Randburg Counselling Centre #LetsTalk

08/09/2025

"When children become accustomed to relationships requiring no emotional labor, they might turn away from real human connections, finding them difficult and unrewarding."

07/09/2025

“Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illnesses in America today,” Arthur C. Brooks writes. The key to conquering feelings of dread may be seeing it as part of “the great opportunity and adventure of life.” https://theatln.tc/Ka8yfHHe

In the 19th century, the Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard identified anxiety as “an adventure which every man has to affront.” To most people, anxiety seems like something to eliminate if at all possible. But for some, “within healthy boundaries and when properly managed, anxiety is an integral part of life that can afford learning, raise performance, and even make life an adventure.”

Although anxiety can seem, at any level, like an “unmitigated evil,” Brooks writes, “anecdotal accounts also attest to some upside to feeling anxious: Even people who experience what is generally regarded as a debilitating level have noted that they derive some emotional benefits from their anxiety.” Some people have found that anxiety can raise one’s awareness of others, promote empathy, and bring one greater self-knowledge.

As for a Kierkegaardian adventure, research suggests that when people are given a task, and feel some level of anxiety but are not overwhelmed by it, their “flow” states reach their highest levels. “Perhaps you can relate to feeling fully alive when you’re working within your abilities but are just on the edge of them,” Brooks explains. The idea of adventure can also be philosophical: Researchers have found that although people do not wish to relive stressful events, they later tend to report various benefits from their exposure to anxiety. “They felt freed from limitations imposed by their past life,” Brook writes, and “had a clearer understanding of life’s meaning.”

A disorder such as anxiety that involves dysregulated and debilitating anxiety “should not be minimized,” Brooks writes. “But anxiety per se is not the enemy; it can even be a friend if understood and managed correctly.” The first step is to accept anxiety as a normal occurrence, not suppress it.

🎨: Jan Buchczik

07/09/2025

Parents, remember…

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SADAG - South African Depression and Anxiety Group

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