Olga Molebatsi Counselling Psychologist Private Practice

12/08/2024

Our Addresses.

12/08/2024

Good day
Here are contact details for our branches.
Rustenburg & Pretoria.

01/01/2023

Going through this message, it still feels soo relevant even for 2023.

Thank you for allowing me the privilege to walk with you in 2021. Thank you for trusting me with your vulnerabilities and letting me in to your very personal spaces. Thank you for receiving what I could give and offer you. Thank you for your cooperation and payments of the services received.

In 2022, I wish for you courage
Courage to:
- continue on your healing journey or start.
- heal the wounded child/adult.
- heal your traumas.
- feel your feelings.
- develop a good relationship with yourself.
- make good choices for yourself.
- choose yourself.
- realize your value and worth.
- know what you deserve and your worthiness to receive it.
- be accepting of your self (all parts of self).
- face yourself and your issues.
- be authentic and put off your mask/s.
- be forgiving of yourself and let go.
- let go of what doesn't serve you anymore.
- self develop in areas where you are lacking.
- actually take action towards improving and healing.
- be assertive and say "No" when you need to.
- let your voice be heard, to yourself and others.
- create boundaries.
- be kind to yourself.
- be self loving.
- listen to your inner voice (only the kind one).
- trust your inner voice and take a leap of faith.
- learn new things, leaving your comfort zone for a stretch zone.
- give to yourself first, before giving to others.
- give yourself what you need.
- show up for yourself, even in little ways that seem insignificant.
- expand your capacity in different areas of your life.
- fix what is broken or start afresh or start from scratch (self, marriage, relationships/ career).
- love again.
- trust again.
- be intentional about the things you want.
- ask for help when you need it.
- actually live, live fully and not survive: experience beauty, love, laughter and peace.

26/04/2022

Lack of expression leads to suppression which then leads to depression.

Expression can be in a form of:
- Verbal: speaking up about how you feel (words, tone of voice), etc.
- Written: writing about how you feel, creative writng: poems, storytelling; journaling; composing music, etc.
- Artistic: drawing, sculpting, painting, needle work etc.
- Physical: dancing, running, acting (drama), photography, non verbal expressions: (body language and facial expressions) etc.

Keep in mind that behavior can express what is then suppressed.

What is your behavior expressing?

31/03/2022

We sometimes use "busyness" as a way to distract ourselves, to not think our thoughts or feel our feelings. It is an unhealthy escape which result in burnout.

28/03/2022

We have been taught to give to others and not ourselves. In the process we then put the needs of others over and above our own needs.

This we do in the hope that others will also prioritize our own needs and put our needs ahead of theirs.

The minute we do not receive what we gave, we feel hurt, used and betrayed. We cannot comprehend how others can be soo selfish.

The reason we get hurt, is because we have given what we do not have. I have met so many people who glorify giving thier last transport money to someone who needs it more than they do. So Motlatsi has the last R30 for transport to go to work, Olga needs transport money for work as well. Motlatsi gives Olga her last R30.

So Motlatsi basically choses Olga's problems and felt that she deserves the STRESS it brings. She is now going to start calling Rachel who should rescue her out and therefore carry the STRESS of owing someone.

There is so much to unpack from this situation:

Giving from a place of lack.
Giving from an empty cup.
Giving the responsibility of your own joy to others.
Wanting to be seen that you are good person (people pleasing tendencies).
Self neglect
Self abuse
Lack of self care
And more

Hear me well, I am not saying do not be a giver, but give from a place of abundance. You won't experience being hurt and used etc. And also giving is not just about money. Motlatsi can give what she has in abundance which maybe problem solving skills and knowledge. For example:a listening ear, who else to ask from (someone to give from abundance), knowledge on budgeting, etc.

Some of the depression that people experience are perpetuated by thier own choices. Let's unlearn. Such choices does not serve us. Let's have the courage to choose different and better.

17/03/2022

SELF ISOLATION

One of the symptoms of depression is: self isolation. In that state you do not want to interact with people. You just want to be alone. You avoid phone calls and take long to respond to messages, emails, etc. In that moment you feel that you have nothing else to give, the little strength you are holding on to, is for yourself. The fact that you lack energy and are fatigued also contributes.

Self isolation is your soul drawing you out from the masses in order to SELF HEAL. It draws your attention to yourself, so you can face and attend to the cries of your heart.

The worst about self isolation, is not having the tools to deal with that state of mind and emotional space and having to face it ALONE. Without the tools or assistance, depression can suck you into a deep dark hole, to a point of su***de.

Most people loose valuable relationships when self isolating. They are experienced as having ghosted those relationships or rejecting them, being inconsistent, and unreliable.

When self isolating, get an assistance of a professional to help you navigate that journey. In addition, let your close circle know that you will be going into hiding. Your engagements with them will be reduced or non existent. You can explain how they can support you, because even when it seems like you don't want interactions, it means so much to have someone check up on you or think of you or gift you with an act of service.

03/03/2022

You think you are running away from your problems! You are actually running away from a powerful version of yourself. You fear your own greatness.

28/02/2022

Pain, shame, regret, fear, loneliness, distressed, heaviness, helplessness, overthinking, anxiety, hopelessness, irritable, sadness, confusion, and anger.

Wounded, broken, traumatized, shattered, devastated, defeated, fragmented, troubled, overwhelmed, drowning, stressed, exhausted, unsettled, constant worrying and crying, as well as suicidal.

Headaches, neck tension, shoulder tension, fatigue, back pains, chest pains, ulcers and bodily pains.

Less or more of: sleep, appetite and libido.

More: gambling, alcohol, w**d, ci******es, self isolation and reckless behavior.

If you are experiencing some or most of the above mentioned, please get help. There is normally a season in one's life that will bring one to his/her knees. You find that all your survival tools that used to work, are not working anymore and are depleted. A season untreated can last for years. The process of healing is hard and often can make you feel worse but it's worth it in the end.

It's a inner personal work, unfortunately you will have to face all the above mentioned emotions and feelings. Your power lies in facing and dealing with them. Yes your power, meaning strength comes from weakness.

Healing, relief, feeling light, contentment, calmness, peaceful, and satisfaction can be achieved.

Parents/caregivers please check up on the mental health of your teenagers. Most are going through a lot.

Couples do check up on each other, some of your frustrations are because your partner is suffering from the above.

I offer therapy for inviduals, families and couples.

To make an appointment:
Pretoria: 012 344 4000
Rustenburg: 014 010 0393
Email: olga.molebatsi@yahoo.com (please put your phone number)

Cash rates: R1050 an hour.
Most medical aid accepted.

22/02/2022

Congradutions to all matriculants who passed thier Matric.

To those who have been accepted in higher education institutions, adjusting to the University environment is exciting but in reality it's anxiety provoking. Thus few pointers below:

Please note: In this text, University = Higher Education Institutions (Tvet etc.).

1. Reach out to your lecturers if you do not understand. Most successful students are not shy to approach their lecturers. Other institutions have student advisors in every faculties. Other departments have tutors who can assist. Don't struggle on your own for a long time and get discouraged. If you can afford a private tutor get one.

2. Don't be intimidated by your lower marks, interrogate your scripts, get a picture of your own understanding of the work, ask a lecturer about thier thoughts and observations on your scripts, e.g the types of errors you make etc.

3. Create room that you will "win some and lose some", meaning most students who has never failed in their lives, experience a fail in University. It's okay not to finish on record time, like really it's okay. Yes it's seems like a of waste of time, resources and all but it happens a lot.

4. Give your best to your academic journey and when your best doesn't seem good enough, seek help. Even in you being resilient, seek help.

5. Separate your self esteem and sense of worth from your academic performance. This is especially hard for the overachievers who are used to being celebrated due to thier academic performance. Discover your other awesome qualities because that academic excellence balloon will require more to keep it standing.

6. Managing yourself and time is of high importance. Procrastination is your worst enemy. Be self aware, should you procrastinate and keep doing it - know that emotionally something is off and needs your attention, get help before you tap into a survival mode or self sabotage. Most institutions offer Student support services where there are Psychologists or Counselors to assist.

7. It's important to have a balanced life, your coping depends on it. Yes priority number is books but create time to socialize, exercise, have hobbies, be part of sports, music, leadership and creative activities. Do not forget your spirituality.

8. Take care of your body, mind and soul, they are gonna have to carry you. The academic journey is too long, it has its own pressures and stresses. Workload is a lot and there are chapters that you may have to go through on your own (self study). Self care is a must.

9. Do not isolate yourself. Make lots of friends in the beginning and sass out those whom you can bring closer (for personal benefit) and those you keep at arms length (for academic purposes).

10. Reward yourself and your efforts. Go have fun, fun, fun and clean fun.

11. Stay away from w**d and alcohol.

12. If you can delay being in a relationship especially in first year, do so (assuming you are not in one already. I know you guys👀). Avoid "vat and sit" at all cost. Get to know yourself and develop a healthy relationship with yourself first.

13. Having a background in a subject/module, accounting for an example, does not mean that it will make an accounting module in University a walk over. Keep an open mind.

14. Some of you will soon realize that you chose the wrong course, it happens a lot. Do not start slacking and feeling discouraged and sabotaging yourself to fail. Do continue to still give that course your best and start doing your research about what you think you want. Do communicate with your bursary early on to find out if they can continue to fund you if you change. By virtue of having a student number and passing, it's doable to change to another course within the same institution or different one. Thus passing will open doors for you. Another option is to seek career assessment, if you can afford it.

15. Lastly, an exclusion is when you do not meet the requirements that the faculty has set. Out of a certain number of modules that you are doing, you at least need to pass a certain number of module to be able to progress to the next year. For example, if you are doing 10 modules per the year and you only pass 1 or 2, the University can exclude you from thier faculty. Exclusion from a faculty means that they do not want you in that faculty anymore. You can appeal meaning plead for a second chance or apply to another faculty or a different institution.

All best with the next big step of your life.