Bianca Grace - End of Life Doula

01/08/2025

We don't always need the right words, sometimes showing up is enough.

01/08/2025

It's about time...
I'm back to sharing on my page.

🌿Welcome to August 🌿

In the midst of the chaos and noise of life, let's keep things simple: make room for what matters and be done with the clutter.

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I have one coffee mug.
Bought it when we first got here.
It’s not fancy. It’s not oversized.
I use it every morning, and only it. No rotation. No options. No “just in case” backups.

Back in LA, we had a whole cupboard full—mugs for every mood, every guest, every maybe.
Some were giant. Soup bowls with a handle.
They always reminded me of buffets and chain restaurants—loud, bloated, and pushing the lie that more is better.

But this mug? It’s just enough.
And that’s the point.

It feels good to have one thing you love, and to use it every day.
No clutter. No decision fatigue. No searching.
Just clarity. Simplicity. Ritual.

I’m trying to apply this to everything now.
One thing that works. One thing that feels right.
And letting that be enough.

Maybe freedom isn’t about having more.
Maybe it’s about needing less.

09/05/2025

May you never need to carry more than you can hold... but if the heaviness in your heart becomes too bg, please reach out to someone who can help you carry.

I specialise in helping people walk through life a little easier.

01/05/2025

My mom passed away the day after I made my last post. It still doesn't feel real.
I was in her car recently and found a dry dandelion in a small dip on her dashboard. We were very different but both loved dandelions and on our days together would pull over if we noticed them along the side of the road. I was always commandeered to take close up pictures, then we would wave them around like children and watch the delicate little umbrellas float up into the sky. (I don't know what passing motorists must have thought 😅) This dandelion had somehow stayed intact since our last roadside adventure almost a year ago.
I picked it up, silently thanked God for every beautiful moment with my mom, and let the wind cary away it's precious cargo. A lifetime of love, personified in something so small.

Let's remember to celebrate even the little things and love with all our hearts while we still have a place to pour it out.

23/02/2025

I try to live authenticly, life is too short for pretences. Social media is full of carefully curated lies about people's "best lives" and too often this makes us compare our rough and real to other people's heavily edited perfection, don't do that. I've been quiet here on my page because I'm humbled by a big wave grief in my own life and I don't know how to make meaningful honest posts to the world out there without that grief spilling into my posts.
I don't want to present this white washed facade and just make empty posts so I'm reminded to follow my own advice...
Take time to heal, have healthy boundaries, gaurd your peace, be intentional with what you allow in your head and heart, choose what is best over what is easy, look for every bit of goodness - even when everything seems hopeless.
Whatever you are struggling with, don't do it alone.

13/02/2025

To pursue healing is like swimming through deep waters, you must keep going to get to shore. Sometimes all you can do is float, and that's ok. Let the water wash you clean.
All the struggle sacrifice and sacrifice is worth the peace you win. Wholeness is a beautiful thing. You deserve to live life with your heart complete so say all the no's and set all boundaries you need.

12/02/2025

May you be heard, may you be truly seen. Most of all - may you be at peace with yourself. Reach out if you need to, I'm here to walk with you.

George Orwell once said: The most terrible loneliness is not the kind that comes from being alone, but the kind that comes from being misunderstood; the loneliness of standing in a crowded room, surrounded by people who do not see you, who do not hear you, who do not know the true essence of who you are. And in that loneliness, you feel as though you are fading, disappearing into the background, until you are nothing more than a ghost, a shadow of your former self.

It’s that soul-deep ache of being surrounded by people—friends, family, colleagues—yet feeling completely invisible. You may smile, nod, and go through the motions, but inside, you feel a sense of isolation that words can’t fully capture. You feel as though no one truly gets you, as if the truest parts of you are hidden, left unrecognized, while the world only acknowledges the version of you that fits in.

This kind of loneliness hits hard because it isn’t about the absence of people; it’s about the absence of connection. You crave to be seen for who you really are, to have someone understand your soul’s language, your quirks, your dreams, and the complexities of your heart. But when you’re misunderstood, it feels as if there’s an unbridgeable gap between your inner world and the outside one. It’s like standing behind a glass wall, desperately hoping someone will look through and truly see you, only to realize they’re gazing right past you.

In that space of feeling unknown, you start to question yourself. You wonder if you should change, if you should become what the world expects or desires, just to feel a hint of acceptance. But even then, the loneliness doesn’t vanish; it only grows. Because the deeper tragedy is the slow fading of your own essence, the parts of you that you start to hide or let go of, simply to belong. You become a shadow, a ghost of the vibrant self you once were, drifting silently, holding onto the hope that one day, someone might understand.

What makes this kind of loneliness so painful is that it’s not just the longing to be loved—it’s the longing to be known, and loved for being known. For someone to look at the parts of you that are messy, complicated, and even broken, and to say, “I see you. I understand. And I’m here.” It’s the yearning for someone to hear your heart’s quietest whispers and to feel the depths of your soul without judgment or expectation.

Yet, even in that terrible loneliness, there’s a quiet strength. There’s a resilience in holding onto your essence, even when it feels invisible. There’s courage in keeping your light alive, in refusing to let the world’s misunderstanding extinguish the fire within you. You may feel unseen, but the truth is, your uniqueness, your complexity, is what makes you extraordinary. Somewhere, someone will value that. And until then, you can value that.

Sometimes, the journey through being misunderstood leads to a deeper understanding of yourself. It teaches you to embrace who you are, even if the world isn’t ready to. It invites you to find peace in your own company, to nurture the parts of yourself that feel lonely and unacknowledged. And, in time, you may discover that the right connections—the ones that see you, hear you, and know you—come when you least expect them.

01/01/2025

✨️Welcome to 2025✨️
I pray this year brings peace, progress,
clarity, fortitude, wholeness, healthy relationships and many reasons to celebrate.
🌱Be intentional about what goes on in your mind, it plants the seeds that grow your life.
🕊Feed your eyes with only things that are good for your soul.

11/12/2024

I haven't posted a lot latey. Year end is so challenging! 🤪
I am giving my energy to what's essential - family & keeping my peace🌸
There are no instant affirmations or gift card wisdoms to share here that will instantly better your life but in this season I'm reminded to be very conscious of where my head's at and intentional about what I allow to go on inside my heart. You are the CEO of your own self so keep choosing the thoughts and actions that bring you closer to where you want to be.

Gaurd and cultivate peace like your life depends on it.💜

✨️Please reach out and message me if you need someone to walk you through something difficult.

11/12/2024

I pray courage for all of us to finish this year well, courage to be good to those around us - even when we are struggling, to be good to ourselves and courage to reach for what's best, not what's closest.
May there be hope as you walk through the last weeks of December.

30/11/2024

Never feel bad for saying NO.
I think I've said this before but you can't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Boundaries are so important, having a voice is important. Leave if you feel uncomfortable, don't have that drink if you don't feel like it. Rest when you need rest. Decline all the invitations you need to in order to keep your peace. Say yes to the things that bring you joy 😊