Openchair - Counselling Service

04/07/2019

"You can't change people.
You can change your expectations.
You can set boundaries and make decisions about how much time and effort you give. You can refocus your attention. You can practice acceptance and letting go.

But you can't mold someone into who you want or need them to be. You can't force them to make a shift before they're ready. You can't ask them to become someone different than who they authentically are. You shouldn't have to. And that can be a painful truth to sit with. That no matter how much you beg and explain things. No matter how many times you say what you need and communicate what hurts, that a person you care about can't show up for you in the way you need.
That sometimes, there's no one to blame and nothing to fix."
—Daniell Koepke - Internal Acceptance Movement - I AM


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31/05/2019

The WHO has defined burnout as a medical syndrome “resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.”

17/05/2019

That's it. Just be kind to yourself.

12/05/2019

Mothers, you are heros and huge influencers of society. Keep doing what works well for you and your family.

19/04/2019

Even little things we do for ourselves can end up making a big difference.

Even little things we do for ourselves can end up making a big difference

19/04/2019

Past success stories are clues to get the future we want.

Past success stories are clues to get the future we want.

09/04/2019

Challenge three is also free. What would your ideal be?

Challenge three is also free. What would your ideal be?

05/04/2019

Take a moment and have a think. Any step in the direction of happiness is progress and worth the effort. Here is the first of many daily challenges.

05/04/2019

Challenge number two just for you. How do you feel after thinking about your strength and what makes you you?

02/04/2019

Do you agree with the article? What do you want in life? What would your life look like if you did?

This winter, I conducted a survey to my awesome community probing a number of critical life and career questions. 700 people have responded so far...

20/01/2019

13/02/2017

The reason? We can never take over another person’s freedom to choose. Once we understand this, we never go back to thinking we can. We get in touch with how we were designed to fit in the universe. People are not robots; they are free to choose what they want and what they will do and what they won’t do.

When we realize that, we stop trying to do what will never work, which is trying to change people into something they do not want to be or convince them to do something they do not what to do. It never works. While we can influence them, ultimately we cannot change them.