Kobus van der Merwe - Imago Relationship Therapy

29/10/2025

When bodies are tense, hearts close. Learn simple co-regulation (breath, pacing, eye softening) and a dialogue that keeps both of you safe enough to connect. Afrikaans Couples Workshop: Sat 2 Nov (early-bird ends 31 Oct). English Couples Workshop: Thu–Sat 5–7 Dec. Save your spot: https://imagorelationship.co.za/workshops/

28/10/2025

No one has to lose for love to win. Try speak-and-listen instead of attack-and-defend. read more https://imagorelationship.co.za/the-fight-that-brought-us-closer/

27/10/2025

22/10/2025

Tired of walking on eggshells? Imago shows you how to ask for an ‘appointment,’ talk with consent, and finally feel heard without interruption. Bring ease back home. Afrikaans Couples Workshop: Sat 2 Nov (early-bird ends 31 Oct). English Couples Workshop: Thu–Sat 5–7 Dec. Book now: https://imagorelationship.co.za/workshops/

21/10/2025

When we listen without defense, blame softens into understanding—and love has room to grow. read more https://imagorelationship.co.za/beneath-the-anger-a-shared-pain/

16/10/2025

✨ Real Couples, Real Breakthroughs ✨

Instead of barking orders, I now pause and connect.

This couple once faced struggle: harsh communication. Through Imago Relationship Therapy, they learned to listen, connect, and heal together. Their relationship transformed from pain to possibility. 💙

Discover how Imago Therapy can help you too: www.imagorelationship.co.za

15/10/2025

Criticize–defend–withdraw on repeat? Structure beats willpower. Imago’s conversation framework slows your nervous system, creates safety, and leads you back to each other. Afrikaans Couples Workshop: Sat 2 Nov (early-bird ends 31 Oct). English Couples Workshop: Thu–Sat 5–7 Dec. Book today: https://imagorelationship.co.za/workshops/

14/10/2025

Two truths can stand side by side. When you honor both, the fight softens and closeness returns. read more https://imagorelationship.co.za/when-two-truths-collide-2/

10/10/2025

So true what Perel say here. If you want to reclaim aliveness INSIDE your marriage, book the Couples Intensive. https://imagorelationship.co.za/imago-couples-intensive-relationship-healing/

10/10/2025

We often think resentment fades when we talk it out or “move past it.”
But most of the time, resentment isn’t just about what went wrong, it’s about what goes unseen.

Appreciation is what melts the tension.
It says, “I notice you. I value you. You matter.”
And that changes everything.

When we feel appreciated, our walls come down.
We soften.
We want to give again.
That’s the power of appreciation, it shifts the energy in a relationship faster than any apology ever could.

Try this for one week 👇

1️⃣ Name it out loud
“Hey, I saw how you handled bedtime tonight. Thank you.”

2️⃣ Write it down
Leave a note, send a text, or jot it on the mirror. Small words. Big impact.

3️⃣ Show it with action
Make their coffee, fold their laundry, touch their arm, say thank you with presence.

One genuine moment of appreciation can undo weeks of silent resentment.

So tell me, what’s one thing you appreciate about your partner (or your life) in this moment? 💭l

09/10/2025

🔇 If you've ever said "Did you even hear what I just said?" this will change everything. Read more: https://imagorelationship.co.za/why-your-partner-doesnt-hear-you-and-its-not-what-you-think/