, unstable, and unsafe. A narcissist thrives on creating chaos—emotionally, mentally, and even physically—because the more confusion they cause, the more control they maintain over you. In that environment, you’re constantly walking on eggshells, never knowing what version of them you’ll get or what small action might trigger an explosion. Over time, this teaches your nervous system to always be on high alert, searching for ways to minimize conflict and keep some sense of order in the middle of the storm.

This is where cleanliness and control come in. For many survivors, cleaning and organizing become more than just chores—they become coping mechanisms. Every clean surface, every neatly arranged drawer, every carefully controlled space offers a sense of calm and predictability that was missing during the abuse. It’s a way to tell yourself, “Here, I am safe. Here, I decide what stays and what goes. Here, I am in control.” What might look like a simple habit of tidiness to outsiders often holds a much deeper meaning for survivors.

The spotless home becomes symbolic—it’s not just about dust and clutter; it’s about reclaiming power where power was once stripped away. It’s about healing through structure, about soothing a traumatized nervous system, and about creating an environment where peace replaces chaos. It may look like “obsession” to some, but for survivors, it is survival—it is the body and mind’s way of saying, “Never again will I live in that kind of disorder.”

Cleanliness, for many survivors, is not about perfection. It’s about freedom. It’s about creating a sanctuary where their inner world can finally breathe.

05/09/2025

Monday Motivation🦋
Anatomy of a hug

19/08/2025

A narcissist abandons their responsibilities, breaks everyone around them, then plays the victim when called out. They refuse to face the consequences of their actions, instead shifting blame onto others and rewriting reality to suit their narrative. Their words are often honey-coated, their charm disarming, and their public persona convincing—but behind closed doors, the truth is very different. They exploit trust, manipulate emotions, and create an environment of confusion and fear, making those around them question their own perceptions and sanity.

When confronted, they rarely apologize sincerely. Instead, they twist the situation to appear wounded, persecuted, or misunderstood, making it seem as if anyone who holds them accountable is cruel or unreasonable. Their disregard for responsibilities isn’t accidental—it’s a pattern of self-centered behavior designed to protect themselves at all costs. Families, friends, and colleagues may find themselves picking up the pieces, compensating for tasks left undone, and enduring emotional strain while the narcissist remains detached from the real-world impact of their actions.

Over time, this behavior erodes confidence, creates self-doubt, and leaves lasting emotional scars. The narcissist thrives on control, chaos, and the illusion of innocence, all while leaving others to manage the consequences. Even when confronted with evidence or undeniable truths, they maintain their victim role, using sympathy, deflection, and guilt as tools to manipulate and dominate. Engaging with them becomes exhausting because their reality is flexible, their empathy absent, and their focus singularly on self-preservation. In short, a narcissist’s world revolves entirely around themselves, and anyone who crosses paths with them bears the brunt of their neglect, deceit, and emotional manipulation—yet they remain experts at convincing others it’s all someone else’s fault.

08/08/2025

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This is a good talk on burnout even if you are not religious.

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