Cornelia Swart Psychologist, EFT and IMAGO Relationship Therapist

20/12/2025

The miracle of emotions… and feeling them!

01/12/2025

"On November 15, 2024, George Clooney made a confession during a private therapy session that he later shared publicly with The Atlantic—he'd been secretly struggling with the fear that Amal would eventually outgrow him intellectually and realize she'd settled for a charming actor when she deserved a partner who matched her brilliance, insecurities that had been eating at him since the twins started asking questions he couldn't answer but she could explain effortlessly in three languages. The man who'd projected confidence for decades admitted he'd started reading international law journals at night and listening to Oxford lecture podcasts during workouts, desperate to keep up with dinner conversations where Amal discussed geopolitical complexities that made his film analysis feel embarrassingly trivial in comparison. What makes this vulnerability so deeply human is that Amal had absolutely no idea George felt inadequate until she read the interview on her phone while waiting for a flight, immediately calling him sobbing because she'd spent their entire marriage feeling like she could never match his ease with people, his ability to light up any room, his emotional intelligence that made everyone feel seen—qualities she'd struggled with her whole academic life. George later told Oprah that the phone call turned into a three-hour conversation where they both realized they'd been privately drowning in mirror insecurities, each convinced the other was too good for them, and the revelation somehow made their bond even stronger. The couple revealed in a joint Vanity Fair interview that they now have a monthly ritual where they each share one fear or insecurity without judgment, creating space for the vulnerabilities that perfectionism and public personas force them to hide. Friends close to them shared that George has stopped trying to prove his intellectual worth and instead leans into what he brings—emotional wisdom, humor during Amal's darkest case moments, and the ability to remind her that changing the world still requires someone to make her laugh when she comes home carrying its weight on her shoulders. "

01/12/2025

How amazing when we can be vulnerable about our shortcomings and insecurities. George and Amal is a perfect (or should I say, “imperfect”!) example of this. Vulnerability nurtures connection…❤️

"On November 15, 2024, George Clooney made a confession during a private therapy session that he later shared publicly with The Atlantic—he'd been secretly struggling with the fear that Amal would eventually outgrow him intellectually and realize she'd settled for a charming actor when she deserved a partner who matched her brilliance, insecurities that had been eating at him since the twins started asking questions he couldn't answer but she could explain effortlessly in three languages. The man who'd projected confidence for decades admitted he'd started reading international law journals at night and listening to Oxford lecture podcasts during workouts, desperate to keep up with dinner conversations where Amal discussed geopolitical complexities that made his film analysis feel embarrassingly trivial in comparison. What makes this vulnerability so deeply human is that Amal had absolutely no idea George felt inadequate until she read the interview on her phone while waiting for a flight, immediately calling him sobbing because she'd spent their entire marriage feeling like she could never match his ease with people, his ability to light up any room, his emotional intelligence that made everyone feel seen—qualities she'd struggled with her whole academic life. George later told Oprah that the phone call turned into a three-hour conversation where they both realized they'd been privately drowning in mirror insecurities, each convinced the other was too good for them, and the revelation somehow made their bond even stronger. The couple revealed in a joint Vanity Fair interview that they now have a monthly ritual where they each share one fear or insecurity without judgment, creating space for the vulnerabilities that perfectionism and public personas force them to hide. Friends close to them shared that George has stopped trying to prove his intellectual worth and instead leans into what he brings—emotional wisdom, humor during Amal's darkest case moments, and the ability to remind her that changing the world still requires someone to make her laugh when she comes home carrying its weight on her shoulders. "

22/11/2025

We are wired for connection…

Love isn’t just a feeling — it’s a science of connection. ❤️
When we understand the patterns that pull us apart, we can learn how to turn back toward each other.

Explore more insights from Dr. Sue Johnson on the science of love and attachment: https://bit.ly/4mVsSH7

11/09/2025

💖 Small shifts create big changes.

Here are 3 simple ways to reconnect with your partner today:

1️⃣ Share a 10-second hug.
2️⃣ Make eye contact when you say goodbye.
3️⃣ Leave a little “thank you” note.

These small actions create powerful bonding moments.

Want more practical tools that last a lifetime?

The Hold Me Tight®️ couples therapy workshop is designed to help you go deeper — and walk away with skills to resolve conflict and strengthen your relationship for years to come.

📅 Join us online this weekend → LINK IN STORIES.

11/09/2025

10/09/2025

⏳ Only 2 days to go until my online Hold Me Tight®️ couples workshop!
This weekend could be the turning point in your relationship.
💡 Better communication.
💡 Stronger trust.
💡 Deeper connection.
If you’ve been waiting for a sign — this is it.
✅ Limited spots left. Register now through my website link in bio.

10/09/2025

08/09/2025

🚫 Myth: “Happy couples never fight.”
✅ Truth: ALL couples fight — but happy couples know how to repair after conflict.
The difference between couples who grow stronger and couples who drift apart? The way they reconnect.
That’s what you’ll learn at the Hold Me Tight®️ couples workshop next weekend. Practical, research-based tools for building lasting love, repairing after arguments, and rekindling connection.
💡 Ready to strengthen your relationship? Swipe through to see more myths and truths about love.
📅 Join us online → Sign up on my website → link in bio.

08/09/2025

🚫 Myth: “Happy couples never fight.”
✅ Truth: ALL couples fight — but happy couples know how to repair after conflict.
The difference between couples who grow stronger and couples who drift apart? The way they reconnect.
That’s what you’ll learn at the Hold Me Tight®️ couples workshop next weekend. Practical, research-based tools for building lasting love, repairing after arguments, and rekindling connection.
💡 Ready to strengthen your relationship? Swipe through to see more myths and truths about love.
📅 Join us online → Sign up on my website → link in bio.

06/09/2025

“Love doesn’t die from conflict. It dies from disconnection.” - Dr Sue Johnson 💔➡️❤️

Conflict is normal in relationships — what matters is how you repair.

That’s why I host the Hold Me Tight®️ workshop for couples,

So you and your partner can learn how to turn conflict into CONNECTION.

Because love deserves a fighting chance… and the right tools to thrive, don’t you think?

📅 Online | Next weekend | Limited spaces available.